Soulmate obsession is very real and sometimes that strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. When people finally meet their soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much, too soon, for their soulmate and desire the relationship move along quickly so they can get to what they perceive to be the finish line. They are so excited the one they searched and hoped for is finally a part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate all the chaos and upheaval that can come with a soulmate relationship.
When these problems arise, and more often than not they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you have read our many articles, you will know that soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short, occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of the soulmates can become obsessed with their partners every breath, thought, feeling and action. They feel that if they have this information they will have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless, to help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate has not found someone else.
They become more concerned with what is going on with their soulmate than what is transpiring in their own lives. Every little tidbit of information gleaned from social media, their friends or even stalking, they enhance and elaborate on with their imagination. This is not what the universe wants. The universe brings soulmates together to learn important life lessons and provide personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they are doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate because you are too focused on them rather than working on yourself.
Soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel they have waited forever and want to find them as quickly as possible, because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially and so does their disappointment and negativity. This obsession with “when will I meet my soul mate” doesn’t help anything. In actuality, it can hurt. How can you expect to attract your soul mate when you are sending out so much negativity? Since you are not in charge of when your soul mate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That is their decision, not yours. So why try to take control over the universe by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there is one for you, let go of the “when”, because that is in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?
The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connected relationship with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest. As we mentioned, this is not the time to stalk their social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself. The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It is better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of your soulmate relationship and make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better, it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. This is the time to spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you, seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.
The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it is better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It is the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.
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