Are you too controlling with your soulmate? Do you feel you have to be in control of every aspect of your relationship? Are you questioning where they are, where they’ve been and limit who they can be with? Do you feel you must be in control of how you both spend your free time and money?
BEING TOO CONTROLLING SHOWS YOUR WEAKNESS
Your controlling behavior doesn’t make you equal partners in your relationship. At some point, your soulmate may get sick and tired of being controlled all the time. If you have faith in your connection, why can’t you allow your soulmate more freedom? Don’t you trust them? They lived their lives before you and were able to function until now without you. So why do they need you to control every aspect of their lives? They don’t.
They’ re not a small child. You are not their parent. You’re supposed to be their soulmate, their life partner. So why won’t you give them the same say in your relationship that you have? You may think you’re doing what’s best for the both of you. But you’re kidding yourself. Your interest is self-serving.
You are doing what is best for you.
That’s not what a soulmate relationship is all about. If anything, your soulmate relationship should be helping you get rid of your controlling nature. Your connection should bring out the best in you. And being controlling is not the best behavior. You must understand that your desire to control is actually making you behave in an out of control way.
Your behavior is not going unnoticed. Your soulmate is aware of what you’re doing. Do you really think they like it? Can you really think a grown adult appreciates someone trying to control every aspect of their life? Do you think they’re grateful for what you’re doing?
You are kidding yourself.
You don’t have them fooled. Even the people around you, that love you, know what you’re doing. They can see it, it’s that obvious. So can everyone around your soulmate. Do you think they feel you’re treating your soulmate right? No, they don’t.
Your desire for control is coming from within you. It is not your soulmate’s problem. But you have made it their problem and they are suffering because of your issues. It could be a trust issue, an abandonment issue or an insecurity issue that makes you so controlling.
Regardless of where it’s coming from, it’s coming from you. Your soulmate can’t fix it or change it. You have to. And until you do that, you will never get rid of the desire to control another human being. What you should really be doing is trusting them, having faith in them and believing they will do the right thing.