Can you trust your soulmate? This depends on whether you soulmate has done anything to cause you to lose your trust. If not, it may be your own individual trust issues getting in the way of your relationship. Either way, the issue of trust needs to be addressed or this relationship won’t be able to grow.
A relationship without trust is a dysfunctional relationship. If there is a solid reason, backed by evidence, that you cannot trust your soulmate, you need to have a conversation about your lack of trust. Your soulmate may constantly fail to follow through on specific plans you make together. They may promise to spend time with you and then don’t make the time to be with you. Your soul mate may tell you they will never bring up certain subjects or be cruel the next time you fight. But lo and behold, they did it again and you find it hard to believe a single word they say anymore.
Promises mean nothing, and so does their word. Apologies seem empty because they can’t really be sorry if they keep doing it. If your soul mate has lied repeatedly, the same holds true, you can’t believe a word they say. If your soulmate has cheated on you, the trust went out the window. What can you do at this point? Can you ever get trust back into a soul mate relationship like this?
Yes you can. We have seen it happen. It doesn’t happen by magic, and it doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen. Both parties have to be committed to working on the trust problem. Both soulmates have to agree to work on it long-term, and have an understanding of how fragile the relationship is right now. You must be realistic and realize it is going to take time to rebuild lost trust. One soulmate can’t do it alone, it will take both of you working together.
A good idea would be to get together and talk about where the trust was broken. Don’t rehash and argue, just point out the areas that led to the destruction of the trust. Then take some time to listen to the person whose trust was violated. Don’t make promises right now. They have heard promises before and don’t believe them especially from someone who has broken them over and over again. After they have talked, the other soulmate needs to understand these are serious issues. If they do not address them and make changes, this relationship will go from dysfunctional to volatile (if it hasn’t already) and stands a good chance of ending.
The best thing to do is to write a contract, together. All behaviors that need to changes should be listed on this contract. Both parties have to agree and express what they each need. This needs to be about trust, leave all other issues out for now. The focus needs to remain on rebuilding the trust. Once the list is compiled, each should take a copy and read it over themselves. Then each of you should initial each item showing that you understand and agree. The time for questions or clarity would be now, not later. Each of you gets a copy and agree going forward this is a new start, and the past is gone, and forgotten. This can help the two of you start fresh and begin to trust one another again.