Soulmates comes in many different shapes and sizes. We have soulmate relationships with romantic partners, as well as friends, family, work mates and at times, even our enemies. Not all soulmates are human. Anyone who has ever truly loved a pet will confirm that these special animals are one of their soulmates. When someone has that special intimate soulmate connection to their pet, they very often believe they have touched the hand of the Divine, personally within their lives.
The one thing that can be said about these special pets is that their love is constant.
Constant: not changing or varying; continuing without pause or letup; unceasing; faithful; unswerving in love, devotion; resolute – something that does not or cannot change or vary.
There are countless stories about people who find the ultimate soulmate connection with the animals they love and nurture. The pets they tend and care for love them without any condition attached to that love. They know that no matter what, Mommy or Daddy will feed them, soothe them, care for them, play with them and love them. Our pets look at us with a complete knowing that we are there for them. They love us and they trust us….even when we have failed them. They provide so much joy, laughter and pleasure in our lives and they do it simply because they love us. They make us happy because they love to see us happy. Pet soulmates bring us joy because they want us to be joyful. And when we are sad and out of tune with life, they know, and they try to heal us and lift us up back into the balance of contentment. When you suffer, they suffer with you, as they try to remove the suffering, or even illness, from your life and take it upon themselves.
There are many pets who get separated from their owners for one reason or another or who simply get lost. There are stories of cats and dogs who have found their way home, to their people. How do they do that? How can they find their way, at times, across hundreds or thousands of miles, to the place where they belong. The soulmate connection between people and their pets works the same way as it does with human connections. Animals find their way home through their etheric connection to their person, who may very well be calling out to them telepathically, or crying out to them in grief and despair at the thought of losing them.
There are some who may argue this because they say that animals don’t have souls. We disagree with that. There is no way you can look into the eyes of your dog or cat and not sense the infinite dimension of the soul that most assuredly resides behind those wise and loving eyes. In some ways they are all-seeing, in some ways they seem all-knowing. And no matter what you do, they forgive you time and time again when you may be irritated with them, forget to feed or water them or not have time to stroke and pet them. Even when we let them down, as we can get wrapped up in the demands of our physical world, they never seem to let us down when we call out to them for comfort. Furthermore, if Heaven is to be a place without pets, or any type of animal, we sure as hell would not want to be there!
When we lose a pet soulmate, it can be one of the most devastating experiences we have to endure, and truly one of the dark nights of the soul that we must experience on the earthly plane. When we love and cherish something so much, it reasons to say that we will be devastated when it is no longer in our lives. We very often have to make tough decisions for them, allowing them to be released from earthbound pain, disease and suffering they experience as they get older, and even when they are still young. When we do this for them it is part of our soulmate contract and agreement with them, that we will not allow them to hurt or suffer as long as they are in our care, and they very often communicate that to us through their eyes, which for them as well, is the window to their soul.
Nothing can replace a lost pet soulmate. We can run out and find other animals to bring home and form close bonds with, but the loss of a true pet soulmate, can be heart-breaking, even many years after they cross the rainbow bridge. You still see them out of the corner of your eye, sitting in their favorite spot, walking through the room or down the stairs. You still call out to them expecting them to come running when they hear your voice. You still miss them. You still yearn for them. You still love them. And when it is your turn to transition from this world to the next, they will be there, eagerly waiting for you, wagging tails or purring. And as they leap into your arms you feel joy and your heart again bursts with love.
Perhaps they are not the stars,
But rather openings in heaven
Where the love of our lost ones
Pours through and shines down
Upon us to let us know
They are happy.
Inspired by an Eskimo legend
If you are single, or in an unhappy relationship, you may be wondering if it is possible to manifest your soulmate. The short answer to that is YES you can, but the longer answer is, you are going to have to do some work to make that happen. You can’t manifest your soulmate by lighting a candle, spinning around three times while focusing on some dream guy. You can manifest your soulmate however by showing the Universe what you want in your life and that you are willing to go through the process to create that. Now this exercise is not singularly focused to manifest your soulmate, but really to bring what you desire or need into your life. For this article however, we are focused on how to manifest your soulmate.
