How Has Your Soulmate Relationship Changed You?

Has your soulmate relationship changed you? Surely it has.

A soulmate relationship is going to bring major changes into your life. We’re not just talking about the kind of change where you will have a closely connected romantic partnership.

But change that results from dealing with your soulmate relationship. Hopefully you will change, grow and evolve in a positive way.

And hopefully, so will your soulmate.

When both of you accept your connection and are willing to make the changes for this relationship to truly work, there is balance. During your soulmate relationship you will experience many challenges in order to have a successful long-term relationship.


During times of separation, and even break-ups, your best option is to continue to grow and work on yourselves. But is that what most people do? No!

Most people spend their time crying and obsessing over the break-up. They actually become weaker, not stronger. Sure, we understand that the break-up is difficult, frustrating and overwhelming.

But the choice is ultimately up to you.

Do you want this separation to create positive change? Or, do you want the two of you to both learn nothing during this time apart? If that is what happens, the same problems, and many more, continue to plague the relationship.

This soulmate relationship is in your life because you need to reassess some aspects of how you deal with relationships. These include relationships with others and your relationship with yourself. To be successful, you will have to understand and accept the part of your personality, character or behavior that might need a little work.

How do you handle a soulmate pulling back or withdrawing? What do you do when there’s a lack of communication? How do you feel when they spend time with others and you are alone? Is this a dysfunctional relationship? And if so why aren’t you doing something about it instead of just hoping they will change?

How has Your Soulmate Relationship Changed You?
How has Your Soulmate Relationship Changed You?

Relationships are usually the best in the beginning.

And they bring out the best in us. The firsts weeks, or even months, where you’re getting know each other are fast paced and exciting. And they’re full of romantic interludes. But this period of time evolves and changes, just like everything in life. Your new found soulmate becomes a part of your life and it leads to an adjustment phase.

One of you may pull back to pay bills, go to work, cut the grass and other things that may have been on the back burner. If this creates a feeling of chaos or fear within you, it’s one of the life lessons that’s highlighted in your soulmate relationship.

Do you usually freak-out, panic, and think of worst case scenarios? If so, your behavior might need a little modifying. This is the Universe calling out to you. They want you to make changes so you can have a mature romantic, spiritual relationship.


Some people need a lot of communication in a relationship. And it helps them feel secure about where the relationship is heading.

If your soulmate is the strong, silent type, you may have to rely upon yourself for you own security. If they’re unable to communicate with you every few hours, you may have to find a way to deal with it. It’s not about them changing to accommodate you all the time, you may have to compromise as well.

You’re being called upon by the Universe to deal with this aspect of yourself that needs a little kick. It may be difficult to change your behavior. And your fears and insecurities may get the best of you. But by attracting this soulmate into your life you’ve told the Universe you’re ready to heal this aspect of yourself.

Sometimes even a soulmate relationship can become dysfunctional. So sad but so true. Has your soulmate relationship brought a lot of drama into your life? Are you tired of the roller coaster ride, not knowing where it’s going or what he is going to do about it? What are you doing about it?

Perhaps the Universe is calling you to change your behavior if you’re in a relationship that’s only making you miserable. What’s the life lesson here for you? Can the relationship be fixed? It won’t magically fix itself. So you will have to take action to fix it, and change your own behaviors to something new in the process.

These are just a few examples of how a soulmate relationship can change you for the better. Of course there are some examples of soulmate relationships that could possibly change you for the worse.

How has your soulmate relationship changed you? Have you learned to detach? Do you focus on yourself? Have you learned patience or unconditional love?

We welcome you to share your experiences of how your soulmate relationship changed you in the comments below.

Originally posted on 2012-08-19 @ 6:59 pm

9 thoughts on “How Has Your Soulmate Relationship Changed You?”

  1. I have changed, I wish I could say for the better but if I am being truthful I have let my standards slide.
    Thanks for the reminder that I need to raise them back up again.

  2. I have changed in so many ways. I had some real hard lessons to learn, and some I fought tooth and nail. I have to face my fears and insecurities in order to stay on my spiritual path.

  3. Before I met my soulmate I would not put up with anyones b.s and would not let them get away with acting a fool. I cannot believe how much I have changed and how much I let my soulmate get away with!

  4. Hi, I met my soulmate was afraid of losing him every moment we were in a relationship. We had 8 yrs long distance relationship . I took all the wrong decisions out of fear . each of my decision lead us to separation. He might get married soon to someone else. Do u think we can get back together ? I am working on myself trying to achieve the required self esteem , confidence . do u think after a short seperation we can be together ???? Plz reply. I am very heart broken.

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  5. I couldn’t agree with article more.. I was in my soul mate relationship. The minute I met him I felt a strong instant connection. It wasn’t anything like a strong attraction or lust, it was beyond that. We instantly hit it off, got into a relationship. When thing’s were good we had the best happy times, I have ever experienced in my life. When thing’s were bad, it got very bad. We got engaged and lived together, as time we on the bad got worse. We are both really hard headed, and we took what we had for granted. It was the hardest thing of my life.. but I left him. I left him in a positive way.. I wrote him a letter telling him how much I loved him, and that he needs time to focus on himself and face his inner demons. I told him maybe we came into out lives at the wrong time, and if it’s meant to be he will find his way back to me. The craziest thing is I have changed in so many ways, from the biggest heart break of my life. I learned so much about myself, and thing’s I needed to improve, and being a better person. I am a firm believer in self growth, since I had experienced it myself. Even though my heart is broken, I wake up every day with a smile on my face, accomplishing everything I wanted, and recognizing my faults. I would have never learned these things about myself, unless him and I separated. Who knows what the universe has in store for me, but I will always feel so much in love with him, and connected. I haven’t spoken to him in almost a year, and I still feel him.
    -anonymous <3


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