Losing your soulmate can be one of the worst, if not the worst, experiences in your life. Nothing seems to be as emotionally crippling as losing your soulmate.
You know you can’t replace them. That unique connection you share with another human being is one of the greatest feelings in the world. But losing your soulmate can be one of the worst feelings in the world. Sadly, you think you’ll never feel love like that again.
LOSING YOUR SOULMATE FOR A BREAK
How can you replace, or replicate, a one of a kind connection? As we wrote in our article Soulmates Don’t Grow on Trees, you obviously can’t just buy another one on Amazon. It takes some people a long time to find their soulmate, and if they lose them, it’s a devastating blow.
Before you sink deeper into depression, understand break-ups happen frequently to many soulmates. More often than not, the loss is just temporary. So before you go off the deep end, hang in there because all may not be lost.
Surprisingly, there may be some good that comes from this break up.
They may be causing drama and sabotaging your relationship. Bad behavior and choices may have left you with no other recourse than to end the relationship yourself. In that case, more than likely your soulmate will never see this coming.
Perhaps they believe there’s no chance whatsoever you will leave them. They count on your connection and love to get away with anything. But not this time. You finally take a stand like you never have before.
Doing something different like this could very well be the one thing that wakes them up. Now they’re seeing another, stronger side of you. Now they know they can and they will lose you if they don’t cut it out. This break-up could be the one and only thing that sets them straight. No more taking it for granted you will stick around.
When it sinks in they will miss you terribly, regardless of social media posts and what they tell their friends and family. Losing your soulmate for a while might actually benefit your relationship in the long run. Time apart, when they have had some time to think, and feel what it is like to lose you, can create the changes you wanted.
Wouldn’t you rather lose your soulmate for a while to have your relationship be stronger because of that time apart? Or would you rather not lose your soulmate now, allowing them cause even more damage that could ruin the relationship for good?
ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE?
If you’ve done something truly terrible, hopefully you’ve learned your lesson. If you’re responsible for losing your soulmate, it could take a long while before you have a chance to get them back. Make sure you don’t make a nuisance of yourself or disrespect them. Back off.
We know you want them back. However you may not deserve them back right now. Take your punishment like an adult. If they don’t want to see or speak to you, don’t force yourself on them. Let them know you’re willing to talk or meet when they’re ready.
There are consequences to our actions and losing your soulmate, often temporarily, can be one of them. Your soulmate needs to get over their anger. And chasing them like a lunatic usually backfires. They just lash out all that anger on YOU.
Give your soulmate some time to heal.
And use that time to make sure you learned your lesson. Really make sure that the lesson sticks with you. You need to get it right, because if they do give you another chance, that could be your very last one.
If you did something minor, and your soulmate is using that as an excuse to end your relationship, stand strong. Don’t let them punish you that way. Don’t let fear make you grovel, beg and apologize profusely when you shouldn’t have to.
Being fearful of losing your soulmate can often make your soulmate unafraid of losing you.
You don’t want that to happen. Because if that fear goes, the chemistry dims, and their respect for you goes out the window.
If you’re losing a soulmate because they have passed on, you’re going to need time to heal. You may meet another soulmate at some point in your life. But for right now you have to focus just on yourself.
This type of pain and loss is especially hard. So get support and help from others when you need it. Take time to grieve, be good to yourself and focus on some positive self-care.
Originally posted on 2017-01-18 @ 3:00 pm
17 thoughts on “Losing Your Soulmate”
It has been heartbreaking, but I know my soulmate would want me to find happiness!
Toughest trauma for me
this has to be the hardest thing to ever go through Elsbeth! thank you for sharing with other readers!
Wow, this was really spot on!
My situation was the other way around. Hes been living a double life with affairs and another family.
It is so hard, but sometimes you have to let go and let them fix themselves.
When you walk away, you know it was the right thing, you know they will return at some point a better version…it is still emotionally wrenching. Time, and learning your own lessons helps ease the intensity, but it hurts. Have to focus on the higher reasons at all times and let the Universe take over.