Many people have limiting beliefs when it comes to manifesting what they desire because they seem to do it from a negative place. They seem to focus on the negative aspects of their relationship, whether it is with a soulmate or not. Limiting thoughts such as “He will never leave her” and “I am so scared he will never get back with me” or “I just know this relationship is doomed to fail” will actually get you just that. Your emotions are attached to your thoughts and when thought and emotion work together they are very powerful. And you have just created the very things you did not want because your emotions mixed with your thoughts manifested those things for you. So the first step is that you have to clear out that negative talk and limiting belief structures.
We have to be very careful if you decide to do the work to manifest your soulmate because there is a karmic law in effect that you can not attempt to willfully bend the path of another person. This could be perceived as trying to override their free will. When we talk about how to manifest your soulmate, or the relationship you desire, we do not mean you can manifest the relationship with the guy who broke up with you last month…even though you may very well still love him. Manifesting relationships, or manifesting your soulmate, should not be used to bring someone who you specifically name into your life or back into your life. So forget trying to manifest Brad Pitt, it just won’t work!
When we talk about how to manifest your soulmate we are really talking about creating the space for your soulmate to enter your life. And we don’t mean making room for his or her stuff in the garage or closet, we are talking about the energetic space. Usually this works best by listing, on a sheet of paper with a pen, the key qualities and characteristics you want for you soulmate, or romantic partner. And you should include everything, all of it , no matter how silly it may seem. For example you can say you want a good communicator, someone ready for a serious relationship, willing to express his feelings, someone well read, actually someone who can read would be good too and open to new ideas. And of course you want someone you find physically attractive. The most important component of this is the kind of man he is and how he will treat you. This should be your top priority.
Now that you have listed the type of guy you want, you can start visualizing it. Imagination is the key to visualization! So using your imagination see yourself in a happy, committed relationship with the qualities of the soulmate you listed. Try to hold the image in your mind’s eye for about two minutes, or longer if you can without wondering off and thinking about ordering a pepperoni pizza. This process puts out into the Universe exactly what you want. Again it is very important not to attach someone’s name or face to this exercise but be completely open to the romantic partner you desire in your life.
During the visualization you could see yourselves on dates, taking trips, planning your wedding. But remember that emotion has to be part of this as well. How does it make you feel? Does it make you feel happy? Does it make you feel love? Love is a very strong emotion and when we throw our own emotions into something, especially someone we really want to manifest, it is super charged. THIS IS WHY SPELLS DONE BY OTHERS ARE USELESS. Once the visualization is done, you should try to remain positive for as long as you can. When you try to manifest your soulmate, please understand this could be quite some time for that person to enter into your life, but remaining positive about your visualization is important. Try not to allow negative thoughts to come in and start to bring you down. Let the Universe do what it does best.. which is bring into your life everything you want to have. If you start wondering how this can possibly happen to you, you are throwing doubt out there and slowing things down. Your own doubts could even block them from entering your life. Try to stay in the positive state of mind, and by so doing your taking an active role in the co-creation process with the Divine. When you feel doubtful, anxious or impatient or have any other negative emotion, you can block yourself from achieving what you desire. Thought are very powerful things…especially when attached to your emotion!
And finally, the most important thing to do, once you have completed this exercise, is to let go. When we let something go, we are showing the Divine that we have faith that they will bring what we need into our lives at the right time and for the right reasons. When we let it go we are not longer striving to do it ourselves, because the Universe people don’t really want or need our help anyway. When we let it go we are releasing it and accepting in faith that our soulmate will manifest in our lives. When we release something we really should STOP focusing on it. When we keep focusing on it, we are showing that we are living without that relationship, or without our soulmate, in our lives and that we are ok with that because we are showing our ‘lack’ to the peeps upstairs. When we let go and let God we are showing we have faith that it will be, when the time right.
