Is he my soulmate? Is she my soulmate?
Many people call us seeking validation to these questions.
Here are some hypothetical scenarios and common questions we get to help decide for yourself.
1. Is my ex my soulmate?
I am still in love with my ex. We had this amazing connection. So could he be my soulmate?
The answer is yes. It’s possible your ex is a soul connection. If you felt a connection unlike anything you have ever felt before, this could indicate you’re soulmates. Did the relationship feel very intense and move rather quickly? This too can indicate a true spiritual connection.
2. Strangers in the night.
I saw a woman at a social function the other night. When we exchanged glances a few times it was so intense. Could she be my soulmate?
The answer is, if you don’t see them again any time relatively soon, they may not be a soulmate. Without a name or any way of contacting each other, chances are she’s not. Why would the universe create a connection but not a meeting or opportunity for more?
In order for someone to have a soul connection, there needs to be depth. Not just glances across a crowded room and nothing ever comes of it. The universe will always allow for soulmates to have a chance at something significant. There is a chance this meeting will not be the only time you come in contact with this person.
3. Texting only relationship.
I get a weekly text message from this guy I had a one night stand with two-years ago. Are we meant to be something more? Our physical chemistry was off the charts so I thought he might be a soul connection.
The answer is more than likely, no. Receiving a text message once a week from a guy you slept with 2 years ago doesn’t really fit.
When soulmates first meet, something special happens, even if it only lasts a short time. It would be more than just sex alone. Sometimes sexual chemistry is just that, great chemistry and nothing more. Unless he shows you signs he feels a connection to you as well, this leans more to a no. Soulmate connections always go both ways.
4. I met someone on a dating app but not in person.
I met this lady on a dating app. We’ve been texting and talking on the phone for months, is she my soulmate?
Now this lady could actually be your soulmate! But, you won’t really know until you meet her in person. You can have what seems like a great connection through text or the phone. But you really need to see if the connection is there when you meet in person. It may fizzle, it may be great. But you won’t really know until you meet face to face.
5. I met this amazing guy and we’ve been together for a long time.
I am in a relationship with this amazing guy. He helped me work through all my abandonment issues. And I was able to teach him about unconditional love. We have changed for the better and are very committed towards one another. We both feel this strong connection between us.
Yes, he is your soulmate!
6. I have a strong connection to this person but they’re married.
Could my soulmate already be married? The answer is yes.
Someone can be your soulmate if they’re married or already in another relationship. Many times soulmates marry other people before they find each other. In some cases the universe has to put soulmates together when one or both are not single. It is the only way for them to become single!
7. This guy treats me like crap. Soulmates wouldn’t treat each other badly, would they?
If he’s my soulmate why does he treat me like crap? Unfortunately, sometimes soulmates mistreat each other. Or just one of you does. Soulmates often take advantage of the connection between them thinking they can get away with murder.
The problem is the other soulmate often allows it because of the connection they share. Just because someone treats you badly doesn’t mean they’re not a soulmate. But it also does not mean you should put up with it either.
8. He has a girlfriend.
He has a girlfriend but we have an amazing connection. Just like the case with married soulmates, the same applies to girlfriends or boyfriends.
Sometimes soulmates meet at the right time so they don’t make a mistake and date or marry the wrong person. Sometimes they’re already in relationships when they meet their soulmate. This presents them with the challenge of leaving that relationship so they can be with their soulmate.
It’s a catalyst for change. If he does it, and you wind up together, it’s a good chance he is your soulmate.
9. She doesn’t feel the same about me as I do about her.
Is she my soulmate if she doesn’t feel the same way about me? If they truly don’t have the same feelings you do, then the answer is no. They are not a soulmate.
Like we said earlier, a connection goes both ways. If she doesn’t feel the same way about you now, and isn’t willing to consider it for the future, she isn’t a soulmate. Perhaps she’s concealing her feelings for you.
Sometimes people fight these spiritual unions. They choose to ignore them and push them away. Their could be a soulmate connection here but they clearly do not want to do anything about it at this time.
10. Are we soulmates if our relationship has a lot of problems?
Can we truly be in spiritual partnership if our relationship has one problem or issue after the other? Aren’t we supposed to meet and then be happy?
Some soulmate relationships are really put to the test. But you’re supposed to rise above them. Quite often soulmate relationships are exceptionally difficult ones. Although they can have drama and challenges those can be overcome if the connection is real.
11. He refuses to change.
How can he be my soulmate if he refuses to change? Soulmates, just like everyone else, resist change. People don’t like change. Now some soulmates can and will change, but you need to look at what changes you can make to get the ball rolling.
Perhaps you’re hanging in there because you think he’s your soulmate. Yet he makes no effort to change. If you really believe he’s your soulmate, you should have the strength to put your foot down. It’s time to take a stand and stop enabling them.
12. He has addictions.
Is he my soulmate if he has an addiction problem?
Yes, you can have a spiritual partner who’s addicted to drugs, alcohol or anything else. But just like with every other addict, their disease comes before your relationship. They need to get help, and remain clean, for your soulmate relationship to move forward and stabilize.
Sometimes it’s hard to discern whether someone is the one for you. You may believe you read the signs and signals right. It is easier to identify when both partners validate the connection. It is harder when one denies it or won’t be truthful.
Originally posted on 2012-03-31 @ 1:30 pm