Stalking your soulmate on social media really is not a good idea.
Social media is not exactly reality. If you’re looking for clues, it’s doubtful you will find them. Most people put up a persona and only reveal what they want to. There’s a lot of propaganda out there.
There is obviously something bigger going on and checking out your soulmate behind the scenes isn’t really the issue here is it? You may think you have a good reason for stalking your soulmate on social media or otherwise. The truth is, you have a bigger problem here that needs addressing.
WHY ARE YOU STALKING YOUR SOULMATE?
It all more than likely starts with trust, or lack thereof it. Perhaps you’re estranged from your soulmate. Or you and your soulmate are currently in a break. So this leaves you feeling worried, hurt and insecure.
You want to know what they’re up to. As a matter of fact, you feel you need to know what they’re up to. For whatever reason you think you’re going to find out the truth by checking their social media. Good luck with that.
Your soulmate may not be the kind of person (thank god) that spills their heartache all over social media. Instead, they just post about positive things. Does that mean they don’t miss you? No. Even if the post that they don’t miss you, it doesn’t they don’t miss you. They could want you to see that message or are just acting cool.
Rarely, if ever, are you going to find out the answers you are seeking. All you are going to do is waste your time getting more and more upset.
Perhaps your soulmate has been acting strange lately.
So you decide to check up on them. You don’t know if they really are going where they say they are. You drive by to make sure they are where they said they will be. Doing this one time might be ok, but if you’re seriously checking up on them all the time, you need to check your insecurities.
Have they really given you a good reason to be that insecure and distrustful? If they haven’t, you really need to get yourself together. You have a problem and you need to get it under control. It will always affect your relationship negatively until you do.
If your soulmate has given you a good reason not to trust them, then fine. Check up on them here and there. But at some point they should earn your trust back and you can lay off the stalking.
There is nothing wrong with doing a little checking here and there if you’re in a relationship and something seems a bit off. But if you find yourself having to do these things often, you need to stop.
INSECURITIES MAKE YOU DO IT!
If your soulmate has given you a valid reason to be insecure, then it is up to them to help you get over that. If they won’t, then it may be time for a break. When your soulmate disappears for hours on end, or you catch them texting other people, one of you has to do something.
Either your soulmate stops the bad behavior or you have to put your foot down. If you catch them and you don’t do anything about it then you really wasted a lot of time being a private investigator. Doing nothing when you catch them just lets them know they can get away with it. And you can bet they will do it again.
What you allow will continue.
So if you’re a soulmate stalker be prepared to do something with the information you find. Otherwise there’s not point to this but self-torture. It’s a symptom of a bigger problem in your soulmate relationship. And if you don’t fix it, don’t expect stalking to cure it. Because it won’t.
If you’re not together, of course there’s a temptation to stalk them. But what does it get you? It helps you stay stuck. It keeps them on your mind and in the cycle of insecurity. And it gives you countless hours of worry, wasted time, wasted energy and feeds your fears. It feeds your obsession and makes you weak.
It can trigger a call, text or email to them that you shouldn’t make. So it holds your mind, body and soul hostage. And let’s face it, you aren’t finding out anything that’s helpful to you. You’re just subjecting yourself to behavior that’s beneath you.
You feel ashamed of yourself. You feel like a loser. So why keep stalking your soulmate? Deal with an estranged soulmate when they come back. Live your life instead of stalking theirs. It’s the only way to stay strong and empowered.
Originally posted on 2016-12-11 @ 3:00 pm