Let’s say you asked us to do something for you. You do realize that is you keep asking us, several times a day, day after day, week after week, that you would become annoying and we would not want to do anything for you? So let’s not annoy the people upstairs, ok? As, and then shut up for a while. It’s like a kid on a car trip who constantly asks “are we there yet?” It doesn’t make you drive faster or get there sooner, it just makes you want to throw the kid in the trunk.
There is also some responsiblity now on your part as well, where you role to manifest your soulmate comes into effect. If you are someone who stays home all the time, who perhaps works from home, you don’t go out and socialize with friends very much, you have all your groceries delivered and basically never leave your house, chances of meeting someone who fits your definition of soulmate might be limited, unless it is the pizza delivery dude. There is a very slim chance that your soulmate will come knocking on your front door so you might have to break out of your comfort zone and go out once in a while. Got to a place where you might meet the one you are trying to manifest, and this does not mean stalking your ex at his weekly baseball game. If you want someone who is well read, go to the bookstore. If you want someone who enjoys art, peruse your local art museum or gallery. We are not suggesting you do this to make you uncomfortable but this action shows the Universe that you are serious about what you want.
Once again we have to be very clear here at the risk of repeating ourselves, we are of course, going to repeat ourselves. Trying do manifest your soulmate to draw a specific person by name into your life, or back into your life, is a karmic NO-NO. Doing this focusing exercise and trying to draw someone to you is an attempt at bending their free will. Do you want someone to do that to you? If you try this, you will end up very frustrated anyway because it is a violation of karmic law to manipulate another’s energy. We are not the karma police, but we have warned you…again!.
We are all-powerful beings. We are all divine, we all the power with us through faith, intent, visualization and focus to create the thing in life that are most precious to us… yes even to manifest your soulmate! We have the ability to co-create the life and love we want, with the Universe, so just do it. And remember to have fun and harm none!
Many women in relationships where they give to much realize, “He is not afraid of losing me”. No, he is not. If your guy is not afraid of losing you, you need to sit back and ask yourself why. The quick and easy answer to this is because they have no fear that you would ever leave them. You have made it to easy for them. After all, they have seen you tolerate their countless nonsense, bad behavior and bad manners, so what’s one more time going to hurt? You are the one getting hurt, not him. So why should he stop for fear of losing you? Since you haven’t left yet, he doubts you ever will. When you make abnormal behavior acceptable in a relationship, it becomes the norm in your relationship. This is the fastest, quickest and easiest route to a dysfunctional relationship.
If you want him to be afraid of losing you, you will have to stand up for yourself. No one is afraid of a weakling. A strong, empowered woman knows that she has to back up her words (or ultimatums) with actions and her punishment with actions. If you don’t mean it, he will not believe you. You have to be believable. If he knows that you are terrified of losing him, no matter what he does to you, how could you possibly expect him to have any fear of losing you whatsoever? When you show him you will stay with him at the expense of your own self respect, dignity, and happiness, why in the hell should he be afraid of losing you? He shouldn’t and he won’t!
You want him, or any other man you date or have a relationship with, to have a natural, normal fear that if they screw up badly, they will lose you. But in order for that to happen, the first time he screws up so badly you have to end things, end them in a believable way, even if you are just making a point and hoping he will beg your forgiveness. If it is not believable, the fear goes out the window and you are scary as a puppy. Think about all the things we fear. We are afraid of these things because they will either cause us to lose something, hurt us or kill us? That’s where most fears come from, fear of death, loss or pain, don’t they? If you are the only one feeling any pain or loss, then why should you expect him to be afraid? Do you think he will be afraid of your tears, your pain or your broken heart? He won’t!
A good place to start working on healthy fears in a relationship is to examine your own first. If your fear of losing him is so great it allows you to tolerate his bad behavior without taking a stand you will never get the relationship to have proper balance or mutual respect. If you are afraid to risk losing a relationship that isn’t really working for you anyway, you need to examine why you allow yourself to stay in a relationship where you are under valued and not respected. Remember, once they lose respect for you (and you for yourself) their feelings will change anyway, it is just a matter of time. Why? Because you cannot really love what you do not respect. By putting up with intolerable behavior you may hold on to him longer. But expect the bad treatment to continue, or get worse, because you have taught him he can do terrible things to you and won’t lose you. Don’t expect him to feel too guilty either. If your hurt feelings are not enough for you to put yourself first, you can’t expect him to put your feelings first either.
