Dwelling on your ex or past soulmate relationship is a special kind of torture.
Do you often find yourself dwelling on your ex? Is there constant hope and fantasies a past relationship will come back into your life?
Are you holding on to anything and everything that reminds you of a past soulmate and the time you spent together?
DWELLING AND DEPRESSION
After a breakup, it’s normal to feel sad, or even depressed. Ending a relationship, especially a soulmate relationship, is an emotionally difficult time. It’s common to spend several weeks, even months or years in some cases, mourning the loss of a soulmate or romantic partner.
At what point do you stop dwelling on your ex?
Constantly reliving your life with a romantic partner, long after it ends, is not healthy. It can actually create blockages to a new romantic partner or soulmate entering your life. And there may be a good chance they’re coming back anyway. You may be putting yourself through this torture for no reason.
If you dwell on your ex for an extended period of time, you’re living in the past. Living in the past is a form of grieving. You feel it was the only time in your life when you were truly happy. Living in the past by dwelling on your ex, prevents you from finding happiness in the present. Hoping and dreaming your ex will come back, and putting your life on hold while waiting, is not living in the present.
This behavior will create perpetual anxiety hoping for a reunion. But since you don’t know for certain, you live in anxiety and fear. Living like this on a daily basis takes a huge toll on every area of your life.
LIVING IN THE PRESENT, NOT THE PAST
One of the spiritual challenges for our lifetimes is to live in the moment. We are challenged to be fully present in our lives to do what we have to do. You only have so much energy or life force. Focusing on the past and what should have, could have, or would have been, robs you of that life force. You are so focused on those made up scenarios, you’re not present in your daily life.
IT’S NOT ALWAYS DWELLING
Your soulmate relationship may have ended, but your connection still remains. Memories and feelings of your soulmate suddenly flood your entire being, out of nowhere. This is very different from dwelling.
Perhaps you’re having thoughts, memories or even dreams of that soulmate because they’re getting ready to make another appearance in your life. This also indicates that they, more than likely, are thinking and even dreaming of you.
They could very well be wanting to communicating with you. But this is very different that dwelling. In this scenario you’re picking up telepathic messages and emotions from your ex. Some soulmates have this kind of telepathic and/or empathic connection.
Dwelling gets you nowhere.
It just keeps you stuck. In order to move forward, you have to think about creating a new future for yourself. If/when your soulmate comes back, have you learned anything in your time apart? Or, did you just trash your entire life, including your self-esteem? You need to do some positive work on yourself before your soulmate comes back. Otherwise, expect problems again, and even a possible break-up again.
Have you dwelled on your soulmate? What was your experience and how did you handle it? Comment below!
Originally posted on 2012-04-26 @ 4:40 pm