If we focus on our soulmates lessons more than our own when we’re in soulmate relationships. It’s easier to focus on someone else’s behaviors and short comings. Because then we don’t have to focus on our own. That’s not how soulmate relationships work. When we focus on our soulmate’s lessons we take attention off ourselves. And only focus on them. We wonder when they will call, when they will change, when will they leave their wife and when will they get their act together. All to get this soulmate relationship on the road.
DON’T FOCUS ON YOUR SOULMATES LESSONS, FOCUS ON YOURS
Take the focus off of them, and focus on yourself instead. Nothing will happen or change when you focus on your soulmate. And that’s because you fail to do all the things you’re supposed to be doing. We get calls all the time asking us questions like:
- When will my soulmate call?
- When will he be ready to commit?
- Why isn’t my soulmate talking to me?
- Why is my soulmate ignoring my repeated texts and phone calls?
- When will my soulmate change?
- What are my soulmates lessons in this relationship?
Calling right now may not be part of the divine plan. Communicating when YOU want them to may not be in the cards. It may be better to look at the reasons why you want, or feel your need, to talk. Is it because you’re feeling insecure and need that validation from your soulmate? Are you unhappy because you need that communication hit from them to feel better about yourself? Just because you want them to contact you doesn’t mean they will.
CHANGE HAPPENS IN THE QUIET TIME
The Universe may not want communication between the two of you right now. They may be trying to teach a valuable lesson before you can be together in a stronger, more defined relationship. Maybe they designed it this way so they start to make the changes they need. We know you want contact. But if that interferes with what’s occurring on a deeper level, you’re just wasting time. Which really means things could take longer in the long run.
Perhaps they need a period of disconnect and no communication to get their act together. So if there’s communication before changes are made, what’s the point? Would you rather keep communicating, just so you feel validated that they’re still there? You want them to make drastic changes, yet you are stuck on your fear and need a phone call? You have to decide which is more important to you. The phone call or the changes? Unfortunately, you will not be able to have it both ways.
If the universe needs them to release old behavior patterns why are you obsessing about contact? That may be what you want, but you shouldn’t. If you want change, don’t make it about you.The personal growth doesn’t include, nor is related to you. But it will make your relationship better in the long run. Your desperate pleas for communication may very well be interfering in the life lessons the Universe is trying to teach him. This is not about YOU. It is about HIM. But because you have not heard from him, you try to make it about you. And actually that is what you should be doing, but in a different way.
WHAT NEEDS TO CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE
When we have periods of disconnect from a soulmate it’s a good time to focus on ourselves. What are we missing? What should we be doing? Are you learning what you need to learn? If we have a tendency to be insecure, we can start working on building our own inner security system. Does your self esteem takes a hit when you don’t have consistent communication? If so address your own self esteem issues and work to improve it.
This being said, it is probably the very thing the Universe wants YOU to be working on anyway. This is probably the very reason you have the soulmate relationship in your life. He is playing his role as your soulmate and doing what he is supposed to be doing. But are you holding up your end of the bargain? Are you following up on your own soulmates lessons?
Stop worrying about when your soulmate will call you or spend time with you. There’s a real reason why communication between you is on hold. Instead of worrying about them, worry about what you’re doing. And not doing. Focus on what things in your need to be addressed so you can become a better, stronger person. Remember our soulmates mirror and reflect back to us the things within ourselves we need to work on. Focusing on your soulmates lessons will only keep you stuck.