Has your soulmate relationship changed you? Surely it has.
A soulmate relationship is going to bring major changes into your life. We’re not just talking about the kind of change where you will have a closely connected romantic partnership.
But change that results from dealing with your soulmate relationship. Hopefully you will change, grow and evolve in a positive way.
And hopefully, so will your soulmate.
When both of you accept your connection and are willing to make the changes for this relationship to truly work, there is balance. During your soulmate relationship you will experience many challenges in order to have a successful long-term relationship.
HAS YOUR SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP CHANGED YOU FOR THE BETTER?
During times of separation, and even break-ups, your best option is to continue to grow and work on yourselves. But is that what most people do? No!
Most people spend their time crying and obsessing over the break-up. They actually become weaker, not stronger. Sure, we understand that the break-up is difficult, frustrating and overwhelming.
But the choice is ultimately up to you.
Do you want this separation to create positive change? Or, do you want the two of you to both learn nothing during this time apart? If that is what happens, the same problems, and many more, continue to plague the relationship.
This soulmate relationship is in your life because you need to reassess some aspects of how you deal with relationships. These include relationships with others and your relationship with yourself. To be successful, you will have to understand and accept the part of your personality, character or behavior that might need a little work.
How do you handle a soulmate pulling back or withdrawing? What do you do when there’s a lack of communication? How do you feel when they spend time with others and you are alone? Is this a dysfunctional relationship? And if so why aren’t you doing something about it instead of just hoping they will change?
Relationships are usually the best in the beginning.
And they bring out the best in us. The firsts weeks, or even months, where you’re getting know each other are fast paced and exciting. And they’re full of romantic interludes. But this period of time evolves and changes, just like everything in life. Your new found soulmate becomes a part of your life and it leads to an adjustment phase.
One of you may pull back to pay bills, go to work, cut the grass and other things that may have been on the back burner. If this creates a feeling of chaos or fear within you, it’s one of the life lessons that’s highlighted in your soulmate relationship.
Do you usually freak-out, panic, and think of worst case scenarios? If so, your behavior might need a little modifying. This is the Universe calling out to you. They want you to make changes so you can have a mature romantic, spiritual relationship.
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO FIX?
Some people need a lot of communication in a relationship. And it helps them feel secure about where the relationship is heading.
If your soulmate is the strong, silent type, you may have to rely upon yourself for you own security. If they’re unable to communicate with you every few hours, you may have to find a way to deal with it. It’s not about them changing to accommodate you all the time, you may have to compromise as well.
You’re being called upon by the Universe to deal with this aspect of yourself that needs a little kick. It may be difficult to change your behavior. And your fears and insecurities may get the best of you. But by attracting this soulmate into your life you’ve told the Universe you’re ready to heal this aspect of yourself.
Sometimes even a soulmate relationship can become dysfunctional. So sad but so true. Has your soulmate relationship brought a lot of drama into your life? Are you tired of the roller coaster ride, not knowing where it’s going or what he is going to do about it? What are you doing about it?
Perhaps the Universe is calling you to change your behavior if you’re in a relationship that’s only making you miserable. What’s the life lesson here for you? Can the relationship be fixed? It won’t magically fix itself. So you will have to take action to fix it, and change your own behaviors to something new in the process.
These are just a few examples of how a soulmate relationship can change you for the better. Of course there are some examples of soulmate relationships that could possibly change you for the worse.
How has your soulmate relationship changed you? Have you learned to detach? Do you focus on yourself? Have you learned patience or unconditional love?
We welcome you to share your experiences of how your soulmate relationship changed you in the comments below.
Originally posted on 2012-08-19 @ 6:59 pm