Have you lost your dignity in your soulmate relationship?
Does the connection cause you to behave in a manner that’s undignified? Do you allow feelings for your soulmate to cloud your judgment? Do you allow disrespect and unhealthy behavior in your relationship?
When you look at your soulmate relationship do you wonder what happened to your self respect and dignity?
When your soulmate acts out, and treats you horribly, you shouldn’t let it slide. Yes, they’re your soulmate and you don’t want to lose them. We understand that. But you also shouldn’t want a relationship that is dysfunctional either. You have to let them know you won’t tolerate that kind of treatment anymore.
This must be done both verbally and through your actions. Empty threats on your part will achieve nothing towards creating change. All that will do is not take you, your feelings, and/or the relationship seriously. If you allow unfair treatment repeatedly you help to create a negative dynamic between the two of you. Also, you’ve let your dignity and self respect go out the window.
IF YOU’VE LOST YOUR DIGNITY YOU HAVE TO GET IT BACK
When the punishment doesn’t fit the crime, and you constantly let someone off easily, you can’t keep your dignity in the process. Furthermore, if you accept punishments from your soulmate that you don’t deserve, you’re again doing your self-respect a disservice.
Self-esteem comes from within yourself. Even if someone doesn’t treat you with dignity it shouldn’t affect your dignity. But, when you allow someone to treat you badly, it negatively impacts your dignity. It all comes from you. It’s up to you to preserve both your dignity and self-respect. No one can take it from you, you must give it away. Stop giving it away, it isn’t doing you or the soulmate relationship any good.
The Universe didn’t put you two together to accept their mistreatment of you. That decision is between you and your soulmate. The Universe gives you the connection to use for the good of your relationship and as individuals. It was not to undermine both of you in the process.
What you do with your connection is on you. So if your soulmate relationship is chaos, stop feeding into it. Step back, and let your soulmate spin out of control alone. Don’t let them pull you into the tornado. Preserve your dignity instead.
GAIN BACK YOUR SELF RESPECT
When your soulmate is ready to rise to a higher level, deal with them at that point. Stop following them down the rabbit hole and expect to find normalcy. Stop using your spiritual connection as an excuse to throw your dignity away.
If your soulmate doesn’t treat you with dignity, they don’t have any themselves. You have a chance to teach your soulmate a lesson about dignity, and how to nourish their own and yours. You also have the opportunity to join them by losing your own dignity along with them. Choose wisely, or reap the repercussions of those choices.
Neither of you should allow others to disrespect your relationship. But if you and your soulmate are acting disrespectful towards one another, why would anyone else treat your relationship with respect? They will all just think you two are in a dysfunctional relationship. Without both of you holding on to your dignity, that’s exactly what kind of relationship it will be.
Don’t feel you have to be with one another 24/7 at the expense of your own individual goals and dreams. You can have time for yourselves and have some separate goals. You don’t have to make their life your priority all the time either. Your life has to matter too. You don’t have to agree on everything and have the same opinions on everything. You can disagree or see things differently and have your own voice.
That is how people with dignity behave. That is how healthy couples behave.
Originally posted on 2017-05-31 @ 3:01 pm