Soulmate depression is a lot like regular relationship depression. When things are not going well and chaos and drama are a part of daily life, it’s easy to understand why one would be in a state of depression. Of course you did not want things to get this bad. It sucks that you have tried everything you can think of to make your soulmate relationship better. It’s not fair that your soulmate left or refuses to deal with the strong connection the two of you share.
If your soulmate has ended your relationship your depression may be debilitating. So many soulmates take every argument to the extreme. One soulmate may make mountains out of mole hills and make all disagreements World War 3. The other soulmate may overact in their own way by thinking every time this happens they will break up and the relationship will be over. This cycle of behavior can easily bring on major depression.
When you allow your emotions to overwhelm you, which is easy in soulmate relationships, it is easy to fall into a state of soulmate depression. Creating an emotional distance from your own emotions is the best thing you can do. Take yourself out of what you feel and try to look at your relationship like an outsider would. Refrain from using the same old excuses to excuse yourself and your soulmate. Start speaking to yourself like a good friend would. Use though love. Use common sense. Use logic. Just stop using your emotions to make your decisions for you.
Something is not working on your end, and you have to find out what that is. Stop doing the same things looking for better results. That does not include just what you say and do towards your soulmate, but how you handle it within yourself internally. Stop with the melodrama. Stop letting your feelings take over all your thoughts. Stop worrying your relationship will be over or is over. Stop mourning the loss of your soulmate.
If you have broken up numerous times and got back together each time, what was the point of torturing yourself and going through soulmate depression when you didn’t have to? You went through it for nothing. It is time to come up with another way of handling your emotional triggers. If your soulmate has ended your relationship, the best thing you can do is allow yourself some time for healing. Don’t wallow in it, try to do what you can to distract yourself as best you can.
Look for something, anything, to bring yourself even a little bit of joy, even if it only lasts a minute or two. Don’t overeat, that will only make yourself feel worse when you are done and can contribute to the depression. Spend time with others, and don’t isolate yourself. If you must think of your soulmate, don’t focus on the wrong things. Wouldn’t it be more productive to think about what is right with the relationship, what they need (and you need) to change to make the relationship better if given another chance? Of course it would. Not all soulmates come back, but many, many do. Almost all soulmates have rough patches, and they can get through it. Do the best you can to draw your strength from the connection you have and use it to empower yourself going forward.