The Truth About Soulmates
Soulmates is often a misused word. There is not one, and only one person, who you are destined to be with in this life. Soulmates may even change as you go through life lessons. A soulmate is simply the “closest person” to you on your life path for an important life lesson at a given point in time. Your soulmate can be your sister, your best friend, a lover, a favorite pet or even someone you cross paths with only briefly. I saw this article and thought I would pass it along. Please do not spend your life pursuing a person that you feel is your one and only soulmate…you will miss out on so much!
The truth about soulmates
By Barrie Dolnick
We’ve all heard stories about people who lock eyes across a crowded room and know for sure they’ll marry each other. They are soulmates, right? Could be. But that’s not the only way you meet them, and its certainly not always instant love. Toss your preconceived notions about soulmates and learn what the experts say. It may surprise you.
Soulmates are not a one-shot deal. Don’t panic. You didn’t miss meeting your soul mate when you skipped going to that party last weekend. Soul mates find you if you’re open to them. Besides, you don’t have one great love, you have many potential great loves. According to New York Minister and Psycho-Spiritual Counselor, Susan Lemak, soul mates are profound soul connections in your life. When you’re with one, you stop looking, so you’re not aware of the other potential soul mates around you. While you’re thinking how hard it is to find The One, the reality is that its hard for you to choose. A soul mate is someone who reflects or matches your energy and your path in life. A soul mate is someone whose power and potential are complementary to your own. And you’ll find them in the most unlikely places. Lemak adds, You know that great person sitting near you at work? The one who makes you laugh, but might be 10 pounds overweight? Maybe not the coolest person but dig a little deeper. You could find a soul mate in there.
Soulmates are about work, not play. The word soul mate opens a gigantic can of karma. While dating and light relationships are all about fun and playfulness, soul mates are all about deep emotional support, trust and faith. When you choose to go deeper with someone, you’re opening yourself up you get emotionally naked. Susan Strong, San Mateo-based astrologer and metaphysical counselor jokes, Sometimes our soul mates become our cross to bear. You marry someone who is your soul mate and, over time, you realize youre connected not just through chemistry, but because you are there to help each other.
I tend to disagree with this statement here as I know many men ARE seeking and do have the ability to feel a deep connection to someone. Just ask any of our hundreds of male clients! I am leaving the text here though in its completeness for reading…)
Most guys don’t think about soulmates, no matter what The Bachelor says. Strong also considers the very concept of soul mates a more feminine event. Men don’t look for soul mates nor do they really think about meeting their soul mate. Sure, a man can be in a happy, committed, connected relationship, but he wont necessarily tell his friends that hes with his soul mate. Women are more aware of a soul connection because they are more introspective in that way. Women need to feel a deeper connection with a man. That soul connection is there but men just don’t define it.
Soulmates are not necessarily permanent. Like the ending of a fairytale, were often raised to believe that a soul mate is our happily over after. How old were you when realized that fairy tales don’t come true? Soul mates are certainly considered the prince charming and his princess of modern romance. Yet what happens if your romance goes sour and that soul mate turns out to be a bum? Of course you’re not out of luck. You move on, heal, and open up to the next soul mate. If you look at the traditional idea of soul mates, your beloved, you’ll realize that a higher force may have more than one love in store for you. To love someone and be loved is a deeply spiritual state.
In the words of St. Theresa of Avila,
Accustom yourself continually to make many acts of love, for they enkindle and melt the soul.