Unrequited love is one of the worst feelings in the world. When you love someone, and they love you back, it’s one of the greatest feelings in the world.
But not everyone we love, or have feelings for, loves us in return.
UNREQUITED LOVE OR SOULMATE CONNECTION?
Not everyone we think is a soulmate is actually a soulmate. It’s often tricky to determine if someone really is a soulmate or an unrequited love situation.
It’s fairly common for soulmates to fear the connection. So they deny there’s any connection at all. They’ll also go through extraordinary measures to attempt to prove to anyone and everyone the connection isn’t real.
They may end the relationship and block their soulmate from phone calls and social media. And they’ll enter into relationships with other people. This causes the other soulmate to have doubts as well. They wonder if this person is really a soul connection a figment of their imagination. Could this just be a case of unrequited love?
SO SIMILAR IT’S CONFUSING
These two things can look so similar they’re often confused. For instance, we may love someone and feel a romantic connection to them. But they may only love us in a friendship way, or one that excludes romantic overtones. They may be the most important person in our lives. And we may be just as important to them.
This doesn’t mean they will ever love us the same way we love them. And it doesn’t mean they’re our soulmate and in a state of denial. We may want that to be the case. But it’s not always the case.
Sometimes it’s just unrequited love. And not that they’re afraid of the feelings they have for us. Some soulmates do run away, but just because someone distances themselves from you, doesn’t make them a soulmate.
UNREQUITED LOVE SUCKS
We may be attractive, smart and a good person. But this doesn’t mean everyone we develop feelings of love for will feel the same in return. Unrequited love hurts. And moving on from it is very difficult. It’s so hard to understand why the object of our affections doesn’t see how we could be a perfect couple.
We develop crushes when we’re young. And we yearn for the popular, attractive people that unfortunately may not even know we exist. It happens all the time. But as adults, we shouldn’t let our fantasies get in the way of our reality. Trying too hard to read between the lines, and play soulmate detective, can create an unrequited love situation for yourself. You may even create a narrative in your fantasies about your crush that’s the furthest thing from reality.
Although both unrequited love and soulmate runners can appear similar, only one has a chance to become a real relationship. There is no one size fits all answer to your situation. Many people contact us because there’s no way of finding out for themselves. Both situations are painful to be in. And the only thing you can do is pull back from the situation. Without the other person being a willing participant, no progress between the two of you can be made right now.