If you want him to be afraid of losing you because he wont tell you how he feels, then stop telling him your feelings as a first step. If you want him to be afraid of losing you because he has no time for you, then dont have time for him, as a first step. If you want him to be afraid of losing you because he has not yet made a commitment then don’t act and behave like you are already committed to him. If you want him to be afraid of losing you if he cheats, then if he does, end the relationship immediately and go quiet for a while. If you want him to be afraid of losing you, then you have to act like he is losing you when he does the things you consider deal breakers.
If the man you love disappears on you out of the blue and then shows back up in your life out of the blue you should realize there is a good chance he does this because you showed him that he can and that he can get away with it. He is not afraid of losing you because he has done this so many times and you never moved on, found someone else, or turned him away. Sure, you may have bitched at him about it, but he is not afraid of your words. He would only be afraid of you moving on or turning him away when he comes back. Have you done either of those things? If you have not, don’t sit around dumbfounded that he did it again and again. You have to see how he is not afraid of losing you. Every time you allowed it to happen you proved to him that he can do it again and should fear losing you when he does. So your choices are to either grow a set or accept the fact that he will never be afraid of losing you because you are not a person to be feared.
It is time to accept certain facts and to be honest with yourself. If you truly believe he can change and that he loves you, then it is time to put your foot down. If he really can’t change, why keep waiting for change that may never come? Most people only change when they have to, so shouldn’t you make him HAVE TO? If you are hanging in there because you believe he doesn’t love you enough to change or that he doesn’t have it in him, then what are you doing with him anyway? How long do you have to be unhappy before it dawns on you that being in this relationship makes you unhappy? Don’t you want and deserve to be happy either with him or without him? If being with him is a sure fire way for you to be unhappy, then it is time you faced your fears of losing him!
Why should you let your fear drive YOU? Why are you so afraid to demand respect? Why do you fear telling him how you deserve to be treated? Are you like that with everyone in your life or just with him? If it is just with him, then you need to ask yourself why you changed for the worse for someone who treats you worse than anyone else in your life does. Why would you want to be with someone who does not bring out the best in you and instead brings out the worst in you? Until you are strong enough to face the fact that you may lose him, you are only going to continue to lose yourself to the point where you no longer even recognize the woman you have become.
Not every man is going to be afraid to lose you. Many men withdraw and mistreat women as a way to get rid of them. The problem is many woman simply won’t let go and instead will hang on tighter than ever. A psychic reading from us can tell you if he cares about you and the relationship enough to ever be afraid of losing you. Sometimes we are not valued by the people we love the most, but either way, don’t you want to know the truth or do you just want to waste more and more of your time living in fantasy land? Just because you believe in fairytales or miracles does not mean they will come true for you.
Keep in mind that by standing your ground and creating and enforcing healthy boundaries does not insure he will step up to the plate. Each relationship is unique, and he may simply not be afraid of losing you because he doesn’t care enough or love you enough to do what is right. He may enjoy the unhealthy dysfunctional relationship that you have and resist any change. We can tell you if he will regret losing you and will step up to the plate or if he will let you go and find someone else to treat like dirt. What you do with that information is entirely up to you.
Fear can keep us from taking the one we love for granted, keep us from stepping out of line, or doing something to risk losing the one we love. If only one person in a relationship has that fear, the relationship will forever be one sided, and will never grow, mature, or last. It is time to face your fear of losing a relationship that is going no where, and it is time to implement the element of fear in the one you love, or it is simply time to let go and move on to something better.
If he does not value you, or the relationship he shares with you, how can you value yourself? You can’t. You won’t. Because if you did, you would get away from this idiot who places so little value on you. . So why do you continue to place value on the relationship? Why are you so afraid of letting it go? It wont bother him if you did let it go anyway – so what are you holding onto?
