I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

“I have lost my soulmate, what do I do?” Countless clients call us asking this very question.

Soulmates, sadly, often go through a separation period. It comes as a shock in many cases because it can come out of nowhere. But it also comes from the lamest of excuses.

Maybe you said something they misunderstood, but was it enough to end the relationship? No, it wasn’t. There was something else going on here. Many people, at one time or another, feel they’ve lost their soulmate. For many of them, the situation is only temporary, but for others, it’s permanent.


Some people lose a soulmate due to them passing on. Losing a soulmate through death is a devastating blow. The surviving soulmate wonders how they will find the strength to move on with their life.

Time is the only remedy when a soulmate passes on. It’s hard to imagine life without them and the emotional loss seems unbearable. But you will, with time, find joy in life again.

Your soulmate would want you to. Your soulmate would want you to be happy here until you meet again on the other side, or in your next incarnation.

Again, it will take a long time to recover from this loss. But you will get there. Allow yourself the time you need to grieve your soulmate. Get support from friends, family or a professional therapist if you feel you can benefit from one.

You may want some time alone but don’t stay alone too long. You just need to get through it day by day. Then eventually you will get to a point where you will feel more like yourself again.


Others who lose a soulmate only suffer a temporary loss. Your soulmate could be dating someone else after they break-up with you. Because of that you may feel your situation is hopeless. It’s not. It’s excruciatingly painful, but not hopeless.

Unfortunately it’s common for a soulmate to bail and go back to an ex, or begin dating someone new. They feel safer with someone without the intense connection that comes with soulmates.

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?
I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

It will take some time for them to realize the error of that choice. They’re trying to forget about you and using this other person to do it. The key word here is using. They’re not emotionally available to this person, they’re just using them.

Their relationship will always be out of balance. And there’s a very good chance they will return to you in time. Actually this happens in many cases with soulmate relationships, but not all.

It depends on both of you.

It’s hard not to think you’ve permanently lost your soulmate. We have seen some soulmates get engaged to or marry other people only to return to their soulmate. But it’s a shame they take it that far and waste so much time. Yet, they do.

So many soulmates split apart, marry other people and even had children with them. Some met in high school and took different life paths. But down the line, many of them seek one another out. They may bump into each and restart their relationship where they left it.

This is often a bumpy road for soulmates and there can be many starts and stops along the way. Before you freak out completely, thinking you’ve lost your soulmate forever, take some deep breaths and find a place of balance. You don’t want to do something that could actually cause what you most fear.

Losing a soulmate, even for a short period of time can be extremely painful.

If your soulmate made the decision to end your relationship, you may need to leave them be. (No matter how hard that is.) They obviously have something they need to work through. Unless you did something really horrible to them, you need to leave them to it. Let them learn their lessons. Try not to control them or the relationship itself.

Let them learn from their mistakes. Your soulmate’s mistakes may be exactly what they need to learn in order for you to have a harmonious relationship in the future. If you keep enabling them, so they don’t learn anything at all, is it any wonder why the lesson keeps showing up again and again? Of course not.

Until they learn, the lesson repeats. Since you can’t learn the lesson for them, leave them be. Stop making excuses to contact them, even for holidays and special occasions.

You may be afraid if you don’t do something you will lose your soulmate forever. But you’re wrong. You’re just using your own fear to enable your soulmate to ruin your relationship. Why would you do that if you don’t want to lose your soulmate for good?

Originally posted on 2017-04-04 @ 10:20 pm

5 thoughts on “I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?”

  1. i know i don’t want to lose him forever, but it hurts alot. My fears are telling me to give up and move on permanently. I’m so scared to lose him, and I can’t help, but feel so alone through this painful process and not fully knowing if he’ll be back in my life. It’s just so hard, and i feel like i can’t handle this.

  2. It is so so hard to wait. I cannot eat, sleep, or think of anything else but him. I can’t stop crying.


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