When your soulmate leaves you will feel lost, confused and helpless. The loss of any relationship is painful. But the loss of a soulmate can be devastating and difficult to work through. When your soulmate leaves your life, it can be for any number of reasons. These include:
1) exercising free will to end the relationship
2) ending your soulmate contract
3) taking an exit to leave the planet (pass away).
FEELS LIKE PART OF YOU IS DYING
Whatever the reason, a soulmate leaving is heartbreaking. When your soulmate leaves your life it feels part of you is dying. Your soul will feel ripped in two. Unfortunately, you will experience what we call soulmate separation anxiety. There will be many days of despair, resentment and sadness. You may even feel anger directed at or toward God, or the Divine. Why would the universe create this connection only for this to happen? It’s a question that sadly, many people ask themselves.
Before you drop into the pit of self-loathing by wondering what you did or said to make them leave, please remember there’s a reason for their departure. It may not make any sense to you at the moment. And it may in fact take months or years to understand. But in retrospect you will have the clarity you need to understand why they walked out of your life.
There are many reasons soulmates can walk out of your life. One the biggest reasons soulmates take off is due to their fear. A soulmate relationship will come with very close emotional intimacy. In the beginning it feels incredible to both of you. But as time goes on, one of you could become fearful of the connection. To have that close a bond to another human being can make the heartiest of souls feel vulnerable.
LOSS OF CONTROL
Others could fear the loss of control. When you’re closely tied to someone who knows everything about you some feel they’re relinquishing control. To some folks, this can be quite threatening.
Many people find vulnerability tough to work through. It makes them feel susceptible to being hurt, deeply. A person’s inner insecurities create the desire to run away. Think “fight or flight”. You may be willing to fight for the relationship, where they take off.
A soulmate could exit your life by exercising their free will and just don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. A soulmate can also decide if they wish to break their soulmate contract and move their life in a different direction. They have simply chosen to reject your soulmate connection. And they may not even know why, they just may desire to take a different path.
PULLING YOURSELF TOGETHER
After the tears, chocolates, tubs of ice cream and wine, it’s time to pull yourself together and move on with your life. How can you do that when you’re suffering so much turmoil? You just have to put on your big girl or big boy pants and take back your power. We’re not saying this will be easy. But millions of people, throughout the centuries, have this same experience.
One of the first things you will want to do is detach your energy from your missing soulmate. This is a good time to be gentle with yourself and honor your soul through the healing time. It won’t happen overnight, so please don’t expect it to.
When your soulmate leaves it can be permanent. But it can also be for just a period of time. More often than not this is what we see over and over again in most soulmate relationships. During this period of separation you’re each tasked with the challenge of learning valuable life lessons. So that if and when your relationship reunites, you have the growth you need to have a more successful relationship.
Originally posted on 2012-02-24 @ 8:33 pm