A dark night of the soul is often considered to be a crises point in one’s relationship with God, the Goddess or the Universe. The ultimate outcome for a dark night of the soul, is union with the Divine. To reach that union, however, one must travel through the darkness and have a dark night of the soul experience. When we journey through a dark night experience, we may often feel abandoned by God, or separated from the Divine.
We may feel our prayers go unanswered, that God does not hear us and that others in our lives may disregard us. It is a time of adversity and suffering. The dark night of the soul represents darkness we must endure to reach the union with the Divine. A dark night of the soul hits us when we are at rock bottom and have nowhere else to look, but up. It is the pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps and getting on with our lives that creates the journey back to the Divine. And this is where we will see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o’clock in the morning — F. Scott Fitzgerald
Many people in soulmate relationships often feel they are going through a dark night of the soul. A separation from a soulmate, or ending of a soulmate relationship, can very much feel like a dark night of the soul experience. You may feel as if you world has come to and end and that you will not be able endure the heartache and heartbreak you most certainly feel when you have lost a soulmate. When your soulmate leaves you, ends the relationship or tells you he needs a break from the relationship, you feel as if you have had the rug ripped out from beneath you. You might even feel as if you have had your heart ripped out. Some of these endings though are temporary, but sadly some of them will be permanent.
A dark night of the soul in a soulmate relationship can have several layers. You could be experiencing the dark night while dealing with a soulmate separation or ending of a soulmate relationship. During this time you will feel and mourn the loss of your soulmate. Instead of getting on with your life you might find yourself in a deep depression, feeling melancholy and obsessing over and over again about your soulmate returning to you. You might forgo paying bills, taking care of the yard and failing to do the things you normally would in taking good care of yourself. More than likely you will cry out to God, the Universe, the Angels and all your friends to try to understand and comprehend why this is happening to you. And this is ok, because it will draw you closer to the divine spark. The loss of the relationship is the thing that brings you closer to God.
Soulmate relationships, as we have discussed time and again, are about personal and spiritual growth. Unfortunately most folks don’t encounter personal growth when everything is groovy. It takes hitting rock bottom, finding yourself in the gutter or feeling as if you have lost everything to make people cry out to the Universe for help. You cry, you pray, you cry again and pray some more. This is the experience that allows us to have the union with the Divine, that allows you to give it all to the Universe, because you just can’t take anymore. It is what will ultimately allow you to find peace.
There are times when the soulmate returns to create a fresh start and new beginning, but you still traveled through that dark night. It might have been a time of loneliness and isolation, a time of deep despair, but during that time, you grew in some way. There had to be growth on some level during this dark night of the soul. It is perhaps the very thing you needed to work on and address before the two of you could reunite and grow together as a couple. Your soulmate had to learn something as well, and probably had his own dark night experience. The point is, you both evolved through this separation and can now embrace your relationship from a higher perspective. You met the Divine on your journey and now the relationship will be stronger, better and more mature.
Excerpt from The Dark Night of the Soul – Loreena McKennitt
Oh night thou was my guide
oh night more loving than the rising sun
Oh night that joined the lover
to the beloved one
transforming each of them into the other
Within my pounding heart
which kept itself entirely for him
He fell into his sleep
beneath the cedars all my love I gave
And by the fortress walls
the wind would brush his hair against his brow
And with its smoothest hand
caressed my every sense it would allow
I lost myself to him
and laid my face upon my lovers breast
And care and grief grew dim
as in the mornings mist became the light
There they dimmed amongst the lilies fair