Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate obsession is very real. Sometimes the strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. And when people meet a soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much too soon. And they want to move the relationship along quickly to reach the finish line. They’re so excited this special someone is finally part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate the chaos, drama and upheaval that comes with some soulmate relationship.


When these problems arise, and at some point they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you’ve reading our articles you know soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short. And occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of them can become obsessed with their partner’s every thought, feeling and action. They feel if they have this information they’ll have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless. They think this will help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate doesn’t find someone else.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection
Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

They become more concerned with what’s going on with their soulmate than what’s transpiring in their own lives. They glean tidbits of information from social media, friends and stalking. And then enhance and elaborate it with their imagination.


The universe brings soulmates together for personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they’re doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate. You’re too focused on them rather than working on yourself.

But soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel wait forever and want to find them as quickly as possible. Because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially. But so does their disappointment and negativity.

This obsession with “when will I meet my soulmate” doesn’t help anything. It actually can hurt. How can you expect to attract a soulmate when you’re sending out so much negativity? Since you’re not in charge of when your soulmate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That’s their decision, not yours. So why try to take control by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there’s one for you, let go of the “when”. Because thats in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?


The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connection with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest point. This is not the time to stalk social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself.

The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It’s better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of the relationship. And make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better. But it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. Spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you. And seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.

The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it’s better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It’s the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.

11 thoughts on “Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection”

  1. Oh I have been there… it is a real dark night of the soul experience… you fight to get out and it takes a lot of work but it can be done. Everyone needs to be aware of this so thank for posting!


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