Soulmate BreakUps: Will You Get Back Together or Is it Over?

Soulmate breakups are difficult to deal with and there will not always be a reunion for the couple. The couple can reunite of course. Whether they do or not can depend on what’s in their soulmate contract.

There are no guarantees from the Universe that soulmates are destined to be together forever. And it’s a big misconception that nothing can tear soulmates apart. Due to Hollywood and romance novels, many people have an overly fantasized view of soulmates. This misconception also includes the real reason for soulmate relationships. All relationships are for a season, a reason or a lifetime. Soulmate relationships included.


For example, your soulmate contract says you’re to be together for a lifetime. So if this is something you both agree to in your soulmate agreement, you will be. Even if you experience several soulmate breakups, you will still reunite. That’s part of your soulmate contract.

On the other hand, your soulmate contract could say you’re only with this soulmate for a reason. And that would be to learn a life lesson of great importance to you for future relationships. But you can also have a soulmate contract for a season, a period of time, then move on. Please keep in mind you can have numerous soulmates in a lifetime and not all are romantic in nature.

Regardless of your contract, a soulmate relationship will be one of meaningful memories, happiness and amazing chemistry. There will always be great life lessons as you each fulfill promises written in your life blueprints. Each soulmate couple will meet, share time together and be given the opportunity to evolve. But resistance to evolving is where the problems begin and what can turn the relationship sour.


For example, we know a lady who met a soulmate while she was married to a somewhat abusive, emotionally distant man. The soulmate was also married at the time. Their connection was so powerful they woke each other up in the middle of the night dreaming about one another. And this occurred even though they lived miles apart!

They knew destiny, fate and karma brought them together. Then her soulmate moved from halfway around the world to work on a project together. They worked at the same company, but in different countries. And then they found themselves spending a lot of time together getting this project off the ground. Although neither had been looking to have an affair, they both recognized the spark between them. The connection was so strong! And they fell deeply in love. It was six months of pure bliss.

Soulmate BreakUps: Will You Get Back Together?
Soulmate BreakUps

And then something drastic happened.

He made a big mistake on the project that cost him his job. So he was forced to move back to his country. They had to separate and it was very, very difficult for both of them. They decided the only way to be together in the future was to leave their marriages. She went first and went through the process of telling her husband she was leaving him. And she moved out and got an apartment on her own. She was scared, but knew it was time to leave her abusive husband. Besides she had a soulmate relationship to look forward to.

But then he dropped the ball. Her soulmate contacted her to say he was staying with his wife. He told her would never, ever speak with her again. He needed a clean break if he was to make things work with his wife.

She was devastated, hurt and angry. But she followed through with her divorce and moved on with her life although soulmate separation anxiety was present for the first two years. She looks back and realizes the purpose of the soulmate contract was to give her strength to leave a miserable marriage. Because she was able to leave her miserable marriage, she met and married another soulmate four years after her divorce. And they remain married to this day. One soulmate opened the path to another.


When you meet your soulmate you can’t help but be swept away by the closeness and intimacy between you. You feel happier than you’ve ever been in your life. And you experience feelings on a level you didn’t think possible. You’re soaring on the wings of love, literally. And then, without fail, something happens to throw a monkey wrench in the whole thing. After the initial period of romance, intimacy, togetherness, and joy, BOOM!! It happens.

There is a break, a break-up or one of you feels the need to slow things down in your soulmate relationship. Welcome to the Soulmate Crisis Point. Here is where one of you has to leave the relationship for a period of time to resolve something so the soulmate relationship can move forward. It happens a lot. And it sucks, it really does. But it is usually part of a soulmate relationship.

When a soulmate leaves your life it will be painful, no doubt. You may feel like part of you is dying. But only during this separation phase can your soul truly grow. Unfortunately, some of us only learn through pain. It’s a rare occurrence to learn valuable lessons when everything is going great in our lives.

