Does your soulmate act like an asshole sometimes or worse yet, all the time? Soulmates bring to mind such romantic words and feelings, that it is hard to believe a soulmate could act like an asshole. Aren’t soulmates supposed to be perfect for us and isn’t the relationship supposed to be like it is in the movies? The answer is a big fat “No”.
Soulmates are imperfect. The reason they are bonded together with such a strong connection is that their encounters gives them the opportunity to become better people. If they get their act together and become better people, they have fantastic, almost magical relationships. If they don’t get their act together, rest assured one (or both) of them will act like an asshole.
Soulmates bring out the best and the worst in us. When it brings out the worst in us we are supposed to acknowledge it and create change. Whether it is insecurity, jealousy, or a myriad of different things, they are meant to come to the surface and be dealt with.
What often happens though is that those issues or areas soulmates are meant to work on get worse, not better. That is why people often have to deal with a soulmate who is acting like an asshole. Since emotions run high and deep, our emotions can get the better of us. When we act emotionally, we do not always make the best rational decisions, because we are feeling, rather than thinking things through.
Many people are shocked because they believe that someone who loves you, really loves you would never ever act like an asshole towards you. They believe that loving someone hits the inner “asshole” button inside us all and deletes it. Doesn’t work that way. Just because your soulmate acts like an asshole sometimes (or a lot) doesn’t mean they don’t care for you or love you. They just don’t know how to have a healthy relationship and respect proper boundaries.
So if this is happening to you, ask yourself, why doesn’t your soulmate know how to have a healthy relationship? Have they had unhealthy relationships before? Are you allowing unhealthy behaviors in your relationship with your soulmate? Be honest with yourself, are you contributing to their acting like an asshole by letting them get away with it, and therefore enabling it? Because if you are, it is you that needs to make a change in order for your soulmate to change. You may have not put up with this kind of thing before, and you shouldn’t be doing it now. Not even for a soulmate. So do what is right, instead of what is safe, and stop tolerating it and letting them get away with it or things will never change.
Also check out our article, Is Your Soulmate Out of Control?, for greater insight into this topic.