Can friends understand your soulmate relationship?
If they’ve never been in one they can’t relate to what you’re going through with your soulmate. It’s really hard to navigate relationships as it is. Friends, co-workers, family members and romantic partners can be complicated relationships. Soulmate relationships are more confusing and emotionally taxing than most relationships.
Trying to explain to your friends who don’t understand soulmate connections is like trying to make them understand a foreign language.
CAN FRIENDS UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY DON’T EXPERIENCE?
When we meet a soulmate it surpasses all our expectations. So many of the things that come with soulmate relationships we never expect at all! We’re completely thrown for a loop. And have no idea how to handle the emotional roller coaster and drama that come with soulmate relationships. Words do not do it justice. It cannot be explained, it must be experienced to truly understand.
We have the opportunity to learn from each and every relationship we have. So we can either learn from our mistakes or we can repeat them over and over again. We can learn to put up with dysfunctional relationships or we can learn to avoid them at all costs. It’s entirely up to us what we take, and what we leave behind, when our relationships end. With soulmate relationships, however, there’s no previous experience to draw from. This is something completely new.
We want help and we need help. But our friends don’t understand soulmate connections. So of course they can’t relate to the experience we’re having. We want to share all the details of our soulmate relationship and hope our friends can help us find some clarity.
The problem is most of your friends will only wind up hating your soulmate and questioning your sanity. Additionally, if your friends have a soulmate in their lives, they can only understand so much. Their experience is not your experience. Every connection and couple is different. One couple cannot advise all soulmates based on their soulmate journey. That’s just ridiculous.
THEY JUST WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY
Your friends can’t understand why you’d go through what you’re going through for this person, or any person for that matter. Just like you can’t understand why your friends are in some of the relationships they are in, they sure as hell can’t understand all the melodrama in your soulmate relationship.
They may actually fight with you about your soulmate. They will make nasty comments or sow seeds of doubt in your mind. That is not support, it’s bullying. At a certain point their help goes from a place of concern to a place of control. Then it’s time to just stop talking to your friends about your soulmate. You’re going to have to deal with it yourself.
Most people believe soulmates meet and then run off into the sunset like they do in the movies and in romance novels. They think soulmate relationships are perfect, easy relationships. So when you tell them what you’re dealing with they don’t believe this is a soulmate relationship.
What you’re describing is not their vision of soulmate couples. It may make even you question if your connection is real or not.
It’s hard when you feel like you have no one to talk to. You wish your friends could understand your soulmate journey and be supportive. You’re left feeling no one understands what you’re going through.
In many ways this is true.
Your soulmate relationship is about you and your partner. Not about everyone else. The lessons to be learned are for you and your soulmate only. There is no cheat sheet, and no shortcuts. Find clarity within yourself and within your soulmate experience. The answers are there if you just seek them out.
Originally posted on 2018-02-02 @ 5:00 am