Soulmate denial is a very real thing in many soulmate relationships. One would wonder how someone could be in denial of such a strong connection on so many levels, filled with extreme emotions. When you finally meet your soulmate, chances are one or both of you will go through soulmate denial to varying or similar degrees. For most soulmates, the unique emotional response, and feelings that have never been experienced before, make them question everything that is happening.
Soulmates can fear they are getting caught up in a whirlwind, and need to understand, and even prove what they are experiencing is both real and good for them. In doing so, they must be the devil’s advocate for everything they feel organically. If they feel as though they have known their soulmate for a long, long time their logic tells them they just met that person, and are just feeling vulnerable right now. They can stay in denial and blame it on the fact that they have been single for too long, or drank too much, or are acting like a kid. Denial tells them this is how everyone acts in the beginning, and that this person is too good to be true, because this stuff never happens to people like them.
Soulmate denial can also be a reason why someone may not cross a line or move a relationship further along. Denial keeps them waiting for the next shoe to drop, and for it to be finally proven that this connection isn’t real. They just got caught up in fantasy and not the reality of the situation. They know what they feel, but their mind keeps denying it. You can tell them you know how they feel deep down, but they will stay in denial mode, often telling you they do not feel the same way about you.
Your soulmate could be in another relationship. That relationship may have run its course, and your connection is a way of helping them see the light, and to see what the right relationship looks like. Because your soulmate didn’t really seek you out, and the universe just threw you together, they were not prepared for this. Because of that lack of preparation they resist doing what they know they should do, which is end their primary relationship.
They may even start a relationship with you, but when it gets to the point where they get caught, or the time has come for them to get down to business and put and end to the old relationship, they get overwhelmed or afraid. So they use soulmate denial as the easy way out. They then tell themselves they realize now they can’t leave, and they need to try to work out their other relationship, even though they know it won’t work in the long run.
They go back to their miserable life, knowing that so much better is out there, but they have settled for much, much less. This breeds negativity into an already negative relationship. Sure, they can pretend on social media that they are the world’s best couple and they are happy. Big deal. I could claim to be a koala bear on social media, but that doesn’t make it true.
When your soulmate is in denial, is will be very frustrating. Unfortunately there is nothing in your power to change that. You have to wait for them to be willing to accept the reality of your connection.
You may also want to check out an article on our other soulmate site: Losing Your Mind in a Soulmate Relationship.