When Your Soulmate is Married to Someone Else

When you soulmate is married to someone else, you may very often feel as if your world is often falling apart. Your meeting was with great intensity. And you both recognize the connection. But you wonder if you will ever truly be able to be a couple. You aren’t looking to fall in love with some who is married, but you did.


Your soul connection is intense and you believe they complete you in some way. You wonder what their marriage is really like. Could they be at a point where they’re looking to get out of their marriage? Or are they just looking for an affair. They may have children together, a business together or have financial ties that are hard to unravel. You wonder if the universe has a wicked sense of humor and playing tricks on you. This person, you know is your soulmate, is unavailable. This is one of the most difficult dilemmas for soulmate relationship. You meet your soulmate, but your soulmate is married to someone else.

When your soulmate is married you don’t have a lot of options. You can either 1) have an affair or 2) keep them on the back burner until they are free. Each of these options run their individual risks.


If you enter into an affair, you may invest your emotions in this relationship. It could take months, years, or decades until your soulmate leaves their current partner. On the other hand, they many never divorce and you would be their secret lover for the rest of your life.

When Your Soulmate is Married to Someone Else

When Your Soulmate is Married to Someone Else

You hope one day they will find the courage to leave. They may tell you it’s the plan, but they could be lying. They might say they have an open marriage and it’s perfectly acceptable for you to be together because you’re soulmates. And since it’s an open marriage their partner won’t care. Before getting into an affair, hoping to get more down the line, you need to know how they feel about the situation. Do they really recognize a soulmate connection? And what course of action are they willing to take?

It has to go both ways or you shouldn’t even think of starting an affair. Before getting in over over your head and falling deeply in love, you need to think about what the future really holds for the two of you. You need to think about what could happen if everything works out. But you should also consider what could go wrong. Because this is where you will be truly challenged in this relationship.


Your next option will be to wait it out. Give it some time and see if their marriage thrives or ends without your involvement. Sometimes being involved with your soulmate keeps them in their marriage. Because they have it all. Even though you want to spend time with your soulmate, it actually enables them to stay married. They have the best of both worlds.

You certainly run the risk of them staying married longer or staying forever. Your soul connection may not have been your choice. But what you choose to do about a married soulmate, is up to you. There is a right and wrong path for every situation. If you’re in an affair, or contemplating getting into one, you need to make sure you choose the right path.


So why would God, the Universe or the Divine, really bring a married soulmate into your life? There are many reasons for this actually. And since soulmates are about life lessons and personal growth, it has something to do with an aspect of your lives that need assessing and resolving. You may think you’re ready for a truly committed relationship with someone. But when your soulmate is married, it makes it very difficult to have a committed relationship.

Perhaps you’re at a place in your life where you are not truly available for a relationship. So you attract someone who is not available either. On the other hand maybe you’re having a lesson on your own self worth, by refusing to allow yourself to be second fiddle. Perhaps this is a lesson in setting boundaries by refusing to be a booty call for your married soulmate because you just value yourself too much.

For the married soulmate, perhaps it’s to serve as the catalyst for change to expose the reality of their own life. If they’re miserable in their marriage, they should look closely and decide if they want to continue living a lie. If not, they can either end it to be with you, or decide to give their marriage everything to see if it can get any better. Whatever the cause, the crossing of your paths is not coincidence. There is a deeper meaning here for having a married soulmate in your life.

Do you have experiences with a married soulmate? We love hearing from you in our comments section below.


  1. Hi,
    So I will share part of my story too as I found my soulmate.
    He know and I know that we are soulmates..he knew it straight away but I didn’t recognised what was going on when we met (it was on our 4th met) there was very strange day and the universe and sky wanted for us to know…so it was a huge…!!! Can’t tell the details…
    I didn’t realised that all this meant that the universe telling us we found each other…I found an article by accident that which explained everything we have ‘heard’ And experienced.
    He is married unfortunately. We met one year after our encounter…
    I was soooo gutted and he was and is still gutted but what we can do. Nothing really.
    Sometimes it’s hard because I think life it’s about living with the purpose of your life and soulmate is a source, our other half, any other man is just a ‘play-around’…
    It’s like I know for example that I was meant to be a writer and I work as a nanny so the nanny job it’s not my fulfilled job…if that makes sense.

