Soulmate breakups are difficult to deal with and there will not always be a reunion between the couple. The couple can reunite of course. Whether they do or not can depend on what’s in your soulmate contract. There are no guarantees from the Universe that soulmates are destined to be together forever. And it’s a big misconception that nothing can tear soulmates apart. Due to Hollywood and romance novels, many people have an overly fantasized view of soulmates. This misconception also includes the real reason for soulmate relationships. All relationships are for a season, a reason or a lifetime. Soulmate relationships included.
SEASON, REASON OR LIFETIME
For example, your soulmate contract says you’re to be together for a lifetime. So if this is something you both agree to in your soulmate agreement, you will be. Even if you experience several soulmate breakups, you will still reunite. That’s part of your soulmate contract. On the other hand, your soulmate contract could say you’re only with this soulmate for a reason. And that would be to learn a life lesson of great importance to you for future relationships. But you can also have a soulmate contract for a season, a period of time, then move on. Please keep in mind you can have numerous soulmates in a lifetime. And not all are romantic in nature.
Regardless of your contract, a soulmate relationship will be one of meaningful memories, happiness and amazing chemistry. There will always be great life lessons as you each fulfill promises written in your life blueprints. Each soulmate couple will meet, share time together and be given the opportunity to evolve. But resistance to evolving is where the problems begin and what can turn the relationship sour.
IT GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS
For example, we know a lady who met a soulmate while she was married to a somewhat abusive, emotionally distant man. The soulmate was also married at the time. Their connection was so powerful they woke each other up in the middle of the night dreaming about one another. And this occurred even though they lived miles apart! They knew destiny, fate and karma brought them together. But then her soulmate moved from halfway around the world to work on a project together. They worked at the same company, but in different countries. And then they found themselves spending a lot of time together getting this project off the ground. Although neither had been looking to have an affair, they both recognized the spark between them. The connection was so strong! And they fell deeply in love. It was six months of pure bliss.
And then something drastic happened.
He made a big mistake on the project that cost him his job. And he was forced to move back to his country. They had to separate and it was very, very difficult for both of them. They decided the only way to be together in the future was to leave their marriages. She went first and went through the process of telling her husband she was leaving him. And she moved out and got an apartment on her own. She was scared, but knew it was time to leave her abusive husband. Besides she had a soulmate relationship to look forward to.
But then he dropped the ball. Her soulmate contacted her to say he was staying with his wife. He told her would never, ever speak with her again. He needed a clean break if he was to make things work with his wife. She was devastated, hurt and angry. But she followed through with her divorce and moved on with her life although soulmate separation anxiety was present for the first two years. She looks back and realizes the purpose of the soulmate contract was to give her strength to leave a miserable marriage. Because she was able to leave her miserable marriage, she met and married another soulmate four years after her divorce. And they remain married to this day. One soulmate opened the path to another.
SOULMATE BREAKUPS: SOMETHING ALWAYS HAPPENS
When you meet your soulmate you can’t help but be swept away by the closeness and intimacy between you. You feel happier than you’ve ever been in your life. And you experience feelings on a level you didn’t think possible. You’re soaring on the wings of love, literally. And then, without fail, something happens to throw a monkey wrench in the whole thing. After the initial period of romance, intimacy, togetherness, and joy, BOOM!! It happens.
There is a break, a break-up or one of you feels the need to slow things down in your soulmate relationship. Welcome to the Soulmate Crisis Point. Here is where one of you has to leave the relationship for a period of time to resolve something so the soulmate relationship can move forward. It happens a lot. And it sucks, it really does. But it is usually part of a soulmate relationship.
When a soulmate leaves your life it will be painful, no doubt. You may feel like part of you is dying. But only during this separation phase can your soul truly grow. Unfortunately, some of us only learn through pain. It’s a rare occurrence to learn valuable lessons when everything is going great in our lives. We should learn lessons just as often when times are good as we do when times are bad. But for many, that’s just not the case. Like children burning their hand on the stove to learn not to touch it, we will learn and grow spiritually through soulmate relationships when the soulmate leaves. Many soulmate lessons are learned when the couple part, so there can be great results from soulmates parting.
HOW TO COPE…
How does one navigate through the pain of the soulmate leaving? This is point where you must learn to detach, let go and focus on yourself. We realize it’s easier said than done. It will seem impossible to function when you no longer have contact with your soulmate. We know and understand what you’re going through. But you must understand, this time apart is crucial. And it’s happening for a reason. You’re not supposed to be miserable, crying all the time, unable to work or socialize with friends.
This is time for you to be productive, not self destructive. That’s the challenge here. Your soulmate contract has this separation because it’s giving you the opportunity for the spiritual growth you need in your life. And how you work through the soulmate separation anxiety is the true challenge. So pick yourself up and take stock of your life and your relationship. What needs to change? Your journey, right now, is solo. You are to find what you need to release from your life, whether it be people, places or things. Let go of behaviors, choices, jobs, people. Anything and everything holding you back from your spiritual path.
Soulmate breakups will be tough at first.
When a soulmate breakup first happens, you will experience despair, obsession, agony and countless hours of crying. There are endless conversations with your friends to see if they think your soulmate is coming back. You will probably also spend considerable time dwelling on them. Your friends and family are encouraging you to move on. They can’t bear to see you like this anymore. Take the time you need to build your strength back up, so you can do the work you need to do during this time apart. If you don’t, your soulmate could return, but because you didn’t do your work, you will have to separate again. Who wants to do this more than once?!?!
Soulmates break up but the connection remains. There are soulmate breakups, but they reunite and come back together. It’s harder for soulmates to separate than couples who don’t have a spiritual connection. So chances of rekindling a relationship are higher for soulmate couples. So although you and your soulmate have separated, it may just be a temporary thing. And hopefully both of you will use your time apart wisely. Otherwise, another break up could be right around the corner.
Do you have experience with soulmate breakups? If you feel inclined, please share with our readers in the comments section.
Originally posted on 2011-12-29 @ 9:49 am