Soulmates often sabotage their relationship for numerous reasons. One of the top reasons is because one, or both, have been hurt in previous relationships. Due to the deep connection soulmates share, being that vulnerable to being hurt again can be a very frightening thing.
No one wants to be hurt, but we all have to take that risk when entering into a new relationship. We have to open our hearts, knowing that they could be broken. Although most people would never dream of hurting their soulmate, ones that have been hurt before are afraid to trust in their connection.
When someone has been badly hurt in the past, the often choose safer relationships going forward. They feel if they find someone who cares more for them than they do in return, they lessen the risk considerably. These relationships, although considered “safe”, are most often unsatisfactory. It is a way of settling due to fear, and the emotional investment is very one-sided.
You might be shocked to know that many soulmates stay in relationships like this once they meet their soulmate. It is a form of sabotage. They fear taking the chance of being hurt again with their soulmate, because they actually have deep feelings for them, so they stay put in a relationship where that cannot really happen. But the awakening of emotion, and the depth of that emotion, does not go away. This gives them the courage to stop settling, leave that relationship and reconcile with their soulmate.
If a soulmate has been hurt before they may sabotage their soulmate connection out of the blue. They could pick a fight, deny the connection, or behave or speak in ways that cause a break up. They keep worrying about it being too good to be true so they sabotage it by making it go bad. This is often temporary as well and the couple reunites once they are ready to move past their fears.
If someone has been hurt before and then meets their soulmate, at first they are overwhelmed with the emotions. They feel happy and secure in the connection. But then their fear creeps in and they scare themselves silly, terrified of being hurt by their soulmate if they stay with them. So they often create a breakup and cut them out of their life completely. They cut them off from all contact, and shut them out of their lives. This form of sabotage is the most common. Like the other examples, this too can be temporary, and the saboteur comes back, as if nothing ever happened.