Once you get on the soulmate merry-go-round it can be tough to get off. You didn’t sign up for a ride that can literally spin you out of control. But the ride never seems to slow down enough for you to get off. So how did you wind up on the soulmate merry-go-round?
LESSONS OF THE SOULMATE MERRY-GO-ROUND
When soulmates first meet the highs are unimaginable. You get swept away in the moment and in the emotion. It’s something so unique you can’t help but want to go with the flow. Emotions are everywhere and feelings are off the charts. Because of the soulmate connection there is a sense of recognition. And you feel you’ve known this person far longer than you actually have. It seems to easy. And feels so right.
These feelings are real between soulmates. But what’s also reality is that you don’t know your soulmate in some very important ways. Sure, you may know a lot of personal details. But you don’t know what your connection is meant to teach both of you. Those lessons will challenge your soulmate, your relationship and you. It’s all tied together.
It’s these lessons that start the soulmate merry-go-round. You go round and round and round, just like on a real merry-go-round. But what’s more important is how you handle things while you’re spinning. It’s how both soulmates react and behave when their “ride” goes around and around. Because that’s what sets relationship patterns and boundaries going forward. It shapes the relationship itself and where it’s headed.
If you don’t handle your soulmate merry-go-round well, you can expect the ride to continue. Just like the amusement park. And it’s the same thing with the soulmate roller coaster. Don’t expect it to stop on its own. One of you caused the spinning. But it’s up to both of you to handle it properly so it doesn’t keep happening.
TIME FOR A DIFFERENT RIDE!
For instance, let’s say everything is going great between you. You’re both happy, in love and planning for your future. You’re getting great along and everything seems perfect. Then out of the blue your soulmate’s ex calls. You get nervous. But your soulmate reassures you there’s nothing to worry about. They already told you how horrible and toxic that relationship was. So you relax a little. Now learn ex called again. Or find out they’ve been talking here and there. Alarm bells should be going off. And here comes a soulmate merry-go-round spin cycle.
You can be firm and tell them their ex has no place in your relationship. And they must cease conversation with them, or you can’t trust them to handle it. But at this point you should know already they’re not handling it properly. If you don’t put your foot down chances are you’re going to have to deal with their ex’s interference for a long time to come. This will erode the trust in your relationship and cause insecurity and arguments. Or they could suddenly dump you and go back to their ex. So you really have no choice but to nip this in the bud. So do you? No, you don’t.
And if you don’t nip it in the bud, your soulmate and their ex have taken control of the soulmate merry-go-round. And the ride is going to become very unpleasant for you. Your soulmate’s lesson has come into play. They should have chosen to avoid their ex at all costs. But they opened the door instead. If you don’t do what you should do, which is stand your ground and let them know this is unacceptable, you’re allowing a soulmate relationship that will now involve a third-party.
Trust us, you do NOT want to do this. Bring the ride to a screeching halt. Get off the ride if you have to. Let your soulmate take the ride themselves. And wait for their ride without you to get so unpleasant they get off. Don’t take that ride with them. It will only prolong this soulmate merry-go-round ride from hell. And that’s the last thing you want to do.