Soulmate Breakup – How to Cope with Losing a Soulmate

Soulmate breakup or estrangement is one of the toughest times a person can go through.

Breaking up is hard to do, but breaking up with a soulmate will be one of the most difficult things you ever experience.

As you are more than aware by now, a romantic soulmate relationship is very intense. The connection is on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. On the other hand, regular relationships may only be on the physical and mental, or even just physical only. The feeling of devastating loss is excruciating.


A soulmate breakup will make you feel like you are losing part of yourself. This is someone you have merged with and feel connected to. The removal of their presence and their energy from yours can make you feel like a part of you is dying.

And it is a death of sorts. It’s about change and transformation, which is what death is anyway. You’re saying goodbye not only to your soulmate, but to a part of yourself. It is heartbreaking and you will suffer. But you will get through it all and you will love again. Just not next week. Healing from a soulmate breakup will take time. A long time.

There are many reasons soulmates end a soulmate relationship.

Perhaps you and your soulmate have broken up many times before. This has become a pattern in your relationship. You are together, then apart, then back together again. Each time one of you goes through the feelings of loss and grief. The other does not. They know the pattern, so they do not feel the loss.

Or, you find you’re no longer happy in the relationship and end things because your partner would not make necessary changes. You tried and tried and hung in there, but you just can’t do it anymore. You’re the only one who has worked on improving your relationship but your soulmate has been lazy.

Soulmate Breakup - How to Cope with Losing a Soulmate
Soulmate Breakup – How to Cope with Losing a Soulmate

You have been patient with them and encouraged them to change. But they still aren’t moving the relationship in the direction you would like. So you broke up with them.

It could also be that your soulmate ended your relationship out of the blue, and for no good reason. They may even be ghosting you, and refuse to communicate with you at all. Either way, it is really hard for you to deal with. So what now? What can you do to get through this?


It is time you took a realistic look at your relationship. Stop focusing on the good for a while. What went wrong along the way? Were there red flags you ignored? Were you an enabler?

Maybe your soulmate has been treating you disrespectfully. Perhaps they were not honoring the connection and treating you horribly. Sure, the good times were good, but it now time to pay attention to the bad time. The bad times are what got you here.

In so many cases soulmates rekindle their relationships. So, instead of crying, driving yourself crazy, and staying depressed, use your time in a useful way. Look at what needs to change should you get back together. Not just on their end, but on yours.

It doesn’t matter if you do not think they will come back. This is what you should be doing regardless of it they do or if they don’t. You need to learn from this relationship, not just grieve over it. There are lessons there, find them, and get to work on yourself

When you experience a soulmate breakup you will see the connection is still alive. Don’t try and break the connection. You can’t truly break it, but you can deal with it. It will take some time for you to feel whole again. Honor that. Honor yourself.

Originally posted on 2012-02-27 @ 5:28 pm

8 thoughts on “Soulmate Breakup – How to Cope with Losing a Soulmate”

  1. Sometimes soulmates have to break up so they can learn their lessons alone because they are not learning them together. Right?

  2. I had to break up with my soulmate 3 mos. ago due to him panicking about love and commitment, causing a fight and then cheating on me. He has attachment disorder from being abused as a child. We were both abused as children, but we had many other great connections too. He tried to get my attention many ways, but I had to ignore them. He is destructive right now, with depression, anxiety, alcohol and cheating. Then on purpose he knew I was attending an outdoor event and he had a much younger woman meet him there where he flirted with her right in front of me. It has been a very painful experience on so many levels. I just have never felt this strongly for anyone or felt so connected, but he runs from the intense connection. He is so scared. I am so sad and feel so lost.

    • Yes he is and these are the typical kind of personal growth issues that have to be addressed individually in a soulmate relationship. yes the connection is there but.. he is not a whole person as he is just now with all of his dysfunction and issues. These need to be addressed by him… and he must grow and evolve into a better person before any relationship between the two of you would work out.

  3. Thanks for this post. This is really helpful for people who experienced breaking up with his/her soul mate. It is nice to be in love but I think we should not give it all, leave love for yourself.

  4. Yes Michelle they can and we have some articles here about that. BTW you did the right thing by separating yourself from this right now while he works on himself and his issues. This is what he needs to fix before you can both consider working on the relationship togteher

  5. Do soulmates ever get back together after a separation ?? I can’t see life with out my other half.. I broke it off since he is having depression problems and is working on himself.. Which is a good thing..


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