We should learn lessons just as often when times are good as we do when times are bad. But for many, that’s just not the case. Like children burning their hand on the stove to learn not to touch it, we will learn and grow spiritually through soulmate relationships when the soulmate leaves. Many soulmate lessons are learned when the couple part, so there can be great results from soulmates parting.


How does one navigate through the pain of the soulmate leaving? This is point where you must learn to detach, let go and focus on yourself. We realize it’s easier said than done. It will seem  impossible to function when you no longer have contact with your soulmate. We know and understand what you’re going through. But you must understand, this time apart is crucial. And it’s happening for a reason. You’re not supposed to be miserable, crying all the time, unable to work or socialize with friends.

This is time for you to be productive, not self destructive. That’s the challenge here. Your soulmate contract has this separation because it’s giving you the opportunity for the spiritual growth you need in your life. And how you work through the soulmate separation anxiety is the true challenge.

So pick yourself up and take stock of your life and your relationship. What needs to change? Your journey, right now, is solo. You are to find what you need to release from your life, whether it be people, places or things. Let go of behaviors, choices, jobs, people. Anything and everything  holding you back from your spiritual path.

Soulmate breakups will be tough at first.

When a soulmate breakup first happens, you will experience despair, obsession, agony and countless hours of crying. There are endless conversations with your friends to see if they think your soulmate is coming back. You will probably also spend considerable time dwelling on them.

Your friends and family are encouraging you to move on. They can’t bear to see you like this anymore. Take the time you need to build your strength back up, so you can do the work you need to do during this time apart. If you don’t, your soulmate could return, but because you didn’t do your work, you will have to separate again. Who wants to do this more than once?!?!

Soulmates break up but the connection remains. There are soulmate breakups, but they reunite and come back together. It’s harder for soulmates to separate than couples who don’t have a spiritual connection. So chances of rekindling a relationship are higher for soulmate couples. So although you and your soulmate have separated, it may just be a temporary thing. And hopefully both of you will use your time apart wisely. Otherwise, another break up could be right around the corner.


Do you have experience with soulmate breakups? If you feel inclined, please share with our readers in the comments section.

Originally posted on 2011-12-29 @ 9:49 am

29 thoughts on “Soulmate BreakUps: Will You Get Back Together or Is it Over?”

  1. What if you met your soulmate and both felt the connection but neither were strong go through with it and one married another and had a family and moved away
    While the other never married and stayed single unable to connect with another
    Does that mean there’s unfinished business and a reunion is on the cards?

    • while we can’t answer personal questions here on the comments – it could mean that later in life there maybe a possible reunion

    • This is almost my story although somewhat different. It’s been very painful! Now I have hope that this was meant to happen to get me to do what I had to do to leave a marriage, sell a house and move to my own place. Also to invest more into my job! This made my day and I’m hoping to meet the next soulmate someday soon!

      • Many times we need a strong catalyst to bring about the changes we need in our lives. Good luck!!

  2. My soulmate left me a year ago and we are the samesex this is why she left because of negative people. What do I do? I think of her daily does she me?

  3. I….slept with someone else while with my soulmate. I realize afterwards how connected I am to my soulmate and how terrible the mistake I made was and I’ve tried everything to make it up to her because I truly want her happiness. I hope that one day I can earn that trust back and be with my soulmate again because I feel it so strongly that we are soulmates and I love her on a level that is unable to be explained in words. Is there any way I can get a reading or help in any way?

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  4. Out of curiosity… if we have free will, why can’t we rewrite our soulmate contracts while here on earth? Why does it have to be set in stone – doesn’t that take away free will? I lost someone that I believe to be my soulmate 5 months ago. He’s completely shut me out. I have no idea if he’ll ever be back, but I choose to wait for him. Even if it ultimately means I end up alone.

    I had a psychic reading that predicted I’d marry the antithesis of the type of man I’d ever be willing to marry — he has a child with another woman. I honestly took the purpose of this reading as one to show me what I needed to change within myself so as to avoid this particular scenario (would have avoided anyway, as I’ll never play stepmom to another woman’s child).

