When your soulmate is married to someone else, you may wonder if the universe is playing a sick joke on you.
Your meeting had so much intensity. The connection is undeniable to both of you. Everything would be perfect if one, or both of you, wasn’t MARRIED.
You weren’t looking to fall in love with some who is not single, but you did. Neither of you may have thought something like this could happen, but here you are.
YOU’RE PERFECT TOGETHER BUT…
Your soul connection is powerful and you believe they complete you. They have told you about their marriage. Spouses can grow apart and that’s what happened to them. Perhaps they married for the wrong reasons and it never was a good match. The questions begin to run through your mind.
Could they be at a point where they’re looking to get out of their marriage? Or are they just looking for an affair? Your soulmate may have many excuses as to why they haven’t left their current partner. They may have children together, a business together or have financial ties that are hard to unravel.
This person, you know is your soulmate, is unavailable. This is one of the most difficult dilemmas for soulmate relationship. You meet a soulmate, but they are married to someone else. Now what?
When your soulmate is married you don’t have a lot of options. You can either have an affair or keep them on the back burner until they’re free. Each of these options run their individual risks.
SHOULD YOU HAVE AN AFFAIR?
If you enter into an affair, you will invest your emotions and time in this relationship. It could take months, years, or decades until your soulmate leaves their current partner. On the other hand, they many never divorce and you will be their secret lover for a long time.
You hope one day they will find the courage to leave. They may tell you it’s the plan but they could be stringing you along. They may be fearful of the unpleasant experience of a divorce so they keep putting it off with excuses. You may be enabling them to stay by accepting these excuses for too long.
Before getting into an affair, hoping to get more down the line, you need to know how they feel about the situation. Do they really recognize a soulmate connection? And what course of action are they willing to take?
It has to go both ways or you shouldn’t even think of starting an affair. Before getting in over over your head, you need to think about what the future really holds for the two of you. You need to have some time frames discussed between the two of you. Plans should be made, not just always put on hold.
SHOULD YOU WAIT IT OUT?
Your next option will be to wait it out. Stand on the sidelines. Give it some time and see if their marriage thrives or ends without your involvement.
Sometimes being involved with your soulmate keeps them in their marriage. Since they have it all, they feel no need to file for divorce. They are content with just an affair because they have you in their life. Entering into an affair can actually enable them to stay married.
WHY THE UNIVERSE DID THIS
So why would God, the Universe or the Divine, really bring a married soulmate into your life? Actually there are many reasons for this.
A soulmate brings about life lessons and personal growth. It has something to do with an aspect of your lives that need assessing and resolving. You may think you’re ready for a truly committed relationship with someone. If your soulmate is married, it makes it very difficult to have one.
Perhaps you’re at a place in your life where you’re not truly available for a relationship. So you attract someone who is not available either. On the other hand, maybe you’re having a lesson on your own self-worth, by refusing to allow yourself to be second fiddle.
Perhaps this is a lesson in setting boundaries by refusing to be a low priority for your married soulmate because you just value yourself too much. You may have to be strong and tell them no romantic relationship until they begin the process of ending their marriage.
For the married soulmate, perhaps it’s to serve as the catalyst for change and/or to expose the reality of their own life. If they’re miserable in their marriage, they should look closely and decide if they want to continue living a lie.
If not, they can either end it to be with you or decide to give their marriage a try to see if it can get any better. Whatever the cause, the crossing of your paths is not coincidence. There is a deeper meaning here for having a married soulmate in your life.
Do you have experiences with a married soulmate? We would love to hear from you in our comments section below.
Originally posted on 2012-07-03 @ 1:09 pm