A soulmate contract is the ‘document’ you create and agree to with your soulmate, or you many soulmates, before you incarnate for this lifetime. It is the agreement you make with him or her to provide some of the valuable life lessons you will have which will further define your character. Whenever we are working to define our character, it can often take strength, courage and fortitude. Soulmate life lessons can be very difficult. Unfortunately they have to be because as humans we generally learn through painful experiences. Many people in soulmate relationships have often described to us what they perceive as intolerable suffering because their soulmate is mistreating them. They often describe the relationship as a giant emotional roller-coaster ride, or the fear they experience daily, wondering if their soulmate might break up with them. They describe how they have endured weeks, months and sometimes years of unhappiness and bad behavior with the person they love acting out, mistreating them and otherwise making their lives miserable.
When we ask them why they continue to stay in such horrible situations, the reply usually is because it is a soulmate relationship, they feel they have no choice, because of the soulmate contract. They insist it is about the connection, and even though they have tried to detach from the relationship, the soulmate keeps reeling them back in. Often they feel it is their purpose to love this person, allowing themselves to be mistreated, disappointed and unfulfilled, just because there is a soulmate contract. Often they give a soulmate much more slack than they would a regular relationship. Now do you think for one minute, the Divine really wants us to be mistreated, hurt and disappointed in our relationships and stay in situations that can become difficult, dangerous and even life threatening? Not so much.
The soulmate is obviously in your life for a reason. You are supposed to grow and evolve from your experiences with them. For example, lets say you have been in a romantic soulmate relationship for three years. Things were great for the first three months, but the remaining 2 years and 9 months have been difficult, painful and unfulfilled. No matter what you do to improve the relationship, it fails because the soulmate is unwilling to discuss, share or listen to ideas and suggestions to make the relationship better. You explain how your needs are not being met, but it falls on deaf ears or they just don’t care. Perhaps you need to evaluate the purpose of the relationship in relation to your soulmate contract.
You may be in a soulmate relationship, but that does not give your soulmate free license to treat you like crap! If they were not your soulmate, and just a normal, mundane relationship, you would probably not stand for that kind of behavior. So why are you allowing your soulmate to treat you that way? “Because they are my soulmate”, is not a strong enough answer! Perhaps it is time to assess your soulmate contract or soulmate agreement to ascertain just exactly what it is you are supposed to be learning. More than likely, the lesson is about staying in your power or taking your power back from a dysfunctional relationship. As I have already mentioned in a prior posting, The Most Common Soulmate Lessons, most soulmate relationships are to teach unconditional love, detachment and patience. Well, you can still unconditionally love someone without being in a relationship with them. Just unconditionally love them from afar.
If you are not happy in your romantic soulmate relationship, do you have to stay in it because of the soulmate contract? No. A soulmate contract can be fairly complicated as you each have agreed to provide and support each other through a series of life lessons and personal growth experiences. Perhaps your soulmate contract states you are to end relationships where you feel under-valued and unloved. Maybe you are supposed to walk away from a relationship with someone who regularly practices infidelity. You are more than likely supposed to end a soulmate relationship where you have been treated as a booty-call for several years, although you may truly feel love for that person. You can still love them, just love them from afar.
We can probably say with 98% certainty that your soulmate contract does not require you to indefinitely stay in a relationship that leaves you feeling unhappy. Why would the Divine subject you to that indefinitely? They won’t. But you can allow yourself to stay stuck until you realize you have 150% had enough. When the Universe wants us to learn a lesson, especially a lesson involving a soulmate contract, we will learn it. One way or another. We may go kicking and screaming through that lesson but we will learn it. There is nothing to be gained from staying in a soulmate relationship that leaves you unhappy and depressed except more unhappiness and depression. The Universe does not want us to be martyrs, they want us to live, love, laugh and evolve. Exercise your own individual free will, and get the heck out of there.
It is about assessing the situation fairly and deciding if this relationship truly works for you. If it does not, more than likely it is time to end it. This does not mean, however, you are ending your soulmate contract, it simply means you have completed it and ready to move on. If you are giving your own personal power away day after day to some guy who is not stepping up to the plate, you should be able to see the nature of your soulmate contract. Take your power back! If he makes you feel like crap because he does not call when he says he will, does not spend quality time with you or only sees you for sex, stop it. That nature of your soulmate contract is in front of you.
Here is the real dilemma of the matter. If you continue to stay in that relationship that is making you unhappy and disempowered, then you are directly working against your destiny. If you stay stuck in that space, you will get that same life lesson again, in a different way, more than likely with a different soulmate because you did not get it the first time. So for example, you decide to stay in the unhappy soulmate relationship with someone who is cheating on you, because of your connection. You decide to love him, no matter what, to understand better the principle of unconditional love. What about loving yourself? More than likely the cheating soulmate will end the relationship with you anyway, and then you are heart-broken. After several years of healing, you meet another soulmate relationship and the entire cycle starts again. And if that is what it takes, all is well in the perfection of your soul, you will still have that life lesson.
You can end the contract by taking the step you need to take for your own personal happiness and fulfillment. You do not have to be a suffering martyr to a romantic soulmate relationship if you feel abused, degraded or unhappy. If you find yourself in this situation, end the relationship and end the karmic cycle between the two of you. More than likely you have been dancing this karmic dance for centuries, over and over playing different roles with each other, but the same scenario. Learn the lesson. Get off the roller coaster. Exercise your free will, that is why the Divine gave it to us. It does not mean you have broken your soulmate contract, it means you have completed it and overcome the challenges set forth in your agreement with that person. Congratulations!