Soulmate breakup or estrangement is one of the toughest times a person can go through.
Breaking up is hard to do, but breaking up with a soulmate will be one of the most difficult things you ever experience.
As you are more than aware by now, a romantic soulmate relationship is very intense. The connection is on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. On the other hand, regular relationships may only be on the physical and mental, or even just physical only. The feeling of devastating loss is excruciating.
SOULMATE BREAKUP – LOSE PART OF YOURSELF
A soulmate breakup will make you feel like you are losing part of yourself. This is someone you have merged with and feel connected to. The removal of their presence and their energy from yours can make you feel like a part of you is dying.
And it is a death of sorts. It’s about change and transformation, which is what death is anyway. You’re saying goodbye not only to your soulmate, but to a part of yourself. It is heartbreaking and you will suffer. But you will get through it all and you will love again. Just not next week. Healing from a soulmate breakup will take time. A long time.
There are many reasons soulmates end a soulmate relationship.
Perhaps you and your soulmate have broken up many times before. This has become a pattern in your relationship. You are together, then apart, then back together again. Each time one of you goes through the feelings of loss and grief. The other does not. They know the pattern, so they do not feel the loss.
Or, you find you’re no longer happy in the relationship and end things because your partner would not make necessary changes. You tried and tried and hung in there, but you just can’t do it anymore. You’re the only one who has worked on improving your relationship but your soulmate has been lazy.
You have been patient with them and encouraged them to change. But they still aren’t moving the relationship in the direction you would like. So you broke up with them.
It could also be that your soulmate ended your relationship out of the blue, and for no good reason. They may even be ghosting you, and refuse to communicate with you at all. Either way, it is really hard for you to deal with. So what now? What can you do to get through this?
TIME TO HEAL, TIME TO CHANGE
It is time you took a realistic look at your relationship. Stop focusing on the good for a while. What went wrong along the way? Were there red flags you ignored? Were you an enabler?
Maybe your soulmate has been treating you disrespectfully. Perhaps they were not honoring the connection and treating you horribly. Sure, the good times were good, but it now time to pay attention to the bad time. The bad times are what got you here.
In so many cases soulmates rekindle their relationships. So, instead of crying, driving yourself crazy, and staying depressed, use your time in a useful way. Look at what needs to change should you get back together. Not just on their end, but on yours.
It doesn’t matter if you do not think they will come back. This is what you should be doing regardless of it they do or if they don’t. You need to learn from this relationship, not just grieve over it. There are lessons there, find them, and get to work on yourself
When you experience a soulmate breakup you will see the connection is still alive. Don’t try and break the connection. You can’t truly break it, but you can deal with it. It will take some time for you to feel whole again. Honor that. Honor yourself.
Originally posted on 2012-02-27 @ 5:28 pm