Common Soulmate Life Lessons: Patience, Unconditional Love and Detachment

Soulmate life lessons are a major component of soulmate relationships. If you’ve been reading our blog for a while now, you are definitely aware of that. Life lessons, karmic lessons, spiritual lessons personal growth, however you want to define it. If you’re in, or have ever been in, a soulmate relationship, you have to grow and evolve to a higher place. Soulmate relationships are karmic in nature. And like all karmic relationships, they allow us to work through the karma we have agreed to work through in our soulmate contract.


Many people operate under the false impression soulmate relationships are full of fun and laughter, great passionate sex, picnics in the park and long strolls on the beach. And they do come with these things of course. But if you’veĀ  experienced a soulmate relationship you can agree that it was no picnic. And by their very nature soulmate relationships are not a walk in the park.

Let me say this again. We have soulmates because we agree with the other soul to have and provide valuable life lessons for each other during our existence on the planet. You travel through time with these same soulmates life after life. You help each other learn, grow and evolve into who you are today. Soulmate relationships don’t have to be romantic relationships to provide the personal and spiritual growth. But these relationships provide the greatest opportunities to expand your soul’s work. And it’s the life lessons that make it so.

Common Soulmate Life Lessons Patience, Unconditional Love and Detachment

Common Soulmate Life Lessons Patience, Unconditional Love and Detachment


What are the biggest soulmate life lessons? There are usually three life lessons present in the soulmate karmic life lesson scenario. Those are patience, unconditional love and faith or trust in the Universe. In other words, letting go of the control. Because you can’t control this relationship. When you’re in a contract with your soulmate for a life lesson in patience, the usual scenario is one of you will leave that relationship for a period of time.

You’re probably thinking how can a soulmate leave if it’s a soulmate relationship? Well soulmates are not forever during a lifetime. But they are forever in that you have an eternity with them. You will be together for a while of intense compatibility and spending time together. And then one of you will put on the brakes and either pause the relationship or end it completely.


So how can you have the life lessons if you’re no longer together? That’s exactly when the life lessons begin. The lessons to learn from a soulmate relationship aren’t while you are closely connected with them. It’s how you handle the separation or ending of the relationship. This is where the growth comes in.

Being in the relationship is the easier task. It’s the aftermath that takes courage, faith, fortitude and PATIENCE. Now we’re not saying there are no soulmate life lessons you’re together. Because some of you certainly will. But we will touch on that later. So many times we see soulmate relationships, where everything is going great. And then out of the blue, one of the souls gets transferred overseas or an ex comes back into the picture with a lot of drama. Maybe one of you becomes commitment-phobic due to past relationship baggage and truly afraid trust your heart and emotions. Then again, someone has an ill family member, someone loses a job, whatever the reason…it will be something.


Sometimes the two of you talk and decide to end the relationship or put it on hold. At other times one of the soulmates just disappears without saying goodbye, without saying anything at all. Regardless, one of you will move on while the other is left trying to pull their life back together.

Let’s say for example you’re in a deeply passionate relationship with your soulmate. But unfortunately, they are already married. And so are you. But it doesn’t matter because you both know you belong together. Since you work together you’re able to spend daily time with one another. And you carry on in your equal states of bliss. Then your world comes crashing down because he gets fired. He manages to find another job right away. But it’s on the other side of the country, so he moves away.

You know without a doubt you belong together. And even though it will be difficult, you both decide to make it happen. You tell your husband first and move out. Then wait for him to tell his wife. When he tells her, however, he feels sorry for her and decides to give her another shot. Even though you’re clearly soulmates, he feels he owes it to her and so he stays. And to make sure that he gives it the best shot he can, he tells you he can’t talk to you for at least three months while they try to work things out.


Now what are you going to do? You really have no choice. You’re getting several life lessons here. One in patience. And one in detachment. You’re going to have these two very important life lessons now. Of course it is going to be difficult, how couldn’t it be? You have had your heart ripped out and handed to you on a silver platter. And every day will seem like and eternity until you get to that three months mark when he calls. There’s nothing like waiting on something that is very important to you, that will force you to be patient. And if you’re normally an impatient person, the lesson will seem doubly difficult. But obviously you need it in your life now.

