Interfering in your soulmate’s lessons is easier than focusing on your own.
No one likes to look at their own behaviors and shortcomings. It’s easier to focus on someone else’s issues and want them to change. This is the wrong thing to do with a soulmate.
That’s not how soulmate relationships work.
When we focus on our soulmate’s lessons, we avoid the lessons and growth that are a crucial part of our soulmate journey.
Instead we wonder when they will call, when they will change, when will they leave their spouse and when will they get their act together.
We don’t learn, they don’t learn, and the relationship deteriorates.
DON’T FOCUS ON YOUR SOULMATE’S LESSONS
Take your attention off of them and instead, concentrate on yourself. You can’t learn their lessons for them. We get so many clients looking only at their partners behaviors and not their own. We get calls all the time asking us questions like:
- When will my soulmate end their other relationship?
- When will he or she be ready to commit to me?
- Why isn’t my soulmate talking to me?
- Why is my soulmate ignoring my repeated texts and phone calls?
- When will my soulmate change?
- What are my soulmate’s lessons in this relationship?
FOCUS ON YOURS
Your soulmate’s challenge is to end their previous relationship to be with you. That’s their lesson. Now, what is yours? If you work on yours, it should be a catalyst for them to deal with theirs.
It’s the same with the commitment question. Your soulmate may have to focus on their commitment issues for your relationship to move forward. Now ask yourself what should you change about yourself in regards to this? Maybe you keep getting involved with unavailable people. It could be several different things within you that allow this lack of commitment to continue.
If your soulmate has ghosted you by not responding to your texts or calls, that is on them. Your lesson is to ask yourself why you allow this behavior to happen without consequence? Will you allow it to become a pattern
in your relationship, thereby sabotaging it from growth?
All of those questions are about what the other person needs to fix to the relationship to thrive. It takes two people, not just one. If you allow the bad behaviors to continue you’re keeping them from learning and growing. If you create excuse after excuse for them, they have no reason to do things differently.
You are stunting both their growth and your relationship. You’re getting in the way of the real purpose of your soulmate connection. Is it any wonder that the relationship is getting worse and worse?
SOME SOULMATES ONLY LEARN LESSONS IN SEPARATION
Perhaps they need a period of disconnect and no communication to get their act together. This is because they’re not bringing out the best in each other. They aren’t the catalyst for one another evolving.
Instead, they support each other’s stagnation. They allow their spiritual partner to behave abominably. They lower their standards and push aside warning signs when they appear. Why?
Well, they believe that when it comes to a soulmate, they’re supposed to. That couldn’t be further from the truth. This is one of the main reasons why soulmate relationships are so tough for so many couples.
It’s not the universe’s fault. It’s not something that’s destined to happen. It is because of the deviation from the spiritual path. We all know right from wrong.
Yet what seems to escape people is that unless their soulmate relationship is held to higher standards, and traveling on a spiritual path, it will be a disaster. The spiritual connection is for the couple to do with what they choose.
They want to use it to create a strong, long lasting, nurturing partnership? No problem. All you they to do is come from a place of strength, create and enforce healthy boundaries, and refuse to succumb to lower vibration emotions, thoughts and behaviors.
If either soulmate decides to go the route of allowing behaviors they never would in any other relationship, or those they know are beneath them, the relationship will suffer. The couple will most likely separate at some point and have to make the changes they have avoided by themselves.
WHAT NEEDS TO CHANGE
Take a good look at the relationship first. Then make a list of the negative things you tolerate from your partner. Ask yourself what you were feeling at the time that caused you to let it slide.
Right there you will find an opportunity for growth. You know deep down you shouldn’t have let that become a part of your relationship. You wouldn’t have permitted anyone else to behave that way around you. Or do you always let people get away with behavior like that?
It’s time to make a change within yourself so you no longer tolerate it going forward. Focus on what things within you need to be addressed so you can become a better, stronger person. Remember our soulmates mirror and reflect back to us the things within ourselves we need to work on.
What were your soulmate lessons? Comment below!
Originally posted on 2012-03-05 @ 9:18 pm