Self-esteem is the basis of how you see yourself, your life, and so much more. When you have low self-esteem it will negatively impact your soulmate relationship. And it will also cause you to make poor choices when your soulmate is involved. Unless you begin some serious work on your your low self-esteem, it will most likely sink lower and lower. How can a person raise their self-esteem to a higher level? Here are ten ways you can improve your self-esteem and improve your soulmate relationships at the same time.
1. Listen to your inner voice.
A great first step to improve your self-esteem is by listening to your inner voice. Have you been your own worst enemy by being too critical and judging yourself too harshly? If the answer is yes, now is the time to quiet that negativity and replace it with positive reinforcement. Stop blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong between you and your soulmate. Try and judge the facts as an outsider and stop making excuses for them. And stop taking on the responsibility for issues that you’re not responsible for. Both you are your soulmate are grownups. So each of you need to take responsibility for your words and actions. They’re no one else’s responsibility but your own.
2. Stop pursuing perfection.
Don’t pursue perfection to improve your self-esteem. Life is not perfect and neither are people. And this includes YOU. Change your goal of achieving perfection with a goal of “the best you can”. The best you can is a realistic goal. But perfection is unrealistic, and sets you up for failure. Seeking perfection can sabotage soulmate relationships. And soulmate relationships are far from perfect.
3. Three positives daily.
When your day has come to a close, take the time to think of three positive things you did that day. It doesn’t matter how minor, just three positive or productive things you accomplished. This simple exercise can help improve your self-esteem by focusing on positive things at the end of the day. And this allows you to start your next day on a positive note and clean slate.
4. Sense of humor.
Find your sense of humor and use it. When things do wrong or you make mistakes, rather than criticize yourself, laugh it off. A sense of humor can help little things from becoming more melodramatic than they need to be. A sense of humor, as opposed to a sense of drama, makes your soulmate relationship run smoother.
5. Check the people in your life.
A very important tip is to make an inventory of the people around you. If you’ve surrounded yourself with negative people, it’s no wonder your self-esteem suffers. It’s time to remove those who sabotage your self-esteem. Don’t be afraid to let them go. Seek out more positive people to replace them now you have more room in your life. No one needs negative, sabotaging friends or family members making you second guess your soulmate relationship or yourself. Is someone interfering in your soulmate relationship? Stop trying to deal with them and simply let them go. And don’t feel bad about it. Because it’s not your job to tolerate their bad behavior or attitude
6. Be honest with yourself.
What in your life is truly making you unhappy or dissatisfied? Your job? Could it be your soulmate relationship? Financial situation? Whatever the case, the first step is to identify it. But not dwell on it. Let’s say your job makes you so unhappy. The first step would be to do all you can to make things better or more positive. If you find there’s nothing you can do, don’t get upset. And don’t blame yourself. You did all you can and the best you can.
Now is the time to do something about it, and look for another job. Don’t succumb to fear of the unknown. But find strength in the known! And that’s realizing you deserve better than the job you have. If they won’t see your worth you will find a place that can. It’s not your failure, and it’s not bad luck. This happens to tons of people. It’s just a job, so don’t emotionally attach yourself to it. Taking control of your situation is empowering. And way better than feeling powerless at a job where you can’t change anything for the better. Your negativity from work is affecting your soulmate relationship, whether you realize it or not.
7. Don’t focus on the negative.
Stop dwelling on your negative qualities unless you plan on changing them. It’s one thing to remind yourself that you could lose ten pounds. But only if you have a goal and are seriously working towards losing 10 pounds. But if you’re focusing on those 10 pounds while eating ice cream and making yourself feel worse, it is pointless. We all have room for improvement. But but that doesn’t mean we should not like ourselves as we are. We also all deserve love regardless of those negative qualities. If you remain focused only on your shortcomings you will force those you are involved in to focus on them as well.
8. Long-term and short-term goals.
Set some long-term large goals and some small short-term goals. Make two lists. Even if it’s something as simple as cleaning out your garage, organizing your closets or planting a new garden. Seeing yourself accomplishing smaller goals, don’t make the large ones seem so impossible or implausible. It changes your outlook to one of accomplishment, rather than feeling overwhelmed by so much to do.
The same thing holds true with soulmate relationships. Instead of lowering your self-esteem by feeling miserable because you haven’t met your soulmate, try to enjoy the process of dating. Each date, even if it’s a horrible one, brings you one step closer to finding your soulmate. Feel a sense of accomplishment that you’re doing something, rather than waiting for something. Coming from an empowering perspective will improve your self-esteem.
9. Connect to your soul.
Get in touch with your soul and your life’s purpose. Stop comparing your physical appearance, clothes, house, job and relationship, or lack thereof, with other people’s. Pull yourself out of the superficial. When you connect with your soul, and the soul of others, your self-esteem will improve. Volunteer to a cause that speaks to your soul to meet and interact with people who also connect to that cause. Being surrounded by that kind of energy can do wonders for your self-esteem and keep you grounded. This can also be a great way for a soulmate to enter your life as well.
10. Kick fear away.
Let go of fear and take a chance. What has your fear been holding you back from? Have you wanted to start a new job or business but been afraid to do so? Have you wanted to start a new hobby or take some courses but were afraid you won’t be able to learn it? It’s time to take risks so you can get the rewards. Understand that not all risks pay off, but that some of them WILL. If you don’t take a chance with a soulmate you will become a soulmate runner or saboteur. The connection is undeniable, so don’t waste your time denying it. Embrace the opportunity to have a relationship that you deserve.