Soulmate relationships are about the journey, not the destination. Soul connections are deeply mystifying and can be thoroughly rewarding experiences. Many people yearn for the connection only soulmate relationships can bring. But they often don’t know what they must do to obtain it.
We see many people project their desires for soulmate relationships when just meeting someone new. Sometimes these actually will be soulmate relationships. Then again, sometimes they’re not. Not everyone we meet, date or go out with ends up being a soulmate. It just can’t be that way because that’s not the way the Universe works.
“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” ~~ Ernest Hemingway
There also seems to be a big rush in the development of relationships these days. Many people seem to think you should go from the dating stage to the relationship stage very quickly. And then become frustrated when it doesn’t happen that way. People from all over the world ask us all the time:
- We have been on three dates now, when will he tells me he loves me?
- I’m tired of waiting for him. If he doesn’t get with the program soon, he will lose me.
- When will my soulmate ask me to marry him?
- I would feel more secure if he would call me his girlfriend, when will that happen?
- We’ve been talking online for two months, but never met in person. Is he thinking about marriage already?
Rather than having a discussion of timing, we’d just like to ask, what’s the rush? Sure we understand you’re tired of being single. We know you’re ready to settle down and have kids or plan your wedding with your dream guy. But does putting a status on the relationship make you a better person? Are you not perfectly defined and formed now in the way the Divine created you? Just in case you don’t know, the answer is YES!
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” ~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
We’re all here on this planet to grow as spiritual beings by having human experiences. As we have these experiences, especially in the form of soulmate relationships, we grow and evolve to become better people. And what you learn along the way is very, very important. We date so we can get to know someone. Getting to know someone takes time. So many relationships fail because we’re misled to believe that if you have a whirlwind romance and get married after three months, it must mean you’re deeply in love. The chances of this happening are very limited.
When you’re getting to know someone you’re learning about them. You learn about their favorite foods, cars, music and movies. But you’re also learning about them and their personality. Romance has ups and downs. It won’t always be up. It can’t be. He won’t always be in a great mood and want to talk on the phone all the time. Maybe he hung out with you when you first started dating. But now, two months in, he wants to hang with his buddies. How you feel about that and deal with that, are important to this relationship.
As you spend time together, communicate and get to know each other through dating, you’re taking the right path toward creating a relationship. During the dating phase you’ll begin to have a deeper understanding for each other and see what you’re each individually about.
Through the course of the relationship there will be challenges that need to be overcome between the two of you. This is all part of the process. You will both learn lessons along this journey together, and sometimes apart. But this is the part that’s much more important than your final destination. This is part of the journey of building and defining soulmate relationships. Just remember to enjoy the journey as you’re getting to know your soulmate.