What it all boils down to is that a little fear in a relationship is actually healthy for the relationship. When both parties have a natural fear of losing each other they respect the relationship and each other. When you are the only one with fear in the relationship, the fear grows, and so does the neglect and mistreatment. There may be a chance to get that healthy fear back into your relationship before it is too late. You owe it to yourself to find out if you have a chance, and how to go about making your relationship better.
The Beatles said it when they sang “All you need is love”, but really, is love enough? Many people do believe that love and the connection they share with the one they love, their relationship will succeed. Many people believe that love is all you need and that love which is meant to be will be will conquer all.
Those statements, although very romantic, are not realistic. Life happens, and even the best of couples can get torn apart. Love is not always enough and does not always survive unscathed. Many people in soulmate relationships live under that false assumption that nothing can destroy their relationship. This is simply not true. How we behave and the things we say and do have a direct affect on our love and relationships. If the connection between you and your soulmate was so strong then why are you apart? Why are you and your soulmate not communicating properly? Why are you and your soulmate growing further and further part?
People believe that soul mates and twinflames always work things out. They believe that every obstacle can be overcome, simply because they are deeply connected. When it comes to love, it does not always keep us together, get us back together, or keep us from breaking up. People can start a relationship, develop feelings for one another, but for one reason or another, the relationship ends. Life is not always easy, in fact life can be very hard, just like matters of the heart. All relationships will have their ups and downs, but if your relationships has extreme highs and extreme lows, you may need guidance to get it to the level place. The extreme highs do not, and should not make up for the extreme lows. Your soulmate relationship should not go to extreme lows in the first place. A soulmate reading can help you get to the root of the problems in your soulmate relationship so you can avoid those lows as best as possible. Some things are out of our control, but what IS in your control you CAN control.
Our desire and need for others is what sustains and supports us through our daily lives. We should not leave it to fate, chance, or destiny to decide if our love will grow, or survive. Don’t keep yourself from doing what you can to successfully maintain a loving relationship with your soulmate. Take charge of the most important relationship in your life and do whatever you can to allow it to flourish.
Love may not be enough, but with some work, effort, and the guidance of soulmate psychics, Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise, you can discover all you need to keep your love alive. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise have helped many couples keep their relationship on track, and kept the feelings between them growing and evolving.
Trying to have a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man is very frustrating. Contrary to popular belief, just because someone is single does not mean they are emotionally available for a relationship. Just because someone is single does not mean they are relationship ready. Not everyone will be searching for their soulmate, or romantic partner, at all during this lifetime. They may very well be in a different place than you in their evolution and truly only are seeking a casual relationship. There are also people that have absolutely no intention of being monogamous (even though they lie and say they are) who will simply never be emotionally available for you. There are many reasons why people will not be emotionally available for the type of relationship you are looking for.
It is not always easy to spot an emotionally unavailable man. He may very well present himself to you in such a way that it makes you believe he is ready for love. Everything may even be progressing along nicely, you are spending time together and he may very well be pursuing you…and you like it. You have been hesitant with your feelings and keeping them in check, but he has insisted that you are the best thing ever. He may even talk about the connection the two of you share. When you finally give in and allow yourself to being to have an emotional connection to you… BAM…out come the signals of the emotional midget.. he withdraws, he pulls back, he starts to cancel dates or fail to respond to calls or messages. You are more confused than ever because he was the one who displayed the signs of being open emotionally.. but the instant you open up to him, the walls go up and the lines of communication go down. When the possibility of a real relationship became a reality to him, it was more than he could deal with .. emotionally. As long as it was an idea, it was ok, but the reality of it caused him to bolt.
