Your job in a soulmate relationship is not to simply sit back and enjoy the love and romance. Quite the contrary. Your job in a soulmate relationship will be a lot of hard work, and may even make you think of quitting. Soulmate relationships are rarely, if ever, easy ones. That is more for twin flames. Soulmates, on the other hand, are tested, and challenged. And if they don’t pass the tests and learn their lessons, they are repeated, over and over. The work, then becomes harder and harder. A soulmate’s job is to assist their partners growth, as well as their own. Note we said assist. Not try doing their work for them. Not enable them to do the exact opposite, as many soulmates do. If you try either of those tactics, you are not only keeping them from growing and evolving, you are preventing yourself from doing what you need to do. You would be surprised how many people in a soulmate relationship are not doing their job.
So what is exactly is your job in a soulmate relationship? Because each soulmate relationship and individuals involved is unique, there is no blanket answer that covers everyone. You must figure it out on your own, with the help of your soulmate. You both with bring up things in each other that must be changed or healed in order to grow and to take your relationship to the next level. If that is not accomplished, the soulmate relationship becomes a disaster.
This is why many people have said they feel like soulmates are a curse, and not a blessing. Each soulmate needs to address what is causing crisis in their relationship. Let’s say one soulmate is afraid of the connection so they decide to sabotage the relationship by turning their back and dating other people. They refuse to make a commitment to their soulmate and if they do, often change their mind. One soulmate keeps begging for a commitment, allowing themselves to be in a dysfunctional relationship with a soulmate who is seeing someone else, or multiple people, because they fear their soulmate will forget all about them and wind up with someone else. Neither one of them are doing their job.
Soulmate #1 is supposed to work through releasing the fear of the connection, accept it, acknowledge it, and take a leap of faith. Soulmate #2 is supposed to overcome their fear by trusting in the connection and to do what is right for their own personal growth. Soulmate #2 is supposed to end it with their soulmate until they can give their relationship a real chance. They too are supposed to take a leap of faith, but surrendered to the fear Soulmate #1 created. This is actually keeping them from doing their job. See how it works?
Soulmates should have faith in their connection so they can do their job. When they don’t have faith fear and doubt creep in and they actually wind up doing things that sabotage their soulmate relationship. Many times they are so focused on what they think their soulmate is doing, rather than figuring out what they should be doing. So if you have found yourself in a dysfunctional soulmate relationship, chances are, at least one, if not both, of you isn’t doing their job.