Soulmate stress is very different from mundane relationship stress. Due to the all-encompassing emotions and profound connection, soulmate stress is in a class of its own.
Any relationship can make you lose your mind to a certain degree. But when it comes to soulmate stress, people often go off the deep end. They lose sleep, they lose weight and they feel as if they’re losing their minds.
All they can think about are the issues with the one they love. They worry constantly and continually to the point where it affects their performance at work. Many will withdraw from friends and family and they talk endlessly and only about their soulmate.
CAUSES OF SOULMATE STRESS
Soulmate stress can lead people to do things they’ve never done before. It causes some folks to allow negative behaviors they wouldn’t tolerate from another human being. It can make people who’re normally confident become very, very insecure.
So why does this happen?
For some reason, people use the soulmate connection as an excuse for bad decisions and behaviors. They use it as an excuse to lower their standards. Choices such as these are the primary cause of soulmate stress.
How can you possibly think the Universe would create a connection between you and someone else that would cause you to demean yourself? It wouldn’t. That’s not how the Universe works.
You choose to do it. And in choosing the excuses, over your own inner strength, you create soulmate stress. That’s not to say you can control the amount of stress in your relationship, because you can’t. You can behave perfectly but your soulmate choose to act out. You can’t control them but you can control how you react to them and their transgressions.
WATCH YOUR REACTIONS
Now it isn’t your fault your soulmate is bringing anxiety into your relationship. The blame is on them. But how you react to that stress, well that’s all on you. You can follow them down the negativity rabbit hole or you can keep your feet firmly planted in reality.
The faith you have in your soulmate experience is for you to use productively. When you lose that faith, and dwell in fear, you behave destructively. That may be why your soulmate is bringing stress into your relationship.
The purpose of your soulmate relationship may be for you to learn to create and enforce boundaries. Perhaps you need to learn to stand up for yourself. The purpose varies for each spiritual couple, so it’s up to you to discover yours.
You should be leading by example and show your soulmate your faith to combat their fear. Why follow the behavior of your soulmate who is sabotaging your relationship? The bottom line is that stress can be a part of any relationship. Life isn’t easy, and neither are relationships. How you handle the not so good times helps to predict your future path of your relationship.
You shouldn’t contribute to soulmate stress or be responsible for any further damage.
This is why controlling your reactions to your soulmate’s bad behavior is so important. Don’t get caught up in fear, anxiety or obsessing. It will just throw gasoline on an already raging fire. Worrying about a situation causes stress. That is all it creates.
Worry and anxiety doesn’t give you the state of mind to make good decisions. It makes you weak and it makes you lack clarity. When you’re in an emotional state you can easily make matters worse.
Every soulmate needs to understand that almost all relationships come with stress. Soulmates are not perfect couples or perfect people. Rely on one another and get support from one another. Get through stressful times together. This can actually make a couple stronger.
So the choice is yours. Either let soulmate stress make you a stronger couple with a solid bond, or a weaker couple with a dysfunctional relationship.
Originally posted on 2017-07-12 @ 2:00 pm