Your job in a soulmate relationship is not to simply sit back and enjoy the love and romance. Quite the contrary.
Your job in a soulmate relationship will be a lot of hard work.
During certain times you may even think of quitting. Soulmate relationships are difficult ones. They’re not an easy road to travel.
Soulmates, as a couple and individually, will endure tests and challenges.
These tests, if not passed and the lessons not learned, are repeated. Over and over. The work to repair the damage becomes harder over time.
A soulmate’s job is to assist their partner’s growth as well as their own. However, it’s not your job to learn their lessons for them. They need to do so for their own growth and to move further along on their spiritual path.
Note we only said assist.
You can’t take on doing their work for them. And you shouldn’t enable them to do the exact opposite, as many soulmates do. If you try either of those tactics, you’re keeping them from growing and evolving. You’re also preventing yourself from doing what you need to do. It’s surprising how many people in soulmate relationships aren’t doing their job. Why would the relationship work out if neither of you are doing the right thing?
YOUR JOB IN A SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP IS…
Because each soulmate relationship is unique, there’s no blanket answer that covers everyone. You must figure it out on your own, but with the help of your soulmate. You’ll both bring up things in each other that must change or heal in order to take your relationship to the next level.
If that’s not accomplished, the soulmate relationship becomes a disaster. This is why many people say soulmates are a curse, and not just a blessing. Each soulmate needs to address what’s causing the crisis in their relationship and internally within them.
Let’s say one soulmate is afraid of the connection.
So they decide to sabotage the relationship by turning their back on their soulmate. They begin to date other people. If they take them back, with no real consequences, it will happen again. The soulmate has done nothing to address their fear of the connection. So it stands to reason they will repeat the bad behavior. Allowing them back too easily is counterproductive.
What should happen is this. The abandoned soulmate should make their partner work very hard to get them back. They should awaken a fear that they could lose them if they do this again. There needs to be a discussion about what made them do it in the first place. A suggestion to seek counseling to get over their fears would also have been a good idea.
Soulmates should have faith in their connection so they can do their job. When they don’t have faith, fear and doubt creeps in and they actually wind up doing things that sabotage their soulmate relationship.
Many times they’re focused on what they think their soulmate is doing, rather than figuring out what they should be doing. So if you have found yourself in a dysfunctional soulmate relationship, chances are, at least one, if not both, of you isn’t doing their job.
Originally posted on 2015-12-30 @ 3:00 pm