Why are Soulmate Relationships so Difficult?

Soulmate relationships are difficult. Who said they would be easy?

There is a great misconception that soulmate relationships are filled with roses, candlelight dinners and long walks on the beach. And that there’s infinite talking, or texting, until wee hours of the morning, until the end of time.

But this is simply just not true. Soulmate relationships can be very difficult!


When you meet your soulmate, or find yourself in a soulmate relationship, you can bet it is going to be one helluva ride. So, fasten your seat-belt and hold on for the roller coaster ride of your life.

There will always be an initial click when you meet your soulmate. Some would call this love at first sight. You may even experience a sense of disconnecting from reality in a way.

As your souls connect on the inner planes, while you’re talking and flirting, it can feel like a cosmic experience. As you look into each other’s eyes there is a feeling of destiny and sometimes even a knowing that this just might be THE ONE. And we say, hold on for the ride, because life lessons are coming!

Soulmates connect on all levels: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. You will have a lot in common with your soulmate, you will like to do a lot of the same activities and be able to converse on a multitude of topics.

You will also find other things that connect you and there is a lot of synchronicity in your lives.  For instance, your grandmother’s may have the same first name or birthday, one (or both) of your parents may have attended the same school, you may have similar cars or both love brussels sprouts. Whatever it is, you will find it.


Contrary to popular belief, soulmate relationships don’t flow smoothly and easily. We attract soulmate relationships into our lives to teach us valuable life lessons. This is so we can grow and evolve so that we can become our highest, best self.

It doesn’t mean soulmate relationships aren’t fun, because they are. When you’re with your soulmate in a romantic relationship, your energy is firing with all pistons loaded.

Why are Soulmate Relationships so Difficult?
Why are Soulmate Relationships so Difficult?

Things will flow smoothly in soulmate relationships for a while, with great communication, exciting dates and wonderful sex. But then without warning something will happen. Something bad. Something we call the Soulmate Crisis Point.

It could be the loss of a job, a move to another location or a parent being ill. Or, god forbid, it could be an ex trying to come back into the picture. Whatever the issue is, it will be challenging. And it will be one that requires you both to grow. Unfortunately that growth will undoubtedly come with separation. Sometimes spiritual growth will occur together but most often you will have to be apart to assimilate the life lessons into your life experiences.


As humans we never learn valuable lessons if our lives are going on happy and things are flowing smoothly. We learn from pain.

Remember how your mother told you not to touch the stove? If the challenge creates a split between the two soulmates there is a probability of getting back together again at some future point. However, it is possible you end your relationship for good. And this will be difficult. There is no emotional, physical, spiritual connection like a soulmate connection. When you have had it and feel like you have lost it, you will feel empty. This is because that soulmate relationship completes you.

It’s now up to you to rebuild yourself. After losing a soulmate, this can take some time, so go easy on yourself. It’s a good time to practice a lot of self-care.

You will need to rebuild your emotional state. Being around close friends and family is a good way to do that. On the other hand, perhaps you rebuild yourself from spending time alone. You may find yourself mad at God, or the Universe. But it’s not really their fault.

You have to remember this is the blueprint you designed for yourself for this lifetime. You will not be able to see that in the beginning of the crisis. But eventually you will. Things in retrospect tend to make a lot more sense than when you’re in the middle of the upset and chaos. Just remember, take one day at a time, it will take a while to heal. You can get over the pain of losing a soulmate and you will love again.



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