Before you let your heart invest in a relationship, you need to make sure the man you choose is emotionally available. Here are some signs of an emotionally unavailable man so you can spot one quickly, before you are in too deep:
1. If he has a girlfriend or wife he is an emotionally unavailable man. If he has not divorced the wife and broken up with the girlfriend, he is emotionally unavailable to you. No ifs, ands or buts about it. If he is separated from his wife or broken-up with the girlfriend, but they still live together for ANY REASON AT ALL, he is and emotionally unavailable man and off-limits to your heart. When you have feelings or live with someone you cannot give someone else 100% of you, no matter how hard you try. So, you will never get all he has to give because he is not available enough to give it to you. Even though he says he does not love her. Even though he says he loves you. Even though he says they are not having sex and sleep in separate bedrooms. Even though he says he is only having sex with you. As long as any fragment of that relationship is intact, either because they are living together or waiting for the legalities of a divorce to come through, he is not fully emotionally available to you.
2. Communication – If he is hard to reach and disappears for days/weeks/months without warning (or explanation) then he is emotionally unavailable. If he wanted to get closer to you, he would keep your communication steady and reliable. You would talk about deeper things than sex, the weather and your jobs. He would use that communication to learn more about you and give you the chance to learn more about him. If trying to get him to talk is like pulling teeth, he is an emotionally unavailable man. If he is constantly unavailable when you call, text and email, the same rule applies. If the only way you communicate is through text, you both need to grow the hell up. If he does not make communication with you a part of his life, he is unavailable to make YOU a real part of his life.
3. If your relationship has no labels, boundaries, or definitions, you are with an emotionally unavailable man. If you do not know if you are his girlfriend, or if he wants a girlfriend, or if he has a girlfriend, the one thing you should know is you are with an emotionally unavailable man. If he does not want to talk about his feelings, where you fit into his life, where this relationship is going, if you are even in a relationship, then you need to run as fast as you can from this emotionally unavailable player/man. If his words and actions do not support each other, then you are with an emotionally unavailable man who is sending you mixed signals and has an agenda.
4. Dependability – When you are with a man long enough, the relationship develops a pattern. You talk once/twice/three times a day, see each other every “X” amount of days, and know you will see and hear from them again. When you are with an emotionally unavailable man, after you hang up the phone, you have no idea when you will speak to each other again. After you part company, you wonder when and if you will see them again. This is not normal and is unacceptable. If you cannot begin to depend on him to call and make plans to see you, he is emotionally unavailable. If you cannot depend on him to answer the phone when you call with an emergency, he is not emotionally available to you.
5. Someone who is single, but has not dealt with issues of a past relationship should be emotionally off limits to you. An emotionally unavailable man could still secretly be in love with his ex… or they tell you all about it.. all the time.. when you are out together. They have not resolved their feelings from their last relationship and could be using you as the rebound to help them get over the ex or they could be treading water with you in the hopes that the ex will be coming back into their life at some future point. If he tells you that he can’t open up to you because he is still trying to resolve the issues of his last relationship and then proceeds to tell you (with tears in his eyes) the gorey details that led to the relationship’s demise, in an effort to elicit sympathy from you… he is still emotionally attached to her and not available for you. You will not be able to rescue him or save him from the horrible creature who did this to him as he is still emotionally attached to her.
So what do you do with an emotionally unavailable man? How do you handle the relationship? Bottom line is that he will not be there for you. You may think that if he just needs to heal from a past relationship you can just sit tight and wait it out. But it is honestly not in your best interest to do that WITH him. No amount of love you show him or things you do for him (or give him) will be able to crack the steel drum around his heart. You can not fix him. You can’t heal him. It is not your responsibility anyway. You may want to be there for him so that when he does heal his emotional issues you are the first one that he turns to. Bottom line though is that if you made that great of an impression anyway, he would come to you when he is ready for love again.
Loving an emotionally unavailable man is very draining because you are doing all the work. He is doing nothing. You are giving and not receiving anything. You can only do that for so long until all your reserves are gone. Sitting back and hoping for change is not going to fix this dysfunctional relationship. We all want to do the best we can to not be shocked, disappointed or hurt in our relationships. The best insurance we have to prevent that from happening is to choose wisely, and the emotionally unavailable man is not a wise choice.