Do soulmates always forgive and forget? Movies and many books have lead people to the false conclusion that soulmates always forgive and forget. That simply is not true. Even a soulmate can reach a point where they cannot forgive or forget something their soulmate has done to hurt them.
A soulmate connection does not give you a free pass to act out and treat your soulmate with disrespect or neglect. Soulmates do have a tendency to bend their normal relationship rules and let their soulmate cross boundaries and don’t properly enforce their boundaries. Simply put they are just too nice to their soulmate. Why is that? The answer is simply the fear of losing their soulmate, which is ridiculous when you think about.
Your soulmate is treating you badly, but you are afraid you will lose them if you make them stop treating you badly? They are not afraid to lose you, and they are the one doing something wrong! You should never be afraid of standing up for what is right for you, especially when someone is not doing right by you. How can you expect to have a healthy and happy soulmate relationship when you will not establish and enforce boundaries? It is impossible to do.
Boundaries are there for a reason. You are supposed to forgive and forget the little things that happen and get over them. You should never easily forgive and forget the bad stuff because the only thing learned is what someone can get away with. And when they learn what they can get away with, they do it again and again.
There is nothing wrong with forgiving and forgetting if the soulmate in the wrong is remorseful and willing to change their behavior. If a soulmate is willing to put in the time, energy and effort to be forgiven, there is no reason really not to forgive them. However, if the soulmate keeps repeating bad behavior how could you possibly forget about it when they just keep reminding you over and over again?
So do not think that soulmates will put up with nonsense over and over again. All it takes is one time to many, and you may convince your soulmate that you will never change. Once that happens, they give up on you and the chance to have a happy relationship with you. It is very, very difficult to earn someones trust again, and to make them believe in you. They didn’t want to give up hope, they held on to it for such a long time. But, your repeated actions finally convinced them it was time to give up.
Sometimes soulmates do separate and don’t get back together. Before your soulmate relationship gets to a point where you will not be forgiven, and your soulmate will do everything in their power to forget you, make the changes you need to.
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