What are the signs of a healthy soulmate relationship?
To many of us, having a healthy soulmate relationship is one of our top priorities. So why are so many people in unhealthy soulmate relationships?
Part of the problem is many people don’t know the signs of a healthy soulmate relationship. They think the problems and issues they’re having are either temporary or a normal part of a relationship. They think just being in pursuit of a healthy relationship makes things okay.
Since they recognize what changes need to be made, and are working on them, they think their relationship is on the mend. What they don’t seem to understand is that until those changes are made, they don’t have a healthy relationship. And that is a real problem.
TOP 10 SIGNS OF A HEALTHY SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP
1. Bring out the best in each other
The first sign of a healthy soulmate relationship is that you bring out the best in one another. You encourage one another to do better, and be better, and it works. If you want to know if your relationship is healthy, look around you. Has your relationship positively affected other areas of your life and made them better?
2. Maintain some individuality
Another important sign of a healthy soulmate relationship is the relationship doesn’t just revolve around one person. It also doesn’t revolve around just the two of you as a couple. Each person still has their own identity and individuality.
A relationship can’t be healthy if boundaries are not drawn, respected, and enforced. Family, friends, co-workers and careers should not be negatively influencing, or causing major conflict, in the soulmate relationship. Those things can’t negatively influence the relationship. But they will if they’re allowed to continue.
4. Quality time
In a healthy soulmate relationship there’s both quality time spent together and time spent apart, without conflict. The quality of time you spend together is just as important as how you spend your time apart.
Time apart can be very good for a relationship. It helps maintain some independence and can strengthen the trust between the couple. Quality time together does not just center around the wants and desires of only one of you.
5. Similar life goals
You both are pursuing similar life goals. One can’t be pursue a goal of traveling around the world while your soulmate’s goal is to settle down in one place and start a family.
6. Time and energy
In healthy soulmate relationships, both of you must put forth the time, energy and effort to keep the relationship going. It’s not the sole responsibility of only one of you. If it is, your relationship is unhealthy.
Transparency is a must in a healthy soulmate relationship. No sneaking around, no hidden agendas and no major secrets. You can each speak your mind without worry of repercussions.
8. Being realistic
A healthy soulmate relationship is a realistic one. You accept one another fully, the good and the bad. Although you may not like every single aspect of your soulmate, you accept that it’s who they are. You don’t fantasize about who they could be, you deal with who they actually are.
Couples in healthy soulmate relationships can speak freely. They know how to communicate without it always being a huge argument. They say what’s on their mind, and express what they’re feeling, instead of keeping it to themselves. Their communication is consistent and not sporadic.
People in healthy relationships also feel heard when they talk. Although the couple may not agree on everything they’re at least open to listening to what the other has to say with an open mind. They aren’t focused on changing each other’s mind because one’s opinion is right and the other’s is wrong. They are both open to compromise, not just one of them.
Healthy soulmate relationships don’t just create themselves. They’re created by soulmates who are willing to work together to ensure the relationship thrives and survives. Make sure you’re doing the right things in your relationship and not the wrong things to ensure is success.
Originally posted on 2018-02-08 @ 3:59 pm