Dating a soulmate before a divorce is quite commonplace. We cannot tell you the amount of times we have heard from clients who met their soulmate while one, or both of them were married. They had thought about divorce before, but decided, for whatever reason, not to act on it. Then a soulmate comes into their lives and now must face the reality that is their marriage.
Soulmates often meet, begin dating, and carry on affairs because both of them are not single. Regardless of how far along you are in the divorce process, until you are single, you are having an affair. The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it very difficult to wait until a divorce is final so they often begin dating before a divorce is finalized.
When you meet a soulmate, you want your life with them to start immediately. They are all you manage to think about and you can throw caution to the wind. A divorce is a serious decision to make, and although they can take a long time, they don’t take forever. A divorce can get complicated when the other party knows about the new soulmate. The one being divorced, who has not moved on, doesn’t really want the other to move on and be happy so they use stall tactics to cause problems. The sad thing is that it often works.
The drama of a divorce can bring out the worst in all of us. It is hard to stay classy, calm and sane when the other party is behaving in the opposite way. You may not want to go to war with your soon to be ex, and would prefer the divorce to be amicable. But if your soon to be ex finds out you met your soulmate, World War 3 seem tame compared to your divorce.
If you and your soulmate begin dating before hiring an attorney or filing for divorce, you are probably making the wrong move. Instead of beginning an affair, begin the process of ending your marriage. First things first. If this person is so important to you that you will be willing to lie, cheat, and risk everything, shouldn’t they be important enough for you to hire an attorney and file some papers?
You cannot say you can’t resist the urge to begin dating a soul mate before divorce but you can resist the urge to end your prior relationship. That just doesn’t make sense. If you want your soulmate in your life that bad, then you obviously don’t want your marriage in your life, so do the right thing.
When you begin dating a soulmate before a divorce you allow them to have a sacred relationship and disrespect it by lying, cheating and everything else that comes with an affair. If this connection is so strong, and this person means that much to you, then keep your soulmate in your life, but work on your future together by properly getting closure on your past. Don’t let someone (or be someone) use excuse after excuse as to why they can’t get divorced. If they can’t get divorced, then they can’t have you. Often a soulmate is supposed to make you realize a part of your life (such as a marriage) is over, and that you need to make changes that you have been avoiding. By having an affair you are still avoiding the changes you need to make, so expect the problems that come with avoidance.