Why am I miserable in my soulmate relationship?
This is a thought many people experience on a daily basis.
Some believe soulmate relationships are those forged with long walks on the beach, candlelit dinners for two and endless nights of passionate sex.
Unfortunately, this is highly unrealistic.
We fantasize that one day our long missing soulmate will show up at our front door, shouting those words we long to hear, “You complete me!” Again, this is just wishful thinking.
WHY AM I MISERABLE IF WE’RE SOULMATES?
Soulmate relationships are not intended to be a walk in the park. If you’re in a soulmate relationship, you might be facing some challenges.
Your soulmate is in your life to encourage personal growth and spiritual awakening. This growth will take a lot of strength and courage. Soulmate life lessons can be difficult. The choices the pair makes determines just how difficult they will be.
The first few months may be wonderful. But the rest of the time you feel like you’re stepping close to insanity. Your soulmate refuses to work on the relationship. And they won’t seek any help they need from a professional. They’re unwilling to do anything to improve the dynamics of the relationship.
IF YOU’RE SO UNHAPPY WHY DO YOU STAY?
Why do people continue stay in such horrible situations? Usually the reply we hear is, “Because they are my soulmate.” Some people believe they have no choice but to stay in a relationship due to their soulmate contract.
Even though they try to detach from the relationship, they insist the connection reels them back in. They feel it’s their purpose to make excuses for this person. And they think their misery is part of their destiny.
But does the Universe truly want you to be miserable? Of course not!
It really all comes down to choices. And even in soulmate relationships you have to take on responsibility for the choices you make.
You’re miserable because you choose to not make dramatics changes of your own.
You could instead choose to end your misery by finally no longer enabling them. The Universe is only responsible for bringing soulmates together. The choices you each make in your journey are what defines the relationship.
Divine intervention can only do so much. Your soulmate is making the choice to make you miserable. What choice are you going to make?
MAYBE IT’S TIME FOR TOUGH LOVE
You don’t have to remain in a relationship that’s no longer serving you. There’s a saying that misery loves company. If your partner is unhappy and going through their own depression, you could be feeling some of that as well. And if they’re unwilling to address it or get professional help, things will stay stuck. Or get worse.
You may need to take some time apart or give them an ultimatum. Don’t give in to the misery. Empower yourself and get tough. No longer will you put up with mistreatment. No more lies, no more cheating, no more on/off nonsense, no more broken promises.
The Universe doesn’t want you to be unhappy.
You can, however, allow yourself to stay stuck until you realize you’ve had enough. You won’t incur any negative karma from refusing to put up with bad behavior. You’re not violating any law of the Universe by standing up to someone that batters your self esteem and self worth.
Sure you may love your soulmate. But you need to love yourself as well. Perhaps standing in your power and changing what is disempowering you is what the universe wants you to do.
Originally posted on 2012-06-03 @ 9:48 pm