    I want my ex back, but I’m lost in how to facilitate that happening. I’m not afraid to be alone, however I AM afraid to live the rest of my life without my ex/soulmate.

  5. Yes…i can feel mine too. He is not happy with his life at all…but he’s trying to be. I keep closing our connection bc he’s decided to stay in his marriage even tho he’s not really happy with her. He promised her he wouldn’t talk to me anymore…and he doesn’t…but I can feel wat he feels at his core. Things remind me of him and then I can’t shut it off. I’m not sure if i should tell his wife how unhappy he is or stay out of it and let it take it’s course. But i can tell u how sad it makes me to feel how unhappy he is.

    • This recently happened to me. I was in an abusive relationship and he came into my life and initially said he was getting separated, which with those words a door opened and I never felt a connection like this in my life. I began to research soulmates. Like clockwork we were inseparable via text and in person times as well never telling me to leave my abusive relationship just listening and supporting never judging the 4 months. Gave me the strength to forget about my abuser and find a place of my own. The week I moved into my new place, I could feel the feelings on his end were done . Him still living with the void in his marriage knowing I was something he never forget. The pain is unreal. Different than heartbreak. So much more on a telepathic soul level. I pray to be with him one day even though he is in 50s and I’m in 30s

  6. I met my soulmate last year. No doubt about it, we think and feel the same thing and our hearts beat at the same time. When I found out that he is married, he told me so and always wore a ring but each time i respected his marriage and leave his life the connection pulls me back. I gave in despite his marriage, I love him more than life but he is leaving this summer to his country, I am devastated and I am not sure how I will handle this alone. He is amazing but I don”t understand why we had to meet late.Even when he is gone, I will still love him.I am forever his for sure.

  7. I have an unbelievable soulmate, my twin flame in all its glory far beyond what most people even fantasize about. I read about soulmates not always staying together and it’s encouraging by heartbreaking because we were so extraordinary, I was consumed and tormented that I couldn’t stay with her. I left her many times and came back and each time I was more consumed by trying to make things work. Neglecting my work, texting hundreds of times daily and never being without her. It often felt right but when it didn’t I ran. I will miss her peace forever…Aw time!!!

  8. My soulmate and I broke up about a year ago. She is 25 and I am 29. We were together for about 7 years… And I could say no one in this world knows me as well as she does. She has been dealing with bad anxiety and depression… It’s been hard for her feeling ok with most of the aspects of her life and sadly we had to deal with long distance for quite long time. I’ve tried to improve as a person a lot since the break up… I even dated some other girls but seems pointless to me… I can’t get her out of my head. I tried to stop any kind of contact.. That’s what she asked for so even when it’s been so hard I’ve done it… In the end I love her so I respect her choices… She keeps contacting me though… Like every 2 or 3 weeks and I seriously don’t know what to do.The bond is pretty strong… I try to take it easy and keep it friendly… I avoid talking about my feelings towards her because I don’t wanna lose her. I’m really scared.

  9. My soul mate broke up with me a little over a year ago. I think about him even when I don’t want to, little things remind me, and sadness envelopes me.
    He left me because he was scared; he couldn’t handle being so close to another person.
    I still love him with all my heart. I’ve been in two relationships since then, and the one I’m in now, with my current boyfriend….I love him but it isn’t the same. It will never be the same.
    I hope my soul mate comes back but it becomes easy to lose hope.
    He’s in a relationship now; and it hurts because I know she doesn’t know him like I do.
    He and I have had past lives together; we’ve had vivid shared memories of multiple ones.
    I’m still waiting for him, in a way, but I will I had some kind of reassurance he was coming back sometimes.

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  10. My soulmate has broken up with me ,i know some of the reasons why this was, this was just over a week ago. This morning while asleep i woke up very quickly to a kiss on my lips from her. Reading your articul has givin me hope and strenth. Neil


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