Is your soulmate insecure?
Is your soulmate constantly interrogating you? Does your soulmate always want to know where you are, who you’re with and what you’re doing? Do they constantly ask you what’s wrong when nothing is wrong? Are they asking you what you’re thinking and what you’re feeling all the time?
An insecure soulmate will do just that and even more.
They may want all the passwords to your phone and social media accounts. An insecure soulmate can exhibit clingy and needy behaviors. Because of their insecurities, some soulmates don’t want you to spend time with anyone but them. If you insist on spending time with friends and family, you can’t go alone. They insist on going with you even if you’re doing something they have zero interest in.
An insecure soulmate will constantly seek assurance from you. It is a well that will never run dry. They need you to let them know almost daily how you feel about them, that you won’t leave them and that things are good between you. No matter how many times you tell them they will still try to get reassurance from you.
There will come a point where you will find this exhausting and feel like a full-time job. Keep in mind if you are the soulmate that is insecure, your soulmate is suffering as a result. So how can a soulmate deal with the insecure feelings?
DEALING WITH INSECURE FEELINGS
1. Don’t be afraid to speak up and set some boundaries. You and your soulmate need to reach an agreement that if there is something wrong you’ll say so. This way, neither one of you has to worry that something may be wrong. If there is, you will know about it. Also agree that if either of you asks if something is wrong and are told no, you will accept that answer and drop it.
2. Don’t twist each others words or over analyze everything that’s said and done. Sometimes one of you may be being quiet just because you feel like being quiet. That doesn’t mean feelings have changed or that they’re seeing someone else. Don’t go looking for trouble, because it almost always causes trouble.
3. Accept that neither you nor your soulmate are perfect people. Both of you will be moody at times. Both of you will most likely take out your bad day at work on each other at least once. Your relationship won’t be perfect, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t working. Don’t have unrealistic expectations of each other or the relationship.
4. Believe it or not, to deal with an insecure soulmate, sometimes you must spend less time with them. Don’t feed into their need for attention. No one wants to be smothered. No one should base their entire life and happiness on one person. Having outside interests, and time for other people, is good for a relationship. Insecure people have to learn to trust and letting your soulmate spend the afternoon with their friends is a good way to start. Don’t contact them endlessly during that time. It only defeats the purpose.
5. Stop confusing your past relationships with your current one. It stands to reason that a toxic relationship in your past may have made you insecure. Be cautious at first, if you must, but to keep that insecurity throughout your new relationship? No way. You have no right to let your past relationships sabotage your present one. If your soulmate didn’t do it, then why are they being punished for it? It’s not fair and it needs to stop.
There are a lot of ways to help dispel insecure feelings. An open dialogue with your soulmate and work from both partners can help rid your relationship of insecurity issues. It takes a lot of work to be insecure. Put that work to better use and you will both feel more secure going forward.
Originally posted on 2019-07-20 @ 5:21 pm