Realistic expectations in soulmate relationships are very important. It’s nice to fantasize about your soulmate. And that the relationship will be a picture perfect love with very little or no drama. But without realistic expectations in soulmate relationships one can wind up completely blindsided and unprepared for what is to come.
REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS AFTER THE HONEYMOON PHASE
When you meet your soulmate, there may often be a honeymoon phase. But there will always come a time when challenges will be faced. When you don’t have realistic expectations regarding your soulmate, and the relationship, you won’t be able to face those challenges head on. Instead you will become an enabler of bad behavior.
And you’ll ignore every red flag, or find any excuse, to avoid the reality of the situation. You can get so caught up in the magic of the connection there’s a tendency to ignore real problems and issues. Some people even believe the connection will solve all the problems by itself. Or that the universe will step in with divine intervention and fix everything.
This is simply not realistic. And it’s not going to happen. After the initial meeting soulmates want to spend every waking minute with or talking to their soulmate. But there has to be a reality check. You can’t live on soulmate love alone. You need a job and you need to do your daily activities. And you also need to attend to relationships with family and friends.
REALITY SETS IN
So, a realistic expectation would be in the knowledge there’s an adjustment period. Now both soulmates need to find a way to incorporate their new relationship into the lives they’ve already built. Don’t take it personally and don’t get offended. But also don’t stay stuck on the fantasy that it will always be like it was in the beginning. It’s romantic to think you’ll become each other’s total life. But in truth you will be a huge part of each other’s lives.
It’s common for soulmates to always feel a certain level of chemistry for their duration of their relationship. That doesn’t mean they never have disagreements or fights. Soulmates are human too. And humans make mistakes and have conflict. It’s unrealistic to think you and your soulmate will have a perfect relationship, because you’re not perfect people. A realistic expectation would be that yes, you will have problems just like other people. But you can get through them with if you both work together to resolve them.
NO ONE SHOULD EXPECT BAD BEHAVIOR
There’s another unrealistic expectation we really feel the need to discuss in this article. Many people are stuck on a misconception they should expect bad behavior in their soulmate relationship. Some people will tell you pain is the only way to learn and grow in a soulmate relationship. This should not be a realistic expectation.
It is damaging, dangerous and a LIE. You, and everyone else on earth can learn and grow from positive reinforcement. There’s truly no need for chaos, drama or anything else negative to learn or evolve. It’s a CHOICE. So you can pick the easy way or the hard way. It’s as simple as that.
Please don’t think pain, suffering and mistreatment are realistic expectations in soulmate relationships. They are not badges of honor to wear. You can always make the choice not to engage in lower level behaviors. And you don’t have to put up with anything you don’t deserve. You’re supposed to remain strong, not weak. If you truly have faith in your soulmate connection, the next step is to have faith in yourself and in doing the right thing.