Is my soulmate seeing someone else? This question seems to come up constantly whenever someone’s soulmate starts behaving oddly. Even if they know for a fact that their soulmate is knee-deep in a work project and completely stressed out about it. They still ask us “Is my soulmate seeing someone else?”
ARE THEY REALLY SEEING SOMEONE ELSE?
It isn’t like soulmates never see someone else or cheat. Because they’re like every other couple on the planet. And it can happen to anyone. Everyone should be smart enough to look for the signs that their soulmate is cheating. The problem arises when that’s the first conclusion they always jump to.
If you’ve been involved with a cheater before, it’s easy to jump to this conclusion. But just because your last relationship involved cheating doesn’t mean your current one will. No one wants to suffer from someone else’s mistakes, especially your soulmate. What your ex did to you sucks. And it hurt you very much. But this doesn’t give you the right to accuse your new love of cheating.
If they’ve done enough to earn your trust that should be enough. If there really are red flags that’s one thing. But using your vivid imagination is another. Many soulmates experience separation because one of them couldn’t deal with constant accusations of cheating when they weren’t. They became angry there was no trust in the relationship after so much time spent together and doing nothing wrong. Finally they couldn’t take it anymore and walked away.
ARE THERE ISSUES YOU NEED TO FIX?
If you have insecurity or abandonment issues you probably worry all the time that your soulmate is seeing someone else. Your soulmate can’t fix those issues for you. And it is not their job to fix them either. That’s up to you. It’s up to you to work on yourself or get some help to resolve those issues. Otherwise you’re creating an environment in your relationship where you could lose your soulmate down the line. You’re creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and sabotaging your relationship. So don’t think you are going to get away with it indefinitely.
If you have good reason to believe they’re seeing someone else address it right away. They may deny it even if they are. So you may have to be covert to get some proof. If they come clean, and once emotions are dialed down, you’re going to have to discuss where you go from here. If you’re both willing to work at it and put it behind you, then you both have to be committed to doing just that.
You can’t hold onto to your anger and punish them forever. Of course your soulmate has to understand it will take a long time before you let go of that anger. And they do deserve some punishment for betraying you like that. If you both work together towards healing your broken heart then your broken relationship has a good chance of surviving this.