When you soulmate is married to someone else, you may very often feel as if your world is often falling apart. Your meeting was with great intensity. And you both recognize the connection. But you wonder if you will ever truly be able to be a couple. You aren’t looking to fall in love with some who is married, but you did.
YOU’RE PERFECT TOGETHER BUT…
Your soul connection is intense and you believe they complete you in some way. You wonder what their marriage is really like. Could they be at a point where they’re looking to get out of their marriage? Or are they just looking for an affair. They may have children together, a business together or have financial ties that are hard to unravel. You wonder if the universe has a wicked sense of humor and playing tricks on you. This person, you know is your soulmate, is unavailable. This is one of the most difficult dilemmas for soulmate relationship. You meet your soulmate, but your soulmate is married to someone else.
When your soulmate is married you don’t have a lot of options. You can either 1) have an affair or 2) keep them on the back burner until they are free. Each of these options run their individual risks.
SHOULD YOU HAVE AN AFFAIR?
If you enter into an affair, you may invest your emotions in this relationship. It could take months, years, or decades until your soulmate leaves their current partner. On the other hand, they many never divorce and you would be their secret lover for the rest of your life.
You hope one day they will find the courage to leave. They may tell you it’s the plan, but they could be lying. They might say they have an open marriage and it’s perfectly acceptable for you to be together because you’re soulmates. And since it’s an open marriage their partner won’t care. Before getting into an affair, hoping to get more down the line, you need to know how they feel about the situation. Do they really recognize a soulmate connection? And what course of action are they willing to take?
It has to go both ways or you shouldn’t even think of starting an affair. Before getting in over over your head and falling deeply in love, you need to think about what the future really holds for the two of you. You need to think about what could happen if everything works out. But you should also consider what could go wrong. Because this is where you will be truly challenged in this relationship.
SHOULD YOU WAIT IT OUT?
Your next option will be to wait it out. Give it some time and see if their marriage thrives or ends without your involvement. Sometimes being involved with your soulmate keeps them in their marriage. Because they have it all. Even though you want to spend time with your soulmate, it actually enables them to stay married. They have the best of both worlds.
You certainly run the risk of them staying married longer or staying forever. Your soul connection may not have been your choice. But what you choose to do about a married soulmate, is up to you. There is a right and wrong path for every situation. If you’re in an affair, or contemplating getting into one, you need to make sure you choose the right path.
WHY THE UNIVERSE DID THIS
So why would God, the Universe or the Divine, really bring a married soulmate into your life? There are many reasons for this actually. And since soulmates are about life lessons and personal growth, it has something to do with an aspect of your lives that need assessing and resolving. You may think you’re ready for a truly committed relationship with someone. But when your soulmate is married, it makes it very difficult to have a committed relationship.
Perhaps you’re at a place in your life where you are not truly available for a relationship. So you attract someone who is not available either. On the other hand maybe you’re having a lesson on your own self worth, by refusing to allow yourself to be second fiddle. Perhaps this is a lesson in setting boundaries by refusing to be a booty call for your married soulmate because you just value yourself too much.
For the married soulmate, perhaps it’s to serve as the catalyst for change to expose the reality of their own life. If they’re miserable in their marriage, they should look closely and decide if they want to continue living a lie. If not, they can either end it to be with you, or decide to give their marriage everything to see if it can get any better. Whatever the cause, the crossing of your paths is not coincidence. There is a deeper meaning here for having a married soulmate in your life.
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