You will also have to detach from the situation. If you call him, text him, email him, do meditations to draw him to you, you will only make yourself more miserable. Because he won’t respond. And for God’s sake, don’t someone to do reuniting spells. It’s NEVER a good idea. Detach and do something else. Go somewhere, learn a new skill, take a dance class and find your connection to God and the Universe. And don’t dwell on the situation. You have no choice.

Detach to get through this period of time because you can’t control or manipulate what’s happening. You have to patiently wait on him. Now we are not suggesting you sit by the phone and patiently wait for the phone call. Get up, live you life, do what you have to do and get on with your life. Whether he comes back or not, you still have to experience these life lessons of patience and detachment. Because it’s the only way you will get through it.


So where does the life lesson of unconditional love come in? Well, again probably not in the way you may envision. Let’s say you finally reach the three-month mark and “Oh Happy Day” your soulmate is going to call. When the call comes you are not prepared for what you hear. Your soulmate tells you he has decided to stay with his wife. WOW!!! You are stunned! You are hurt! Your friends are stunned. You weren’t prepared for this. But if you do the lessons of detachment you will be in a much better space.

Now you must let go and move on. Letting go of a soulmate relationship is hard because you of your soul connection. You wonder if he will ever forget you. How could he? He is a soulmate. And even though the two of you aren’t togetherĀ  in this lifetime, you are still together spiritually. And you will be again in some future lifetime.



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  4. These lessons sure are not easy!

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  12. I am in need of visiually seeing in words what my purpose is with my soulmate He and I met in eighth grade and fell in love after a few years of a beautiful friendship. After five beautiful carefree blissful years of teenage love we had our first child. then our second and after time of parenting and adulting in general at such early ages we began trying to find ourselves inbetween each other, I started college and a part time job he began hard labor and then BOOM he delevoped a dislike for our lives as young parents. He built up a wall and treated me poorly which lead me to seek out companionship from another man that then lead to me having an affair and him developing a drug addiction which then lead to us seperating and learning our life lessons without each other at this point?!?! Right? Well for going on our fifth year now of being apart we still struggle with the heart strings of the attachments we had with each other its not just me and its not just him…But all of our spouses since our breakup at some point notice and have pointed it out AND either broke it off because of it or continiously complainned about it. I try to be civil and stay as far away as I can knowing this but its as noticable as him just looking at me to some people (even strangers). I am in a relationship and so is he our choice of partners are both mutual friends we had as a couple. So they immediately have thier guards up because thats how strong and fulfilling our relationship looked to others. But here is my crossroads he came to me in a moment where I was single and his partner broke up with him so he came needing company we talked I tried to be his friend and only that, he of course was vulernable and wanted more but I didnt allow it to happen because that wasnt what he needed if he wants to have a good relationship with this girl now. Do I think she is the right girl for him NO but I am his ex so of course I would say that. She doesnt encourage him to be his best self or to be a good dad she actually because of our bond makes it that much more difficult for him to be. He went back to her. I too went back to my ex and then my soulmate was back a week later except this time my partner was there and he sat and conversed with us and we all got along good and he went on his way. I dont know how his relationship is going but what is my lesson I am supposed to be learning and what type of soulmate is he to me?

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  14. One of my soulmates passed over and I’m in so much pain emotionally. Fortune I a blessed with understanding the process of our spiritual growth. I will miss the passionate relationship we had in this lifetime. I’m looking forward to our reunion.

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  16. I have a question regarding soulmate relationships that ended. What I am wondering is why are there occasional reminders occurring? Does it mean there is still something unfinished to learn or do?

    And I don’t mean reminders like deja-vu that might be subjective but, for example, a person from his side I spoke to only a few times, just checking in out of the blue and then disappearing again. Is it a ‘test’ to see if I am truly detached and learned my lesson or a reminder that he’s still out there and that we might cross paths again?

    Also is it possible to get an answer to this through comparing natal charts, that is synastry and especially aspects to the NN?

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