Some Soulmate Connections Could be Bad for You

Some soulmate connections could be bad for you if you’re unable to discern the ones you need to avoid.

There’s a common misconception that all soulmate connections are good and that you’ll live happily ever after. Of course, it would be great if this were true. But unfortunately this is not the case.

On the other hand, soulmate connections teach us things about ourselves and present opportunities for spiritual and personal growth. Like everything else, there is a good side and a bad side to soulmate connections.

EXAMPLES OF SOULMATE CONNECTIONS THAT ARE BAD FOR YOU

If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who is overbearing, rude, abusive, disrespectful and unwilling to change, you could are in a bad soulmate connection. They’re using the  spiritual connection between you in a disrespectful manner. And that’s both to you and the connection. 

In the beginning of a soulmate relationship things are almost always great. After the first few months, if their behavior changed for the worse, it might be time to assess this relationship.

How does this relationship make you feel? Do you feel you’ve given away your power in this relationship? Have you been hanging in there because of how great things were in the beginning? Is your soulmate unwilling to discuss this and make the changes needed to improve your relationship?

Answering yes to any of those questions means your soulmate relationship is not on the right track. When one partner sabotages the relationship with bad behavior, action must be taken. Letting things slide out of fear of a soulmate leaving is ridiculous. You are ensuring, by doing nothing, they will break up with you at some point.

FALSE SOULMATES

Another example of soulmate connections that are problematic is false soulmates. You may feel you have a soulmate connection to someone but they honestly don’t feel the same for you.

When you feel a soulmate connection to someone who does not reciprocate, you’re trying to turn the relationship into something more than what it really is. You may both feel a very strong, intense connection to each other, especially sexually. This does not always indicate it is a true soulmate relationship.

If you’re not both in agreement that this is a true soulmate connection, you might end up really hurt from having unrealistic expectations from this relationship. If he or she views your relationship as nothing more than a booty call, you could very well be stuck in a bad situation.

Amazing chemistry can mimic soulmate connections, but they are not the same. There are also those out there that love bomb you right away and everything seems so perfect. The truth is, a false soulmate is setting you up. It’s a horrible thing to do to someone, yet it happens every day. Narcissists do this all the time. But not only narcissists use love bombing to reel victims in.

THEY ARE ALREADY MARRIED

Another instance of soulmate connections that can be bad for you is when your soulmate is married to someone else. Your married soulmate may tell you  they will end their marriage when in reality they have no intention of divorce. Even though the connection is so intense, especially sexually, they may be reluctant to leave their spouse.

It’s not that they don’t love you or see you as a soulmate partner. They’re just not willing to drastically change their life, especially if they don’t have to. Unless you’re comfortable being someone’s secret affair, or willing to be considered second fiddle, this particular soulmate connection could be bad for you.

Like we said earlier, there is a good and bad side to everything. The dark side of a soulmate connection leads to obsession.  Whenever you meet a soulmate it’s normal to want to spend as much time with them as you can. This is totally understandable.

But if  you spend so much time with your soulmate, thinking about them, planning dates and fantasizing about your future, and everything else in your life suffers, this is really not healthy for you. Likewise, if your soulmate partner insists you spend all your free time with them, and drop your family and friends, that is not normal. That is controlling behavior, more than likely stemming from insecurity.

We are not saying that these soulmate connections could ruin your life. We would like you to consider how your soulmate relationship is affecting you and the rest of your life. If you are feeling harmonious in your day-to-day life, all is well. But if you are questioning or wondering if something is wrong, you may want to reassess the relationship.

It’s also important to consider that perhaps bad soulmate connections are not soulmate relationships at all.

They could be karmic relationships that you allow yourself to believe is a soulmate relationship. Karmic relationships, as well as soulmate relationships, are in your life to cause you to evaluate an aspect of your life or your relationship, that needs addressing and probably modifying.   Karmic relationships have a tendency to highlight the areas of our lives that need work allowing us to have personal and often spiritual transformation. After all, that is why we are all here.