Why does your soulmate hurt you?
A soulmate relationship is to be held to a higher standard. Why would a soulmate hurt your feelings, especially for no good reason?
First of all, soulmates have very deep feelings for one another by way of their deep soul connection. Unfortunately, this doesn’t mean a soulmate won’t hurt you. Usually they will hurt you much more than any other relationship. It’s a double-edged sword. They can love you like no other, and they can hurt you like no other.
DEEP FEELINGS MAKE YOUR SOULMATE HURT YOU
Soulmate relationships can be very tricky and hard to navigate. When feelings run high, tensions often run high as well. Due to the hurdles soulmates often have to jump over, hurt feelings are often a part of the package. If the lessons are avoided on either side, you can pretty much guarantee there will be a lot of hurt feelings as well.
Just because this person is your soulmate, doesn’t mean you give them carte blanche to repeatedly hurt you. You’re supposed to raise your standard with a soulmate, not lower it. If you lower your standards you’re not learning your lessons either.
The universe won’t support a relationship where one soulmate constantly hurts another. And this especially true where one of them tolerates it. This is not what the union is for. So, don’t expect a miracle from them.
They are not coming to save you, you have to save yourself.
You have to want the hurting to stop bad enough where you’re finally willing to do something about it. And not just talk about it either, we mean do something drastic. This is something obviously out of your comfort zone or you would have done it already.
What would you do if this person was not your soulmate? What have you done in the past when someone hurt you? If you’re not doing that with your soulmate, that’s probably why they continue hurting you.
You may not like what you have to do, but too bad. You want this relationship to work out? Then do the work. Or, you can continue to enable hurt feelings and ruin your relationship completely.
It’s up to you. You know what to do, in most cases, you’re just afraid to do it. Fear and insecurities are not exactly the best advisors are they? Do what you know is right and stop doing what is safe.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES
You can’t keep using the soulmate excuse. Stop blaming your connection for the reason you allow your soulmate to hurt you over and over again. Yes, the connection is there. The universe creates it, but don’t blame them. They’re not forcing you to remain in a connection that hurts you. Own up to your responsibility of the misuse of your connection.
In so many, many cases a soulmate will hurt you because they’re trying to work out the connection. While they work through that, you may get hurt in the process. But this is, of course, not an excuse to let them do it. If your soulmate is in denial about having this bond with you, how they react is going to hurt your feelings. That isn’t about you per say. But it’s about them accepting what’s happening.
It doesn’t let them off the hook.
You can be compassionate to a certain degree, but they have no right to act out. Start by trying not to take it all too personally. It is okay that they question the connection. This is more about their spiritual journey than you.
We realize this is easier said than done. If it’s hurting you too much, distance yourself from them until they work through it on their own. You’re not responsible for being their teacher all the time. They learned to talk, write, drive and do math. They can learn their own lessons if you need to remove yourself from the situation for a while.
When a soulmate is working through their own issues and feelings they may not understand, or be aware of, their words, decisions or behaviors hurt you. If you don’t make your hurt feelings aware to them, and not just with words but actions, then they won’t think it’s really a big deal.
Never be so compassionate to someone else, even a soulmate, that you constantly sacrifice your own feelings, and allow yourself to be hurt over and over again.
Originally posted on 2017-01-26 @ 1:00 pm