    Sometimes it’s really hard as I when I hugged my last boyfriend I wished I was hugging my soulmate…I am not thinking about if I would Mamy to marry!? I can’t see standing by the alter with anyone else that my soulmate…
    Although as I mentioned he is married and I’m not wanting him to leave him marriage as he is catholic, and I am 36 and want to get married and have kids so I am sure I will find a man who can love me and respect me because I won’t stay single until whatever age and miss out out on life because my soulmate is married.
    Not sure why the universe have send me him as a married person but it’s ok. I’m trying to finite it out and just doing my thing.
    If he will come to my life as my boyfriend and husband as one point that would be just so beautiful otherwise, what can I do…nothing. I guess I can just be grateful for this.

    Sometimes I am allowing him to see me, but we never speak (we never spoke before…-long story and can’t tell more! Sorry )because when he knows I’m around his eyes sparkle and he just lights up and is just happy from inside!!!
    This is my gift from me to him.

    That’s all…
    Thank you for the article!
    Lots of love!

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    I think my soul mate is my first love. My high school boyfriend. It’s been years since I’ve seen him or talked with him. Before this we were in and out of each others lives. Every time we reconnected it was on a different level than with anyone else before. He makes me happy. He makes me laugh. He makes me smile. I love him. I had a dream about him last night as I often do and it lead me to this website because I’m so torn as to why I still feel the way I do about him. He got married this past June. Before his wedding I kept hoping and wishing something would happen. He would reach out. He would seek me out. They would end it before the wedding. This didn’t happen. So now the man I believe is my soul mate is married to another woman. I’m stuck here thinking, am I crazy? What is wrong with me? Is this one sided? Does he dream about me? Does he wonder about me? Does he think of me? Am I ever going to be able to get rid of these feelings I have for me? Why would god do this? Should I have faith he’ll come back eventually? The 2 relationships I was in after high school, I thought of him. When both of them asked me to marry them (at different times of course) I had doubts and was hesitant because I thought of him. He has played a part in both relationships. They both knew that I loved him still. I don’t understand why my life in turning out this way? Why did he get to move on and get married but I’m still stuck in our love? I just don’t get it and I pray I either can let him go for good or that he gives me a sign that he feels the same way.

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  11. Is my current husband my soul mate?

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  12. Well, this site is encouraging. I have never believed in soulmates, and the verdict is still out tbh. But something is going on. Was introduced to a girl recently, and I felt as though I didn’t know what I was looking at for a moment. Very difficult to put into words. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her. There is definitely an unexplainable, eerie, connection between us. I’ve never experienced anything like it. It scares the hell out of me. She has a fiance, and I have a girlfriend of 8 years. I’ve had crushes before, and this is no crush. The thought of not having her in my life is absolutely terrifying. We’ve only known each other for two weeks. It simply should not be this way! We attempt to get away and see each other whenever possible. We have spent an inordinate amount of time together over the past two weeks, and it feels like we were made for each other. There is no other way to put it. It’s uncanny. The topic of soulmates actually came up in conversation within the first couple of hours. I can’t remember what prompted it. What scares me the most, is that I feel like I have no choice whatsoever but to continue down this path knowing that it may destroy other people. All I know for sure, is that, if I lost her, I feel like I would be losing a part of myself. I have never felt this strongly about anything else ever in my 40 years. It is very unsettling. I really feel for others in this comment section who have much more difficult situations than mine. I wish you all the best.

    • I’m happy to hear your story…
      I think life is too short to be someone else that your other half.
      I would leave any relationship even if I would be with Prince William 🙂 for my soulmate. As your soulmate it’s the source of what is life about.
      If I feel like I was born to write books but I somehow ended up working in corporate, I would get the courage together and shake my life to its core so I can find my soulmate next to me from now on till the rest of my and his days.
      Other life would be just a duplicate of what you and your soulmate would be like. No matter if my No-soulmate relationship would be 8 years or a month.
      I would just ended. Simple as that.
      I’ve spend the last 15 years just strolling down my life, without much purpose so I’ve learned what the most important in this short yet beautiful life and love it’s all we need!!!!
      All the best.
      You are courageous!!!

  13. I was in the same situation and searching for people with same pan to see what they did, I. found a married twin flame!!! :((( As i read this all entries here, most of the twin flame MEN doesn’t recognize you! they are married first, then dey cant live theyr children.. as in my situation.. he told me he is married after we met. So i told him i will not be the scond woman in his life, and also i cant do something to a woman when i dont want to be cheted later in an marriage. now we are not talking since 6 moths, and he blocket me everywhere on 12.06.2019… i just wait.. i have done the right thing, and i have a clean karma! the crossing of our paths is not a coincidence ..
    i live in Türkiye.. but my heart is with all the seperetat twin flames around the world.. Love from İstanbul

  14. Appreciate you guys for writing this. Glad I found this article. Blessings to you both.

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