Why Do Men Withdraw: When Your Soulmate Pulls Back

Why do men withdraw? What do you do your soulmate pulls back from you? It’s a very uncomfortable feeling. When you’re deeply connected to someone, especially a soulmate, withdrawal  is hard to deal with. Even for the bravest of souls. About 98% of the time it happens men pull back from women.


For one reason or another the guy in the relationship withdraws about two to four months into a relationship. Things always start of great. There’s lots of communication.  He calls and texts daily and you spend a lot of time together. Things are happily zipping along and then… BAM!!!! Out of nowhere he  stops calling. He stops texting. Your daily communication is now reduced to three days a week. And you only see each other on weekends. After so much togetherness, you feel as if the bottom has fallen out of your world.

He has literally pulled the rug from beneath your feet. Because a soulmate relationship is so strong from the connection perspective, you feel him energetically detach from you. Your connection is so strong but now you feel a wall between you now. As if part of you is missing.

Energetically and telepathically you try to feel for him but you can’t. You fear he may not be there anymore and agonize if he’s going to break up with you, talking to an ex or courting someone new. You blame yourself and torment yourself with a myriad of things you could have possibly done to offend, upset or anger him.

Why do men withdraw? What caused him to retreat from you? What?  Here are some of the reasons soulmates may need to pull back a little bit after dating for a few months.


After having a reality check he decides things need to slow down a bit. When your first met there was great chemistry. The connection was overwhelming and you spent a lot of time together getting to know each other. He let a lot of things in his life go so he could spend a lot of time with you. After all, he feels the connection also.

He stopped cutting his lawn, cleaning his place, watering the plants and spending time with his friends. When he withdraws he is not showing you he doesn’t want to spend time with you. He’s just refocusing his attention back to things he neglected while you were humming along. So he didn’t withdraw because he does not want to spend time with you. He is having to restore balance to his life out of necessity.

Why Do Men Withdraw: When Your Soulmate Pulls Back

Why Do Men Withdraw: When Your Soulmate Pulls Back


He tells you how great you are. All the time. You’re the best thing that ever happened to him and he knows it. He has waited all his life for someone like you. You are “The One”.  And he is ready to start planning a future with you. You’re on Cloud-9! And you’re so happy this dream of a soulmate relationship is coming together. Then he wigs out and disappears. Poof, he vanishes into thin air. And he doesn’t call or communicate. He does not return your calls, texts or emails. He ghosts you and it feels like shit.

You feel as if your world has come to an end. One day you were planning your future and now he has disappeared like the dinosaurs. Why? His feelings got in the way. He saw his future laying out before him and it scared him. He wasn’t really ready for it even though he TOLD YOU time and again he was.  This is the crisis point of the soulmate relationship we have discussed in Why Are  Soulmate Relationships So Difficult?

What he does, and how he does it ,will determine if he is growing and evolving into a mature, responsible person. And one who can invest his emotions into a real romantic relationship. While he is in his crisis point however, the only thing you can do is stay focused on yourself. You have zero control in the situation. Also the lesson for you is to not lose control as this happens. You have your own set of lessons and growth during this period of soulmate separation.


He is pulling back because something happened in his life. It could be job drama, trauma and chaos, family issues or medical problems. As women we like to share our issues with our friends, talking about different experiences and seeking their advice. Men like to shut down and shut up. Even when they’re in a soulmate relationship.

They want to be left alone, in the man cave, while they deal with their issues. When men are faced with money and career issues it affects their self-esteem. Most men define who they are through their jobs. Offering to help, or saying you’re there for them, will not make the situation better. Again you are at the point of soulmate separation anxiety. And you must determine what life lesson or personal growth experience is here for you.

Remember this is something you contracted with him before being born. It’s something you decided to experience so the two of you could grow individually before you come back together to continue your soulmate relationship. Instead of worrying about why he is being distant and if he will ever call again, take your own personal power back and focus on yourself, your kids, your friends or a personal project.

This is more than likely what the separation is about anyway. To help you learn to cope in a relationship when the man withdraws. We understand it’s lonely when he goes into the man cave. And it’s a very uncomfortable feeling to experience the disconnect of the soulmate energy connection. But pursuing him into that man cave to try to pull him out will only push him further in.




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  3. Wow it makes a lot of sense. Appreciate the help!

  4. The most storys i see are about men that whithdraw, but is the sotry thats told here also possible for women. Because my twin also whithdraw in a relationship.. And for the record, i am a man and my twin a woman.

  5. agreed! I feel I was led to you at a critical moment. you are helping me understand

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