Do Excuses Keep You Stuck in a Dysfunctional Soulmate Relationship?

Are excuses keeping you stuck in a dysfunctional soulmate relationship? We hear many excuses from people who believe they’re in a soulmate relationship. But they really aren’t.


They say they have to stay in the relationship due to their soul connection. In reality this just allows them to stay stuck in a dysfunctional relationship. They use the soulmate excuse rather than create change they need to leave the relationship. And to move on with their lives. They’re miserable and with the wrong people. So they hold on tightly to the one who isn’t their soulmate. Why can’t they accept it and move on to find their spiritual partner?

Another soulmate excuse is when someone allows their soulmate, or one who they believe is their soulmate, to mistreat, disrespect and under value them. They think the connection is special, So they excuse their behavior and words. They wouldn’t allow other romantic partners to treat them so horribly. But because they believe this person is their soulmate, they permit this mistreatment.

Do Excuses Keeping You Stuck in a Dysfunctional Soulmate Relationship?
Do Excuses Keeping You Stuck in a Dysfunctional Soulmate Relationship?

The third example of a soulmate excuse is the one people give for their own actions and words, because they feel they should be excused. After all, it’s only because of the soulmate relationship, and the challenges it brings, that they do and say these things. They feel they have carte blanche when it comes to their soulmate, and all forms of reason, logic and karma goes right out the window.


If you believe someone is your soulmate you shouldn’t excuse their bad behavior. You shouldn’t excuse them for cheating on you. Or abusing you verbally, physically or emotionally. And you shouldn’t give them a pass for coming in and out of your life when they feel like it. Also you shouldn’t put your life on hold if they won’t end another relationship to be with you.

Do you really think the Universe put the two of you together so it could be like this? Does the Universe create a spiritual union only so one can be treated like garbage? No, it doesn’t. You can’t use the soulmate excuse to continue tolerating negative and abusive treatment. That’s not what this soulmate connection is for.

It’s for both of you to learn, grow and evolve into better people. And better romantic partners. It’s not so you can suffer abuse. If this is really is a dysfunctional soulmate relationship, it’s up to you both to fix it. You need to discover your role in this relationship. And allow them to do their part, not excuse them from doing it.


Many dysfunctional relationships have their own connection as well. This can actually feel like a soulmate connection. The co-dependency of a relationship can make is appear to be a spiritual thing. But it’s really coming from the wrong place. It has nothing to do with spirituality at all. But people want to “pretty it up” rather than look at how ugly it really is. This is what we call a false soulmate.

People who are being manipulated have lost their self esteem. Those who have been abused can sometimes feel something is wrong. But their romantic partner has power over them. But it has zero to do with a soulmate connection. They want to think it’s a soulmate connection rather than face the reality they’re in a dead-end relationship that will never work. No matter how hard they try.

Your soulmate should bring out the best in you. And you should do the same for them. That’s not to say they will make you happy all of the time or there won’t be struggles and obstacles along the way. These struggles and obstacles are the things that create the growth. And ultimately improve your soulmate relationship.  Making excuses for your soulmate, by either acting out or allowing them to act out, will not bring out the best in each other. Clearly it will bring out the worst.