It’s very easy to idealize your soulmate. Strong feelings for them overcome all logic. Intense emotions will cover a lot of their sins and transgressions. It’s so easy to see only their good points and behaviors while you completely ignore their bad side. When you continually see your soulmate through rose-colored glasses you’re unable to address issues and concerns in your soulmate’s behavior. You have to stop idealizing your soul mate.
We realize your connection is beyond anything you’ve ever felt with anyone else. You tolerate behaviors you normally don’t tolerate from anyone else in your life. You know how great the relationship can be. So you hang in there with them. They refuse to show you how they feel. Yet you remain centered on the deep feelings soulmates have for each other. You remember how loving they can be and yearn for the day you can have an perfect relationship.
You need to knock it off!
It’s time for the rose-colored glasses to come off and see things from a realistic perspective. You’re dealing with a human being, with issues and imperfections. And they are as much a part of your soulmate as all the mushy, gooey stuff. It’s great to see the best in your soulmate. There’s nothing wrong with having a positive outlook. It only becomes a problem when it keeps you from addressing the problems within your soulmate relationship.
It’s magical to think you could have a supportive, harmonious relationship. And that’s important to the success of the relationship. But it’s equally important to understand why you don’t have a supportive, harmonious relationship with your soulmate. The first step is to stop idealizing your soul mate.
STEPS TO STOP IDEALIZING YOUR SOULMATE
- The first way to stop idealizing your soulmate is to stop making excuses for them. They may have stress at work but it can’t keep excusing how it affects your relationship. Stop excusing all their excuses. Especially if their excuses are lame. You want things to change. And you want your soulmate to stop behaving like an idiot. You don’t want excuses, you want action.
- The second way to stop idealizing your soulmate is to focus on your recent history. But not your past history. Your soulmate was probably awesome when you first got together . And everything was sunshine and roses. This isn’t the life you’re currently living. What relationship came out of that time? Your current relationship needs your attention. Not the one you had in the beginning. Deal with who your soulmate is now. And not who they were when you first got together. See them for who they are now, not just who they were then. Your soulmate is a sum of both of those parts. You may not like one side of them. So you must deal with them until you accept the other side exists.
- If you’ve separated, or ended the relationship, don’t idealize them. It’s crucial to remember the reasons for your separation. Don’t forget what the issues were that drove you apart. Instead of focusing on how much you miss them, focus on what you don’t miss. Or you can reach the point where you idealize them so much you’ll welcome them back with open arms. If you idealize your soulmate and don’t learn from your experience with them, the experience will repeat itself again. Either with them or another soulmate down the line. The same problems will return. And it’s very likely you will be separated or break up again.
A soulmate is the one many consider to be the ideal match or the ideal mate. But don’t idealize your soulmate so much that you can’t tackle the issues and challenges that come with soulmate relationships.