Top 10 Reasons Soulmates Separate

Soulmates separate for a variety of reasons. Sometimes they reunite, at other times the separation is permanent.

Every soulmate relationship is different but the common ground is that they all possess an intense connection. It’s quite common with soulmate relationships for there to be a period of separation for the couple.

This is one of the misconceptions when it comes to soulmates so these separations tend to come with shock and surprise. So why do soulmates separate?

1. Timing

One reason soulmates separate is they came together at an inopportune time. For instance, one or both partners may be in marriages or relationships at the time they meet. There may be a need for a separation to end current relationships so they can be free to pursue their soulmate

2. Intense connection

The intensity of the connection may prove to be too overwhelming for some people. A soulmate connection is not something you understand until you experience it. This intensity may cause soulmates to separate for a time until they’re ready to accept and deal with a deep spiritual union.

Top 10 Reasons Soulmates Separate
Top 10 Reasons Soulmates Separate

3. Individual lessons

The lessons some soulmates need to learn must be learned apart and not while together in a soulmate relationship. They need to have life lessons and experiences for their personal growth which can’t be accomplished while in the relationship. They need to do this alone.

4. Mirroring

Another reason soulmates separate is because soulmate relationships bring out the best, or the worst, in couples. Soulmates serve as a mirror. So they reflect back to us the things within our lives or character we must work on to live more authentically.

This is hard as most of us to don’t like to see our reflections through our soulmate’s eyes. Sometimes the damage and drama is so overwhelming that a break or separation is necessary.

5. Doesn’t believe in soulmates

Not everyone believes in the concept of soulmates, nor are they searching for one. When faced with a soul connection, and the fear of losing control of guarded emotions, they bolt.  They refuse to acknowledge soulmates exist and do everything they can to disprove it. But in truth, they’re well aware they feel the connection. They just don’t understand what it is.

So they decide it’s better to stay safe by running, than be sorry they gave in to their emotions and embrace their soulmate. They often turn their back on the relationship and seek out something more safe. It’s more comfortable to be in a relationship where there’s very little risk.

6. Overanalyzing everything

Some soulmates over analyze every little fight or spat. This can make mountains out of mole hills. Most soulmates experience very high highs, and very low lows. And this can make them appear to be bipolar.

When the connection is flowing well and all is groovy, they’re on top of their game. When there are problems in the relationship, they sink to the depths of despair.  Some will totally disconnect from their daily lives. A little argument can easily end up being an epic battle that gets completely out of control. Soulmates have a hard time finding middle ground and may very well separate during these lows.

7.  Expectations

Unrealistic expectations will come with soulmate relationships. It’s extremely rare to find a perfectly blissful soulmate union. Soulmate couples are usually more volatile than mundane relationships.

We often see unrealistic expectations materialize the minute someone believes they find their soulmate. After just one date, they’re very often planning a wedding. Or they’re looking forward to a life of eternal bliss in perfect harmony. They’re completely devastated at the first sign of trouble because they expect this union to be perfect. This may lead them to believe this is a false soulmate connection and decide to separate.

8. Completing karmic journey

Soulmates separate because their karmic journey together is complete. You have done what was required of you and now it’s time to move on. Soulmates come together for a reason or a season but very rarely a lifetime. They challenge us, force us to grow, serve as a catalyst to create change or put us on the path of spirituality.

When the lesson is achieved, the reason for having this soulmate in your life comes to an end. Maybe you feel the lesson hasn’t been completed. If so it’s possible it involves how you handle soulmate separation.

9.  Taking a time out

Sometimes separating from your soulmate is the best thing you can do. If they’ve been abusing your connection and your love taking a break will restore your self-respect. Many times soulmates need to separate just to give the relationship a chance to succeed. Separation will give you distance and space from each other.

Many soulmates feel the need to hang on, or insist they can’t let go, because of the intense connection. But it’s  is crucial for you to take a break before more damage is done.

10. Fears and insecurities

The Universe may separate you to reveal issues you should address. For instance, if you have trust issues, your soulmate may get a six month temporary job assignment in another country. You’re being shown, by the Universe, now is the time to deal with your trust issues. This is very important for your own personal development and soul refinement. It’s up to you to create a change within yourself instead of letting this issue cause problems in your relationship.

Soulmate separations are a very challenging time. During these difficult periods the best course of action is to focus on yourself. Focus on your spiritual journey and personal growth. Dwelling on your soulmate will be counterproductive and you could find yourself in the deep, dark abyss of soulmate obsession. This will not help you or your relationship.

Originally posted on 2015-01-22 @ 1:59 pm

14 thoughts on “Top 10 Reasons Soulmates Separate”

  1. Hi I always felt my husband and I were soulmates we knew exactly what each other was going to do before we did it we knew how to push each others buttons every time we separate it would be we were pick up right back where we left off we can never split up for longer than a few weeks one of us would always give in 4 months ago my husband said he was leaving it was the best for both of us it was no signs no argument we have been together almost 14 years married for over 10 I still just don’t understand he totally cut me out of his life

  2. Hi my soulmate and I have been fighting a lot these days .. And looks like he has lost it for me totally … I can feel my soulmate drifting away and am unable to bear the pain . How do I cope up

  3. My soulmate and I seperated again. Each time we do its more and more times between seeing one another again. First 3 months now its up past a year with out so much as a word. But when he does each time its to help me or save me when im in my depths. I miss him. I hate him. He feels like my brother but he and i have children. Its not intimate love its past that. He feels like my home.

    • I know this Feeling so well. Our separation was only two days the first time. then it was a month, then two months. Now it’s been a month Into what I believe is our final separation. I am demolished and I’m sure she is too. But I don’t think we will come together again. I don’t know how to handle it.

  4. Dear Lady Sarah and Sophia Elsie, I have ready through your top 10 soul mate separation, and it is so true . Love and Light Lorraine .

  5. Hi,
    I am in the unfortunate situation of being separated from whom I believe to be my soul mate, even though I did not realize it at the time it became clear to me after 4yrs of being apart that I feel like a mere shadow of the man I used to be while with my soul mate.

    There isn’t a single second of the day that she’s not on my mind, I have met many other lovely people during this time but unfortunately I have realized that the thirst of my soul could only be quenched by one.

    One the last day that we spoke she was crying and kissed me saying” I will always be in love with you” and I replied” I have given you my heart forever and I will wait ten years for you” being a bodyguard by profession I completely understand the concept of total loyalty and commitment.

    It has now been 4yrs and my bond and devotion is as strong as ever, I have not spoken with or seen her in 4yrs I refuse to interfere in her life, and believe that when her time is right we will be together again.

    although painful I remain faithful to my promise.

  6. Hello,
    I was engaged 6 months ago but broke up with my fiancee. I somehow felt we’re soulmates because he had the same characteristics as m, and we’re just same in most way. 1 day I thought of him, and that moment I had received a call from him that moment
    But my heart told me that he didn’t love me truly, and I wish I had listened to it. he sometimes calls me saying he’s sorryfor what he had done . But are we really connected somehow? Are we soulmates or twin flames?

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